I am sorry I am new here.. so if I do something wrong please excuse me...

Lately I have been really confused about girls... well about this girl... we have know each other for like almost 2 years now... thought school... she really great and fun to be with... it just lately she seem really into me.. like always hugs me and hold on me really tight... lol.. even kissed me when I wasn't pay attention... so I started to like her...

But about a week ago or so... she seem like on and off with me... it not like we dating or anything.. but just like whenever we see each other in school she always jump on me and stuff... but lol.. she just like on and off... it like she saw me in the hallway and just walked off.. or just like " hi " "bye"... but then later that day... she like all over me again... and it keep happening...

So my question is... " is she playing hard to get " "does she like me ?"

And like after if I know her that she play hard to get... shoud I play along with her or should I just play it cool ?

Sorry for all the question guy?. this pretty much will be my second relatiionship since when I born lol... I just been date a lot but never go on relationship b.c of all the drama jealousy and fighting... so I really confused about this...

STEVEN

Excuse for my english and stuff...

P.S : I am 18 asian and she is 17 blonde... :D

It sounds to me like she does like you and that she is playing hard to get. How about asking her out on a date?

It seems as though she really likes you and is trying so hard to show you that but still trying to play hard to get. I agree with Clough, you should ask her to go out on a date, the worse thing that could happen is that she'll say let's just stick to being friends, but at least then you'll know.
Goodluck!

Hey sounds like she likes you and maybe you should ask her out on a date and see how it goes?

You thanks a lot guys... I'll try to ask her out... soon... but I just want to know.. how do you know when a girl play hard to get?.



STEVEN

From my experience, it sounds like she is by the way that you describe her actions in your first post here. It sounds like she wants you to "chase" her. She is teasing and flirting with you. That is one way that you tell if a girl is playing hard to get. You could also ask her about this stuff when you take her out on a date.

I think that she likes you and she was flirting with you but if you don't show ask you will never know. The fact that she is starting to distance herself is possibly that she is trying to tell you she likes you and doesn't feel that you are receptive of this.

The fact that she is starting to distance herself is possibly that she is trying to tell you she likes you and doesn't feel that you are receptive of this.

That could very well be true. Excellent thought! Time for Simple Asian to make his move as far as going forward with the relationship.

I totally agree with UnAnaray, she is being distant to make sure and to see if you share the same feelings towards her. Its like she's playing a game, she gave you signs she likes you, now are you going to be smart enough to do something about it? Goodluck, and I recommed you make the move fast before she gives up hope!

I am going to ask her out for the movie this chrismast hope she will say yes... lol... to tell the true I am still scared of rejection.. not that b.c of anything.. just that I scared after that she will leave me and like feeling all akward and not talk to me (if she doesn't like me I mean )

Originally Posted by Simple Asian
I am going to ask her out for the movie this chrismast hope she will say yes... lol... to tell the true I am still scared of rejection.. not that b.c of anything.. just that I scared after that she will leave me and like feeling all akward and not talk to me (if she doesn't like me I mean )


Hello, Steven!

Whether she says "yes" or "no," at least you will know that you have tried. It takes lots of practice asking people out to get good at it. You know that you will have gained nothing if you don't ask her out. You stand the potential to gain not only her friendship but also someone with whom the potential might be for you to be together as a couple. If she does say "no," then you will just have to accept that. When I was dating, I was rejected a number of times. It also takes practice learning how to deal with rejection.

I do think that it is more likely than not, that she is going to agree to go out with you. Please let us know what happens in that regard. Thank you!

i am gonna ask her out for the movie this chrismast hope she will say yes...lol...to tell the true i am still scared of rejection ..not that b.c of anything ..just that i scared after that she will leave me and like feeling all akward and not talk to me (if she doesnt like me i mean )
Let's try to be positive and hope she says yes. If not, try to truly show her that you don't mind, and you'd rather be friends with her than nothing at all. And don't just show her that, feel it as well; because if she really is a great person to be with, then I guess you'd be willing to spend time with her as 'just friends' than nothing at all. And as Clough said before me, it takes practice to get it right, so there's no problem if she says no, you'll learn something so in the next times you'll get a yes instead.
I truly hope everything works out all right, please let us know what happens!
Goodluck!

WEll.. pretty much today is the sucky-ish day every... as everyone saying GIrls are the most complicated and confused thing in the world.. is right... hand down...

as I with all the high hope I have I asked her out and I even before that gave her a x-mas card saying "gonna be apart this x-mas just made me reallized how much i gonna miss you and love you ".. after she read the card she was about to cry... and I ask her " there nothing i want for christmas but you so will you be my christmas ? "

and she like shock... quite for like 2 minutes X_X... then "i am sorry Steve...i see you as a brother ..the one i love so much "


BS all the way ;... why didn't I stick with just dating and have to ask for a relationship.. . ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...


sorry guys for making you guys helping me and all but now I F****d everything up...

I'm sorry to hear she doesn't share the same feelings. But I hope, after some time of course, you can try to accept the fact and tell her (if you mean it and feel like it) that you'd rather be her "brother" than nothing at all. And the right girl will come along, she might even be across the corner, you never know. Don't stay in your misery too long though, stick to being friends with this girl, she seems really nice.

It OK you have nothing to be sorry about...

I am trying to accpeted the fact but you know it just not easy and stuff..

And I don't want to lose a great friend like her you no.. when pplz tense to know tat someone like them but they don't have the feeling back?. they have this akward feeling and like trying to avoding them and not talking to them and stuff...

I willing to be friend with her and stuff... just... ahhhhhhhhhh

It just needs time. Your willing to be a friend, let her know, and see if she can as well. The awkwardness won't last long though.
Goodluck!

it just feel sux to be alone and don't do anything during x-mas... new year... and stuff

Do you have family with whom you can spend time?

you u got a point there... I have family and friends... sometime it all you need... ^^

but as I am saying I want to... u know to have someone I like/love spending x-mas time with...

it just feel weird

Feel your pain, females don't make life easy for a young guy, but don't worry, look around and see all the options you haven't tried. Don't let fear, or the actual rejection, stop you from finding what you want elsewhere.

You I heard you man.. thanks a lot... I am 18 and still have a lot to learn huh ?

How was your Christmas, Simple Asian?

It's been some time since I've last posted, how have you been Simple Asian?

lol.. thanks for all the help ^^...

To Clough and Silent...

my x-mas was sux... X_X... been rejected before christmas was already a pain.. but I planned to go hang out and have fun with friends during christmas so I can forget things...

but for anyone that live in COlorado... u know that we had a big butt white christmas.. it snow all day and we stuck in the house with family >>..

to tell u I am not really a family guy.. lol... and no phone call or texting from anyone... I felt lonely...

sorry to be all whiny about it... it just ahhhhhhhhhhh pretty sad lol...

how about u guys ?

lol..thanks for all the help ^^...

To Clough and Silent....

my x-mas was sux.....X_X.......been rejected before christmas was already a pain..but i planned to go hang out and have fun with friends during christmas so i can forget things...

but for anyone that live in COlorado ...u know that we had a big butt white christmas..it snow all day and we stuck in the house with family >>..

to tell u i am not really a family guy ..lol....and no phone call or texting from anyone ....i felt lonely ....

sorry to be all whiny about it ....it just ahhhhhhhhhhh pretty sad lol.......

how about u guys ?
Well I guess the same thing happened to me. I was supposed to go out to a cool party with my friends but something happened and it got cancelled. So I spent it at home, with my family. One thing I am afraid of is that I've got a big exam coming up and I can't seem to get myself to study! :(

Oh you pretty much it the same thing happening to me,. got to have final after get back from vacations.. and then one more semester... college here I come..

lol..thanks for all the help ^^...

To Clough and Silent....

my x-mas was sux.....X_X.......been rejected before christmas was already a pain..but i planned to go hang out and have fun with friends during christmas so i can forget things...

but for anyone that live in COlorado ...u know that we had a big butt white christmas..it snow all day and we stuck in the house with family >>..

to tell u i am not really a family guy ..lol....and no phone call or texting from anyone ....i felt lonely ....

sorry to be all whiny about it ....it just ahhhhhhhhhhh pretty sad lol.......

how about u guys ?

My Christmas was fine! Spent it with my daughter who is here from California. I was supposed to have the neighborhood Christmas Party at my home the Saturday before Christmas. Had to call people on that day and cancel/postpone it because of the weather. Am planning to have the party at my home this coming weekend.

oh ya pretty much it the same thing happening to me,...got to have final after get back from vacations ..and then one more semester....college here i come ..

You're going to have many more prospects for relationships once you get to college and also be more likely to find someone who is really into the same things that you are because of people taking certain classes because they might be majoring in the same or similar subject.

You're going to have many more prospects for relationships once you get to college and also be more likely to find someone who is really into the same things that you are because of people taking certain classes because they might be majoring in the same or similar subject.


Very true to that and thanks a lot... I recently found myself still very young and have a lot to learn... lol... wat was I thinking that I turned 18 and think I am all legal and an adlut... but not really..

But one thing for sure... girls are a big mystery and us guys are going to be the pplz that going to solve it... lol

Have you got an idea as to what you would like to concentrate on for a major in college?

not a clue.. X_X... hahaha as a senior in high school... up until now I still have no clue...

been the past two years I have been thinking a lot.. but I couldn't figure out what to major in college... school couseler and me dissuses about pilot but the fly time money cost and go out state is not really a thing I want...

but I don't want to study chemistry or biology.. so no doctor or whatever... lol... so I don't really no

What are some things in which you are especially interested in now... other than girls? LOL! :p

lol... hahahahaha... you got me there... girls are interesting.. but trouble.. lol

I have no interesting in anything.. I go around.. lol... I play pretty much all kind of sports and just having fun... dont have a job.. not that I don't want to.. X_X... asian parents T_T... ahhhhh they like... " you need money ? we will give you ..just concentrated in school..and be good ...." you no.. so I have no experiment in any kind of job.. so I can't like try thing that I want to try.. lol...

turn 19 in a month.. and don't know what to do in college... but I think I going to go to a community college.. you no to take some course classes and save money

lol...hahahahaha....you got me there ...girls are interesting ..but trouble ..lol

i have no interesting in anything ..i go around ..lol...i play pretty much all kind of sports and just having fun......dont have a job..not that i dont want to ..X_X...asian parents T_T ...ahhhhh they like ..." you need money ? we will give you ..just concentrated in school..and be good ...." you no ..so i have no experiment in any kind of job ..so i can't like try thing that i want to try ..lol...

turn 19 in a month ..and dont know what to do in college...but i think i gonna go to a community college ..you no to take some course classes and save money

You do know that a girl, or rather, young woman, is going to be more interested in a guy who has some direction and purpose in life. Correct? I'm not getting on your case here, but just trying to help you.

Lol... don't worried, NONE TAKEN

I no I no... it just that I still imature... or should I put it as.. some part of me still want to be in high school..,. dont want to grow up and taking responsibility yet...

..some part of me still want to be in high school.,..dont want to grow up and taking responsibility yet.......

Some of us still don't want to grow up, no matter what age we are. :) Me included! :p But, sooner rather later, it is time to learn how to take charge and deal with the responsibilities of being an adult. It's really a "war zone" out there in the "real" world when we are not under the shelter of our parent's wings!

What are the courses that you are presently taking in high school? I'm trying to get a feel for how we can go with some direction for you.

lol... very true...

but you no ? It just have that feeling that inside you like " you dont want to grow up..you dont want to ....you having the best time of your life ...why grow up ,,? " lol... it just really get to me

me in school taking classes is one word... crazy... T_T>..

in COLORADO state... we have 7 classes and a lunch... and in my school... students only need to take 3 courses classes... 2 electives... but I have to take 7 classes and one lunch (I am not saying anything about asian parents... but they want their child to be you no.. perfect X_X...

1AP PHYSIC (I am not having fun in this class )
2/AP CAL ( yeah college course)
3/AP ENGLISH ( lol... I just came to this country 3 years ago... speak no english back then )
4/AMERICAN LIT (another English class )
5/AP CHEMISTRY ( which I don't like at all )
6/US GOVT/ ECONOMIC (supposed to take this last year but didn't have time)
7/GYM ( hahahaha finally I can relax)
8/and LUNCH ( but I have to be the translator for Vietnamese/Chinese parents visitor or new student that immagrant here )

4 College Courses... 2 main classes in high school.. and a gym,. lol
so I am packed T_T

A translator? Cool! :) That's something that you could put on a resume now and also later!

Are there any classes that you feel you do better in than others?

Yeah, I do know about the perfectionist attitudes and sometimes competitiveness of people from certain cultures that does happen. :)

Some Americans can also have perfectionist attitudes and also be competitive. Some cultures just seem to be a little more that way than others, though.

Lol... yeah I enjoy being a translator... it just really fun...

Uhm... I have all As in all the classes... these classes are hard... but I just pay attention and took notes... and trying to go thought hw.. so they all kind of the same...

Sometime... I just want you no.. take all the classes off.. and just have like one or two fun classes... and lunch.. so I can have more time to hang out with friends and having fun.. instand of doing hw during lunchs and home..

Steven, we really need to get you going in some sort of positive direction here. I do understand that your classes are hard. And, what you are taking and if you are doing well in them is going to get you off to a great start in college!

Is there any one class that might appeal to you more than the others?

In how many languages do you feel that you might be fluent?

If you are a translator and, depending on how many languages that you know and can learn, being a translator in a number of languages can maybe be a possibility for a really bright future for you as far as a career! :)

Translator?. why I never thought of that ?

I speak 3 langues... Vietnamese/ CHinese( cantonese) / English... and trying to learn spanish now (second years )...

Yeah I am positive. . dont worried. . I don't getting emotional... it just I want some more time to do something else.. I like/love to do instand of studying...

Translator ? ..why i never thought of that ?

i speak 3 langues.... Vietnamese/ CHinese( cantonese) / English ...and trying to learn spanish now (second years )........

yeah i am positive. .dont worried. .i dont getting emotional...it just i want some more time to do something else ..i like/love to do instand of studying ...

Three languages? :confused: :D Now, that's even cooler! Awesome! :) This is like a book opening up about you, Steven!

There are tons of jobs out there for translators! Please see the following search. Jobs for Translators - Google Search (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&safe=off&q=Jobs+for+Translators) You might even be able to start at a job now as a translator without going to college first. Although, I do encourage you to still get a college education.

I am still looking for an answer to the following question. Thank you!

"Is there any one class that might appeal to you more than the others?"

Lol.. it actually 4 languages.. if you consider mandaran( an other chinese languages) then I have 4 languages...

Lol... thanks a lot... it really great... but what kind of study do you have to go thought to become a translator if you have any idea by any chances ?

I am a nerd so I really into MATH and PHYSIC... but the most enjoyable thing I do in school.. is gym... everything about gym.like working out... playing sport.. running... I really enjoy doing it...

I was thinking about major in some kind of sports or a personal trainer... but whatever have to do with sports... it mean like you no... pro stuff.. and I am not really into that

And personal trainer income is not that good to supposed the family or anything.. so I didn't put a lot of thought in those things

I don't know of anyone who doesn't like to play some kind of sports type game. We all like to relax and have fun!

But for you, I don't think that you should consider going into something in sports for a career unless you just excel so much above others in it, that it would be obvious that you should consider doing such a thing.

It's obvious right now that you already excel at a number of languages. Wouldn't you agree?

Let me give the educational requirements for someone going into a career as a professional translator some thought. Okay?

Just think what a boon it would be for students who are also really good at math and physics who don't necessarily know the language in which it is being taught. You could be hired to be their translator!

True that why I don't think I am going to major in any kind of sports...

To tell you the true.. what you said above is so right... when I came here.. I was a freshman in high school... speaking no english.. no friends and don't know a thing in this country... was a really scary thing... but lucky I have my friends and they you no translating things for me.. help me thought the days...

And to tell you.. when I was in my country.. I already learning everything about AP PHYSIC>>MATH etc... it just that I couldn't understand the english that make me stuck back and starting all over again...

I know and, I understand. I know that you understand, also.

Just for fun and to take a break here, would you mind typing some simple sentences in the languages that you know and also translating them, if that is possible, depending on the characters?

What do you think? I think that it would be cool! I'd like to see what you can do. Okay?

Just a thought... If you were to be a translator, just think about the people, not just men, but the women that you would be able to meet! :)

lol... ya I can do that...

it is not possible to do it in chinese (cartonese/mandaran) b.c they not using the same (damn what they call that... ) the alphabe? Lol... I bet you seen chinese before so you no how the shape and how it goes... so I couldn't be written on the computer...

but I can try... like something simple in chinese .like "I LOVE YOU" you can say it in cartonnese like " ngo oai lee" or in mandaran as " wo3 ai4 ni3" lol it sound so funny in english and it written like this in both the languages I speak in chinese
http://i60.photobucket.com/albums/h10/alienboy_911/iloveyou.gif


and vietnamese... it much more simple-er.. b.c we using alphabe also... just don't have Z.. J.. W letters...

Chúc Mừng Giáng Sinh = Merry Chrirstmas...

Okay. That was FAST! Wow! Thanks!

Why do you say Cartonese rather than Cantonese? I do note that Cartonese is something that is listed on the Internet.

Chinese is written in what are called "characters."

My bad.. sorry about my english...

I still learning and improving my english in.. speaking writing and reading

.. I am you can call a vietnamese... I was born in vietnam.. rise in vietnam.. and live there till I was 15 but both of my parents/family are chinese immagrant to vietnam.. so I learned all my cartonese and mandaran at home... just talking with my family... so I just no how to speak in chinese but don't no how to write nor read... but with vietnamese... I am perfect in those

And also trying to perfect my english.. lol.. hate that when my friends making fun of my accent... and spanish is a pain in the butt T_T lol

How about you?. been talking a lot about me but nothing about you?. care to share ?

my bad ..sorry about my english...
how about you ? ...been talking alot about me but nothing about ya ? ...care to share ?

Sure! No problem sharing! I have been a teacher for a long time, Steven. That is part of the reason that I ask so many question and also try to help people. For a little more about me, please visit my profile on the following link. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/clough.html

Please let me know when you are finished reading it.

Philosophy About Life

A good part of what life is about is making choices, dealing with the cards that one has been dealt and also weighing the costs as compared to the benefits concerning the choices that we make.


I like what you saying... wow... you have a lot of thing going on... huh?. I guess I just open my eyes once again that I still have a lot to learn and a lot to go thought...

Did you read my whole profile?

you I did... where do you think I steal the philosophy about life from ? ^^... lol

just one question.. dont feel offence... gender?.

and by reading your profile.. I just want to no.. beign an adult... is that really a big thing?.

You could have scanned my profile and just zipped down to the bottom of it to copy and paste my philosophy of life. :) ;)

Although, I do believe that you did read the whole thing because I am finding out that you are a real quick study as far as learning is concerned! :p And, I'm finding it to be very enjoyable communicating with you!

In answer to your question about gender, I am a man.

I'm not sure what you mean by "i just want to no ..beign an adult.......is that really a big thing ?..."

Please explain. Thank you!

Lol... I do scan a bit.. sorry.. but I did gone back and read it all over again.. and believe me it didn't take me that long to read the whole thing..

Lol.. as I am saying.. after I read everything you wrote... I felt like I know no things about this world.. about the real world.. the adult world... the world that I going to and soon will be taking a part in... and the responsibility is just overwhelming me... I just don't think I am up to it yet... becoming an adult...

Would you tell me what to expect when you becoming an adult...

b.c I am going to turn 19 in a month and going off to college isn't making this easy

Thank you for being honest with me! :p

As far as being an adult with where you are in your life right now and also going to college, you are still under the "wings" of your parents. That will continue for awhile...

You need to be preparing yourself for when you do need to be making it on your own. The time now in your life is when you need to be doing that. This is your practice time. You need to be giving that serious consideration right now as well as acting on the possibility that you will need to take care of yourself in the future. You might have people to help you with things, but there may be times when you are going to have to rely on what you know and how to solve the problems that you will encounter in your life as an adult.

Both of my parents have long since died. I don't have them for any support in this world anymore.

What would you do if your parents were suddenly gone tomorrow? It's hard to imagine, isn't it? Most likely, they won't be gone tomorrow. But, you need to be preparing for the possibility that you might not have them for support. It could actually be, that you will need to be the one that is supporting them!

You are just starting in your life as an adult. I and others are more than willing to guide you how to go about leaving the "nest" and making it on your own.

Are you into the arts at all, such as art, music or drama?

Yeah... to tell you the true... college is a place that I think going to be tought.. just like when I first came here... knowing nothing... and if you no how I feel it really hard... and rough...

I am sorry to hear about your parents...

But trust me... "the suddenly gone tomorrow"... I have been there last summer... a normal day after get back from school... seeing all my brother and dad all home at 3 afternoon ? Is not a good sight... first words I heard... your mom is in hospital due to a stroke... I was so frustrated... rush up to the hospital... see her... and doctor all like.. sorry... we will try our best.. but she only have 50% chance of live... so be prepare..

And to tell you.. the surgary gone 7 hours straight... to tell you.. I was like O.O' T_T... you no what was I thinking the whole time.. What would I do without her.. what wouldn't I do without her?. she is the woman of the house.. the only woman of the house with 8 other men .father... brothers... me...

And most importantly I was thinking about the last things I said to her.. was the night before that happened.. she was OK... fine.. and even yell at me like " steven it late go to sleep you have school 2morrow ..." lol.. you no what I say to her " MOM go to sleep ..ahhh you so anoying ..."... you no.. I was killing myself out there that 7 hours... like why would I said such words... to her and that the last things I said to her?. the last things was you so anoying mom?.

But luckily she is OK... she alive... but handicap now


Sorry.. about it.. I just kind of went out

I'm sorry that your mother now is handicapped. But, you know, it's just something that you have to deal with. Life goes on... I am sure that you will be there as best that you can for her. I hope that she is okay, now.

Thank you for being honest and sharing with me! That is what we look for on this site!

From me, "The best students are not those that just do as they have been taught, but also, continue to teach themselves based upon the way that they have been shown to teach themselves." "A teacher is someone who ignites the spark for someone to teach themselves."

All of our lives, we learn. A big part of what any schooling is about, is to teach us how to learn. We are never through. I'm going to repeat that, "We are never through." I learned that from my seventh grade English teacher. It is the only thing that I remember him saying. But, it has stuck with me through the years. What it means is that we are never through learning.

Are you into the arts at all, such as art, music or drama?

How many brothers and/or sisters do you have?

I do look forward to having further dialogue with you, Steven!

If u like her and she like u just ask her out don't be dumb and make a mistake

if u like her and she like u just ask her out dont be dumb and make a mistake

It's a good idea to read through the replies first that have already been posted on a thread before posting a response yourself.

If you had done that, you would have known that he has already asked her out. It's okay though. It takes awhile to get used to how to use this site.

Lol... thanks max52989... I had already asked her out.. but unfortunately... she just treated me as a big brother... but thanks anyway

I'm sorry that your mother now is handicapped. But, you know, it's just something that you have to deal with. Life goes on... I am sure that you will be there as best that you can for her. I hope that she is okay, now.

Thank you for being honest and sharing with me! That is what we look for on this site!

From me, "The best students are not those that just do as they have been taught, but also, continue to teach themselves based upon the way that they have been shown to teach themselves." "A teacher is someone who ignites the spark for someone to teach themselves."

All of our lives, we learn. A big part of what any schooling is about, is to teach us how to learn. We are never through. I'm going to repeat that, "We are never through." I learned that from my seventh grade English teacher. It is the only thing that I remember him saying. But, it has stuck with me through the years. What it means is that we are never through learning.

Are you into the arts at all, such as art, music or drama?

How many brothers and/or sisters do you have?


thanks.. my mom incident was and still the biggest fear that I am facing right now.. but it good that she still alive and thanks for being care...

uhm.. to tell you the true /... I am not a guy that into art musicor drama... at all.. sorry.. it just that I don't find those things fit me ^^

I have 4 brothers 1 sister.. I am the youngest out of 6

thanks .. my mom incident was and still the biggest fear that i am facing right now ..but it good that she still alive and thanks for being care...

uhm..to tell you the true /.... i am not a guy that into art music or drama...at all ..sorry ..it just that i dont find those things fit me ^^

i have 4 brothers 1 sister..i am the youngest out of 6

It's okay. I was just trying to find out some of the other interests that you might have.

Wow! Four brothers and one sister? Big family! What are there ages, please? I have one brother who is seven years older than me. I had a sister who I never knew who would have been the oldest of my siblings. She only lived for twenty-four hours.

lol...thanks max52989... i had already asked her out ..but unfortunately ...she just treated me as a big brother....but thanks anyway

That was very nice of you to say that! :)

I am the youngest and turning 19 next month... biggest brother ? Around 36 then second sis 32... bro ,bro , bro 30 28 26 and me 19 hahahaha my parents are 61 and 63

it a big family allright... but it fun and enjoyable... lol.. sometime they can be a pain in the butt but it all the reason of a family right ? ^^

Thanks for the answer!

So, your parents had you when they were in their 40's. So did mine. If my parents were living now, they would be in their 90's!

I am glad that you find your family to be fun and enjoyable! That is not always the case with many families.

Is there one of your brothers whom you might look up to more than the others? I mean, is there one of them that you might want to be like?

You... my family really fun and I love them all...

Uhm... I can't say I like any brother of my more than the other.. they all the same to me.. and I look up to them all equally... with respect...

and i look up to them all equally...with respect .....

That is honorable. But, what I was meaning was, is there one of them whom you would like to do the same things that he does? Like, someone who you could use as an example for the way that you might also do things in your life?

Lol.. to tell you the true.. they all doing in a same restaurant that my father bought for them... it a family bussinuess lol...

Chief... waiter... phone call.. delivery... cleaning..

Lol.. sadly I am not into family bussinuess

It's definitely okay not to be interested in or liking the same type of business your family might be doing. Does anyone in your family hold it against you because you might not be interested in the same things that the rest of your family is?

No not at all.. lol.. they like do whatever you do as long as you like it and it legal.. lol... but better study

Do you find it really easy to learn other languages?

No not really... you have to take time and practices... to learn anything...

But if you willing to learn it.. then there nothing that hard...

That's true! If someone is willing to spend the time to learn something, then they can do it! For some people, it may be harder to learn how to do one thing than another thing. But, basically, we can all learn how to do the same things. It's just that some of us might have a predisposition (ability, talent) to learn some things more easily and better than other things.

Hopefully, by continued dialogue and finding out more about who you are Steven, we will get into dialogue concerning what you might do about finding and dating women in whom you might be interested. That's a big part of why I have been asking you questions and having this dialogue with you. I just wanted you to know that.

I am looking forward to continued dialogue with you at some point in the future. It's been fun, so far! I have enjoyed it and I hope that you have too!

To Simple Asian and Clough,
I read everything today and I thought it was really cool and interesting. The things Clough said are very true about some people that try really hard and others are gifted with great talent. Simple Asian you may have a talent, use it!
I fell out of my place here, so is it all right if I bring myself back in and participate in this "dialogue" ? ;)

To Simple Asian and Clough,
I read everything today and I thought it was really cool and interesting. The things Clough said are very true about some people that try really hard and others are gifted with great talent. Simple Asian you may have a talent, use it!
I fell out of my place here, so is it alright if I bring myself back in and participate in this "dialogue" ? ;)

Thank you! And, by all means, please do just chime in here! Nothing exclusive about this thread! :)

To Simple Asian and Clough,
I read everything today and I thought it was really cool and interesting. The things Clough said are very true about some people that try really hard and others are gifted with great talent. Simple Asian you may have a talent, use it!
I fell out of my place here, so is it alright if I bring myself back in and participate in this "dialogue" ? ;)

lol... you more than welcome to join us here... as a matter of fact.. the more pplz the better isn't it ? ^^

Hopefully, by continued dialogue and finding out more about who you are Steven, we will get into dialogue concerning what you might do about finding and dating women in whom you might be interested. That's a big part of why I have been asking you questions and having this dialogue with you. I just wanted you to know that.

I am looking forward to continued dialogue with you at some point in the future. It's been fun, so far! I have enjoyed it and I hope that you have too!


True... thanks a lot for comunicating with me the whole time... I have been pretty bored the last couple days... and today is new years eve... and trust me... I have no party T_T...

I just logged in right now to say "Hi!" to you Steven because I got an email letting me know that you had posted. I don't have time to do things right now on the site. But, I will be here later tonight around 10:00 P.M. Central Time. Am looking forward to continued dialogue with you!

lol.. I don't really no what central time of 10 P.M... but that I do hope that I around 9 or 10 in Colorado... but that means I am away... at a party of my friends... sorry.. but I do hope and wish you a happy new year... ^^

Uhm... problem... Clough...

I just recently find out how nice guy can't get girls in a hard way.. lol.. well not like get rejected again hard way.. but reading it on the internet... and it made me feel stupid for being a nice guy for so long lol..

But anyway back to the problem...

As far as I no.. can't be nice guy,, but you can be a good guy... it just the same as a nice guys.. but without being so insercure... and putting the girls on top of everything like "oh you are the source of my happiness" " oh i can't lose you i am gonna die "

So that means I have to be a nice guy but don't be too nice... treat pplz nice and everything.. always be there for them but not every time... just the right time .

.and listen to what they say..,. but you are the man to give comand don't ever tell her what she want.. you the one making the choise... and don't treat her like queens.. treat her like other pplz..

Still care about her but not over caring.. still love her but not over loving... still be there for her but not all the time .you have life too... go do your things... and never call her too much and saying like I so love you miss you and I want to see you.. give her space .let her miss you and let her say it


But one thing I want to no is... should I be you no be there too care and listen and show my nice guy site to everyone... you no... to the girls.. that I might like later on.. or just some girls... just girls.. so that the girls won't being like oh he is a nice guy... but still want to date me ?


Sorry for such long story.. just need to be out

Hello, Steven!

I am here right now. Just checking some things and making sure that the areas that I moderate on this site are okay for now. But, I don't know that I am good for very much since it is very late where I am right now. (4:17 A.M.) Sorry that I wasn't on last night when I said I would be. Had a major snow storm here. Had things to deal with concerning that.

Am currently getting ready for a party at my home on this Friday for neighbors and friends. If you were around here, I would invite you! Had to cancel the one right before Christmas because of the weather.

Actually, you can get girls being a nice guy. You just have to shop around. Sorry to put it that way. But, it's true!

Sorry about the stuff.. it suck.. where you live ? >..

It OK.. I am and will always be a nice guy don't worried.. it just that I want to change a little bit.. you no to get myself out there and not being the guy that like.. hey he is a nice guy... you no

You said it before, just be a good guy, above all be yourself, and let yourself GROW as you LEARN.

You you you... I am in a relationship... hahahaha I going to try to make it interesting

ya ya ya....i am in a relationship...................................hah ahaha i gonna try to make it interesting

Hey, that's good news Steven! I'm glad to hear that you are finally in a relationship! :)

:( you lol... to think about that I don't no if it really a good idea now:(

:( ya lol...to think about that i dont no if it really a good idea now:(

Are you saying that you don't know if it is a good idea for you to be in a relationship?

you... it just that my love life ? Lol... some pplz that I no asked me why I don't go out with anygirls?. lol... I do,, I dates them I just don't do relationship... cause when you date someone you just having fun with no agruing , fighting over stupid stuff,, jealousy... like when you in a relationship...

lol and you no.. I am not too cute myself =p... lol I actually thanks for that... b.c some of the girls nowaday always go after the look... so it turn out that I don't have the look is way better... b.c if they like me... that mean they like me b.c of me not b.c of my look ^^>.. so guys have confident and faith in yourself... look is not everything

If you are still in the relationship, Steven, I am wondering how it is going?

No.. I am not.. me and her kind of ended it after 3 days relationship... lol we both send each other a break up message... lol... at the same time... XD... so it cool..

How do you feel about that other than "so it cool?"

Actually... I don't really no how I feel.. I been trying to get myself busy.. so I wouldn't have time to think about her... and keep smile for no reason... and try to be happy so hard?. I don't no why

It sounds like you are doing the right things in order to not get down about it! That is good!

You I mean I like her and I still do... it just that I can't be in a relationship... I just dates somehow...

But it start to kick in now... ahhhhhhhhhh whatever.. just trying to hold it.. dont no how much longer though

I'm trying to remember how old you are. Is it 19?

Yup why ?

You still young and immature.. lol

Oops! Excuse me! Should have reviewed your post. Sorry!

I just wanted to recall correctly. There was someone who was in college who I had dialogged with awhile back. It gets kind of confusing sometimes here...

How is your mom, Steven?

You it deff sounds like she's playing hard to get... mayb she is giving you a sign to make the first move

ya it deff sounds like shes playing hard to get...mayb she is giving you a sign to make the first move
lol.. thanks... but sometime you should read the day of the post first before comment it,. ^^ it is a pretty old post... she was history ^^ but thanks anyway

I just wanted to recall correctly. There was someone who was in college who I had dialogged with awhile back. It gets kind of confusing sometimes here...

lol.. ok ? ^^

How is your mom, Steven?
she doing great... she and my dad is in vietnam now ^^.. they in a vacation also trying to find some kind of asian doctor to heal my mom for good


and is it normal to want your girlfriend back after you break up with them??

Originally Posted by Clough
How is your mom, Steven?




she doing great... she and my dad is in vietnam now ^^.. they in a vacation also trying to find some kind of asian doctor to heal my mom for good

and is it normal to want your girlfriend back after you break up with them??

I am glad that your mom is doing great! That is definitely good news! I do hope that they are successful in finding someone who can heal her for good! :)

Concerning girlfriends, sure it's normal to want your girlfriend back, especially if you really cared about her when you were together. I have had lots of girlfriends in my life. For one reason or another, things just didn't work out for us to be together. Would I want to be together with some of them now? You bet I would! However, it might not be the best choice on my part if I were to get together with one of them again in a close relationship because of various reasons.

However, people do tend to change in a lot of ways over time. Maybe things would work out for me with some of them. Don't really know... I just try to move forward and do the best that I can with the people that I have in my life right now.

Concerning girlfriends, sure it's normal to want your girlfriend back, especially if you really cared about her when you were together. I have had lots of girlfriends in my life. For one reason or another, things just didn't work out for us to be together. Would I want to be together with some of them now? You bet I would! However, it might not be the best choice on my part if I were to get together with one of them again in a close relationship because of various reasons.

However, people do tend to change in a lot of ways over time. Maybe things would work out for me with some of them. Don't really know... I just try to move forward and do the best that I can with the people that I have in my life right now


a good way to put it... lol... i don't really no why but it just weird oh well I'll try to forget it and move on... better off right ^^

Yes, you are better off moving on. Onward and upward, ever forward in good progress with your life!

How did your "date" go, Clough, Ive noticed you're a very intelligent person.. Keep that up.

Yes, you are better off moving on. Onward and upward, ever forward in good progress with your life!
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you but sometime lol.. it just like randomly stop by her myspace and check on her pix and sometime smile for no reason.. XD... why ?


How did your "date" go, Clough, Ive noticed you're a very intelligent person.. Keep that up.
my date?. wat date ?

Hello, Steven!

I am on this site right now, at least for a little while. I still have pictures of some of my sweethearts from the past. I do the same kind of reminiscing that you do!

Concerning the "date," evidently Roast has not read the rest of this thread and not realized that there has been a closure to that concerning you.

You... so it normal... well it just that I just been break up with her for like 4 days ? >.. and I had a date tonight.. lol just got back it was fun... was it right ? Or wrong ?

Was what right or wrong? If you mean going on a date with someone else, that would be no problem. You need to be exploring the possibilities of other persons with whom you might be the most compatible. I dated many people when I was your age.

I'm so glad that you had fun on your date! What did you do?

Well... I went on a date with this one girl... after broke up with my ex 4 days later... does it make me look bad and not respect the ex ? >..

And I just don't no CLOUGH>.. it just seem to me that I can't ben in a relationship it just can't I can't be in one.. I mean I date a lot.. but then the girls drop the Boyfriend word.. I just like "peace "

Am "uncloaking" right now Steven. I will be right back...

Not quite sure what you are meaning here, Steven.

Then just date and have fun. You don't need a relationship to be happy, and it's a load of fun to have different females you like, in your life.

TO Clough : well what I mean is just just kind of like a guy that want to date and no more than a relationship... but then sometime I like some girl.. but I just want to spend more time wit them but then they think that I am their boyfriend


And Tal... thanks lol.. I was thinking about that also