My boyfriend had a case of infidelity and after working hard on our relationship and counseling we decided to stay together. He hasn't cheated since or even tried to stray away but the female he cheated on me with is now claiming to be pregnant. He wants to sign away his parental rights because he doesn't want anything to do with her. I want him to take a paternity test. Is it right for him to sign away his rights? Please email me with any answers. I am struggling with this a lot and anything will help. [email protected]

You are right... if he is the father, he should be responsible for the child.

Even if the mother is a headcase... that's not the child's fault, and if he is the father, he should own up to it.

If he's not, then he should run away.

Point is, I think your position is reasonable and responsible. Unfortunately, you can't make him a better man than he wants to be.

What does that mean for you? Well... it might mean you are with a man who isn't willing to be responsible for his obligations... or that you are with a man who is being incorrectly "punished" as being a father when he is not...

I've always been of the opinion that its better to know the truth, to live in reality, than to pretend something that is easier.

So... your struggling with this, I think, is realistic. He should know. Avoiding the truth is no way to live. And that doesn't mean he is the father... it just means he's afraid to take responsibility. And that should bother you.

The best with making things work. As to the pregnancy, paternal testing is the way to go, and do the right thing if its his. Most places let you sign away rights, but not financial obligations. If they did there would be no one supporting their children. Sorry.