I got married a month ago and I'm having second thoughts my friend said in the military you have 9 months before the marriage in final is that true

No, you are married when judge or preacher says I do, also you don't marry into the military, you just marry someone that is in the milatary.

I am married to an ex military man. Chuck is right, when you get married, you're married right then, there's no waiting period after the wedding.

Of course after reading so many of these relationship posts we get here perhaps they should give a 3 year license that has to be renewed or something, maybe a learners permit.