View Full Version : I'm scared but yet I love her.
hoks
Dec 17, 2007, 10:49 AM
What do I do? I finally got together with my best friend after trying to get her for a long time and now that I have her I don't know what to do? I guess I am scared of getting my heart broken again because I am still messed up after me ex ended it with me. I love her and she's everything I ever needed and wanted but I am slowly pushing her away because of my own insecurities. I don't want to because she makes me feel whole my day is so mcuh better with her smile. I could do anything for and would. She's my light in the night. But I am so scared of that hurt and I don't want to lose her but also don't want to get my soul crushed again. Should I walk away so I won't get rejected or stay and tell her evrything?
CorrieNB
Dec 17, 2007, 10:53 AM
I think telling her how you feel Is the best thing to do be honest with her and she will understand you. I also think you should be ready for another relationship before jumping into one. Well best of luck to you I hope everything works out Merry Christmas
hoks
Dec 17, 2007, 11:00 AM
But I'm so afraid to tell her how I feel. I don't think I can handle rejection. I did thing I was ready for another relationship because my ex left me last year but suddenly she popped up in my life again and brought back those old feelings. I don't want to lose what little o have of my friend that was why I kept her as a friend for so long because I thought it was better to have a little of her instead of nothing at all.
CorrieNB
Dec 17, 2007, 12:08 PM
Friends first for sure maby you guys should remain friends and go back to you x how was that relationship?
talaniman
Dec 17, 2007, 12:10 PM
You have to many issues to be in a relationship, and if you are not honest with yourself then you can never be honest in your relationship. Be single and work on yourself, or you will bring misery and pain to all, even yourself. You are not in love, but you need someone to love you. You haven't even gotten over the first female, and this one is unavailable.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/too-late-now-lifes-hell-136991.html
The other post from October 2007
hoks
Dec 17, 2007, 03:30 PM
Whoa there I am in love trust me and no one can tell me otherwise. Its just I love her too much too hurt her. And the last relationship was a fast whirlwind
CorrieNB
Dec 17, 2007, 03:49 PM
Sometimes if you love some one you have to let them go. I know its hard but it would most likley be for the best. I wish you the best of luck, there is someone out there who will be perfect for you. You will find her or she will find you. It will happen when you are not looking for it. At least that's usaly how it works.
Fr_Chuck
Dec 17, 2007, 04:32 PM
IF you are not readly to be open and honest, you are not ready for a relastionship. If you are not compeltely over an ex, you don't need a current either, at least in a serious relastionship. Also what ever happened to just dating.
talaniman
Dec 17, 2007, 09:16 PM
Your scared of rejection, but will accept being friends just to have something, which is better than nothing according to you oh, and you don't won't to hurt her. Until you are very sure, and willing to take a chance, don't call it love.
hoks
Dec 18, 2007, 09:42 AM
What would you know how I feel? I thought about it and yes you are right if I'm not ready to take a chance then I shouldn't do this and I am over my ex but it's that hurt I'm afraid of but then again I only live once and I've decided to conquer my insecurities and take a chance and live life. I'm going to stop holding myself back and just love her and be with her all I can.
CorrieNB
Dec 18, 2007, 09:44 AM
Man you sound mad if that's the way you fell tell her Good luck
aracerati
Jan 5, 2011, 04:55 PM
I don't see the problems your already with her. Why do men do this? This is so hurtful. If we are with you , we love you too! I am a attractive strong women, I am confident honest and try to be a great human being. Guys get all shy and intimidated around me. And it hurts my feelings when they think I am going to hurt them, or when they compare me to what some whore did. No, we need love to! tell her how you feel she's will understand. Tell her how much you love her! What human being doesn't like to be loved?! Tell me!!