Crista
Dec 16, 2007, 10:42 PM
Hi there,
:rolleyes: I just joined! I'm a girl who is literally too sweet for her own good. I want people to like me and I instantly without thinking say yes when someone needs a favor or tell them I'll do something even though I know I can't. It's a sickness. It's the one thing I hate about myself, always worried about what that person thinks of me.
My question is about my work place. I don't know if I can trust anybody. I've been doubting my judgment a lot lately and I don't know who to trust anymore. I've gotten hurt or dug myself a hole too many times.
I recently gotten a job a few months back and I get along with everyone fine, I guess. I work causal when the full - time workers need some time off. Two women have gotten into some feud dealing with me for their time off. A lady that's been at the office for 13 years came to me first asking for three days off but she couldn't tell me specifically when, which I tell everyone to give me or I can't agree to it. She said she would get back to me. A second lady also came to me asking for days and overlapping the other woman's. This second lady gave me her exact days she wanted off. I than agreed to it, since the other lady didn't get back to me for a week. I take work when I can, I can't say no to one just because someone came to me first. I'm not going to wait out hoping she will get back to me soon. I need money.
Well, the first lady said she's been their longer so she gets first dibs. I was stuck so I talked to my boss and she said, the person who came to first gets the time off. Well, the first lady did come to me first but she didn't give me the exact days. So I told the boss the second lady came to me first. Was I wrong?
The two ladies are now enemies. I feel caught in the middle. I am nice to both but they have been talking to me about each other regularly. I'm sick of it. I don't want to be in this high school drama. How can I get out of it? Can anyone give me their comments on this issue. :confused: I don't believe neither are my friends but they both in their own ways pretend to be. It's a office entirely of woman, so I should have known when I started of the "drama," that would follow. One even calls my house to complain and talk about the other woman. I am too nice and I sit and listen with concern in my voice. I really want to say to her, " I don't care about your issue with so and so, so leave me out of it!" But again I'm too nice. I don't want this woman to hate me.
Please Help!
Thank you
:rolleyes: I just joined! I'm a girl who is literally too sweet for her own good. I want people to like me and I instantly without thinking say yes when someone needs a favor or tell them I'll do something even though I know I can't. It's a sickness. It's the one thing I hate about myself, always worried about what that person thinks of me.
My question is about my work place. I don't know if I can trust anybody. I've been doubting my judgment a lot lately and I don't know who to trust anymore. I've gotten hurt or dug myself a hole too many times.
I recently gotten a job a few months back and I get along with everyone fine, I guess. I work causal when the full - time workers need some time off. Two women have gotten into some feud dealing with me for their time off. A lady that's been at the office for 13 years came to me first asking for three days off but she couldn't tell me specifically when, which I tell everyone to give me or I can't agree to it. She said she would get back to me. A second lady also came to me asking for days and overlapping the other woman's. This second lady gave me her exact days she wanted off. I than agreed to it, since the other lady didn't get back to me for a week. I take work when I can, I can't say no to one just because someone came to me first. I'm not going to wait out hoping she will get back to me soon. I need money.
Well, the first lady said she's been their longer so she gets first dibs. I was stuck so I talked to my boss and she said, the person who came to first gets the time off. Well, the first lady did come to me first but she didn't give me the exact days. So I told the boss the second lady came to me first. Was I wrong?
The two ladies are now enemies. I feel caught in the middle. I am nice to both but they have been talking to me about each other regularly. I'm sick of it. I don't want to be in this high school drama. How can I get out of it? Can anyone give me their comments on this issue. :confused: I don't believe neither are my friends but they both in their own ways pretend to be. It's a office entirely of woman, so I should have known when I started of the "drama," that would follow. One even calls my house to complain and talk about the other woman. I am too nice and I sit and listen with concern in my voice. I really want to say to her, " I don't care about your issue with so and so, so leave me out of it!" But again I'm too nice. I don't want this woman to hate me.
Please Help!
Thank you