Hello, my name is Paula and I have been married for almost three years. It was the first time I had been in love and I was 39 years old. However 8 months ago I met someone and it made me rethink the rest of my life. Should I leave my current relationship for this new love?

No, you first should not have gotten involved with anyone because you are married, You do not "meet" someone when you are married.

So you stop seeing them and get marriage couselling to make your marriage work

Hello Paula who has been married for the past few years and now has a fling on the side. Should you divorce your husband for this guy you are infatuated with? Have you told your husband about this new man? Tell him and perhaps he will answer your question for you and show you the door.

If you have no remorse for having an affair and plan to continue with this affair, then at least be honest with yourself and your husband and do the right thing.

See duplicate post: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/want-know-if-should-leave-current-relationship-move-new-love-163328.html

Why would you break the boundaries of marriage? Does your husband deserve a lying cheating female in his life? Do you care? Help me understand the reasons.

Never leave the one you love for the one you like, you'll only end up regretting it.