OK so the guy who I've been crushing on and who's always picking on me and flirtin w me now knows that I like him. When my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" and then she told him that I liked him but even though he knows that I like he still flirts with me and then the other day he comes up to me and hugs me and says something like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."I mean I guess you could say that was kind of tru,but that was because I didn't know how 2 act around him.so what should I do?

Well go for it ask him face to face or make the first move oh yh would you be able to help me is 11 yrs age difference too much

Ask him what face to face?if he likes me?and to answer your question, I don't think age matters,but sometimes it can get in the way,but I mean if you y'all feel y'all have a genuine connection,then age should matter.but it also depends on how old you are now and how old they are because sometimes being too young and being in a relationship w someone 11 years old than you is too big of a difference.hope I helped.

It seems like he likes you. Guys like to pick on girls and fool around with them and play fight with them because they can make physical contact while doing so. If he asked you why you're distant after you found out he said he doesn't like anyone then I guess it means he wasn't telling the truth when he said "no one". The only way to find out is to ask him, if you're too shy then I'll try to give you examples on how to open up the subject, but if you're not that shy and you're able to ask him, what are you waiting for ? :P

yea I do tend to get shy around guys.. especially if I like them so I'm going to need sum examples on how 2 open up to the subject

All right, if you're shy then I guess the best thing is to smile to him (I've learned smiling is the best way to communicate and show you're interested and start up conversations). When he comes around and talks to you show you're interested to hear what he has to say. If by chance you end up alone together, try to take advantage. Ask him about his tests or favorite music, whether he likes bowling, skating, surfing, whatever. Try to talk about an event or activity you can do together in the future. If there is a concert this weekend or the next, talk about it, he might end up asking you to go to the concert with him. If he doesn't ask you out to one of the activities you talked about but you feel that he would like to but is also shy to ask, go like "I'm heading to ___ with a couple of friends, want to come along?" Show the group thing, its not as embarrassing as asking him out on a date but you can still manage to meet him outside of school where you can get to know him better. I hope I helped. If there are any more questions I'd try and love to help.
Goodluck!

Today was our last day for christmas break and he walked w me all the way from my class to my bus.from my class to the stairs he had his arm around me and I put my arm around him too.then he walked me 2 my bus and got on my bus said hey to a few people and then I gave him his christmas present and card and then he hugged me twice and then got off.does that mean anything?

today was our last day for christmas break and he walked w me all the way from my class to my bus.from my class to the stairs he had his arm around me n i put my arm around him too.then he walked me 2 my bus n got on my bus said hey 2 a few ppl n then i have his his christmas present n card n then hugged he me twice n then got off.does that mean anything?
Walking with you was a good sign, he could've gone with his friends or talked to someone else but he stayed with you and wanted to spend his last few minutes in school before the break with you other than anyone else. (and I'm pretty sure he wasn't doing it for the gift ;P ) Is there any party or gathering happening during this break? Will there be any chance you might meet him? Does he have your number? How old are you? A little more details would be helpful.
To be honest he reminds me of a really nice guy I know, and these signs are really good. However, he also reminds me of another guy who keeps getting me so confused and turned out to be no good (unfortunatly, I'm still not completely cured from the hurt, and he still manages to get me so confused) So be careful, don't get too carried away, he may be doing these things but thinking of you only as a friend. You can never know if he loves you unless he says it, and I think you're on the right track to finding out.
Please let us know what happens.

agree with silent all the way.. pplz tense to get confused with this stuff really easy so be careful and I hope it turn out good...

as a nice guy I know that we don't mess around with this stuff... b.c I know that if I do it will only end up hurting the girls... and from what you been saying about him... (he seem like a nice guy ) ^^>...

lol.. I just don't know is that us nice guy way to nice ? Or that you girls have the magic to make us never want to hurt you guys and just want to protect you... I hope you catch my drift

lol.. well what I am trying to say is why don't give it a try?? ^^


sorry... my english is not really good so.. hahahaha I hope it help

There's nothing going on over break that I know of.but I'm sixteen and yes he has my number I gave it to him in his christmas card that I gave to him.

did he call you or text you yet ? If yes then ^^ you know what going on...

even he not calling.. why don't you call him ?and like hey how it going.. doing anything tomorrow ? >.stuff like that... start the conversation... ^^

No he hasn't called or texted me yet,but I don't know if I should call him though. I mean I do have his number though my friend gave it to me,but I don't know.

don't be shy ^^... just call him... tell you something... I am a nice guy also.. and like I told you I think that he is a nice guy too... and us nice guy always tense to be shy around girls.. especially the girls we like... we really want to call them but we can't cause we don't know what to say ^^...

so why not give it a chance and see how it go... if you like him that much... then it wouldn't be a problem ^^

I guess you should wait for him to call, if he didn't over christmas and didn't give you a gift and you feel like it, ask him why he didn't. I guess as they say: "the ball is in his court now" so just wait and see what he may do. If he doesn't, there is nothing wrong with you trying again.
Goodluck

Maybe I'll call him, but if I can't bring myself 2 do it,then a simple text shouldn't hurt. But silentbreeze 2 answer your question,he is getting me a present,he's going to give me it the next time I c him.

maybe i'll call him, but if i can't bring myself 2 do it,then a simple text shouldnt hurt. but silentbreeze 2 answer ur question,he is getting me a present,hes gonna give me it the next time i c him.
Well then I guess you can figure out how he feels the next time you see him. Like how he presents the gift, what he says, how he acts... etc. If you feel like calling him, do so, if you are too shy, a message is not a bad idea at all.

My friends keep telling me that I should call him, but I still dk,because I wouldn't know what 2 say and then one of my friends said that I should 3-way him with another one of my friends.do you think that would be a good idea?because I mean I do want to try 2 hang out w him over break to you know c how we interact w each other outside of school you know. And also because there's this really good movie out that I want to c n I want to know if he would want to c it w me

Forget the 3 way stuff, and no messages through friends, but you can ask for his number and start there. That would show your interested, and he does like you, and going slow and getting comfortable with him will take care of the shyness. I know your friends gave you his number, but asking him is a good icebreaker, and you can also ask his plans for break.

I think I've finally worked up the nerve to call him.I think I'm going to call him on Wednesday that way it won't interfere w his christmas.as I said in my previous posts I want to c if he would want to hang out w me before we go back to school.should I ask him if he wants it to be a group thing or just the two of us and would that make it a date if its the two of us?

Maybe asking him out just the two of you will make him think it's a date. If you are willing to take the risk, why not? But know you might not get and okay. Personally I think its better to go out with a group the first time, as I said before.
Call him on Wednesday and see how it goes.
Goodluck

Yea I changed my mind and think its better to do it as a group thing.but I don't know what we should all do?is going to the movies a good idea?or somewhere where we could all hang out and talk a better one?

I think going somewhere you can all hang out and talk would be better, leave the movie for the next time, or you can go to dinner and a movie . You can go bowling, you can go to the beach as well. You can go to the mall, a nearby place for dinner, anything you guys like. I advice you to go to an activity then dinner.
Goodluck!

OK so I called him but he didn't answer so I left him a voicemail,so now he has 2 call me bak.I hope he does.until then.. all I can do is wait.

OK so today one of my bestfriends comes up 2 n tells me that she has something 2 tell me.apparently she talked to the guy and I guess she asked him why he didn't call me back and then she told me that he was on punishment, so that's y he didn't call me back.and then right before 7th period when I was talking 2 my friends,someone puts their hands over my eyes and I put my hand over theirs and I'm like "whos this?" and then I turn around and its him.so then we hug and he says that I got you your present and I was like you did and I was like what is it,n he was all like wouldn't u like 2 know and I was like I would that's y I asked and he was like its in my locker and I was like wheres your locker and he said his athletic locker and he said hed get it before the end of the day and I told him that I was staying after school anyway 4 drivers ed so you can just give it to me then and he said OK.so I was waiting after school with some friends and he comes up and gives me my gift and he was like you have 2 read the card first and the card said "hey,merry christmas and a happy new year.you are fun to be around and to talk to so i bought this gift for you.you call me bighead ima call you small head. no matter what size our heads are great minds think alike ("gift") then he signed it love (his name) n said "my sig. is better than yours ha ha! Lol


So as you can probably tell from this I'm still very confused about this whole situation.does any of this new info plus what you already know about this situation mean anything.and I still would like 2 hang out with him soon,maybe the weekend since I'm off.so should I ask him if he would want to do something in person or over the phone and once again should it be just us or a group of people but I don't know if anybody else would be able 2 come or not I mean would that be a good idea,since we didn't get 2 hang out over break?

What's so confusing? He likes you enough to buy you a gift. Be patient and see if he calls. Understand he has a schedule too. It may be best to talk on the phone, and get to know each other. But let him lead, to see if he is serious.

Hey girl,
Well I think he likes you a lot, but I'm not sure if it goes further, I may be wrong though. You can never know with guys :p But him giving you a gift is a good sign, if he thinks of you as a friend he would've just said thanks, but because he gave you a gift it means it may be more. However, wait, don't call, its hard I know, but try not to. While in school, while hanging out, drop hints you are free this weekend... say you would like to go to ___ that its been a while since you've been there... hopefully he'll get the message. But don't say it straight forward since you already did on the phone...
Goodluck, keep posting!

I think I'm going to wait until we go back to school Monday and ask him when he's off punishment and then c if he would like 2 do something when he's off punsishment because one of my bestfriends thinks he's not off punishment yet

OK so for the past few days I haven't really gotten to talk to him as much as I usually do.but yesterday me and sum friends were in the hall on labtops because they wouldn't working the class and his class is right beside mine. At one pt he comes out the room and you know when you hear a door open or whatever you look and I saw him and our eyes met for a few seconds and then I looked away and kept on doing my work. And then my friend sitting beside me was like what was that,I was like what,she was like you didn't say anything to him and I was all like what am I supposed to do and she was like wave and I was like I don't know and she said he was looking at me but I didn't c him. Then today at lunch when I was sitting down, my same friend said that he was looking at me again when he was walking with this girl who I think is his cousin, but again I didn't c him do it.does that mean anything?should I give him eye contact when I do c him.cuz like sometimes we'll both be in the hall way but talking to other people but be facing each other and we'll both like look over towards the other even though we're talking and listening to other people

ok so for the past few days i havent really gotten to talk 2 him as much as i usually do.but yesterday me n sum friends were in the hall on labtops because they wouldnt workin the class n his class is right beside mine. at one pt he comes out the room n u kno when u hear a door open or whatever u look n i saw him n our eyes met for a few seconds n then i looked away n kept on doin my work. and then my friend sittin beside me was like what was that,i was like what,she was like u didnt say anything to him n i was all like what am i supposed to do and she was like wave n i was like idk n she said he was lookin at me but i didnt c him. then today at lunch when i was sitting down, my same friend said that he was lookin at me again when he was walkin with this girl who i think is his cousin, but again i didnt c him do it.does that mean anything?should i give him eye contact when i do c him.cuz like sometimes we'll both b in the hall way but talkin to other ppl but be facing eachother n we'll both like look over towards the other even tho we're talkin n listening to other ppl
Yeah give him eye contact, show him you know he's around and still care for him. If he tried to talk to you but you didn’t give him a lot of attention I think you better wave or say hi the next time you see him. But if both of you haven’t gotten the chance to talk then you are not obligated to start talking, yeah smile when he looks at you, show him you notice him, and you still remember his existence :p , I mean you still care for him and see how it goes.

So I should give him eye contact even if I'm talking 2 someone else because I think that might seem kind of rude.so what your saying is that when I do c him looking at me that I should smile at him and give him eye contact but how long is too long of looking?I mean I pay attention to him when I am talking to him. Like today when I walked into class,I guess he had been playing with water and I went to hug him and he wiped water all over my neck and stuff he was like I know your clean or something but I'm going to bathe you in this water or something like that,then he walked behind me and hugged me from behind so that his face was touching mine.I mean I thought it was kind of cute,but I mean am I ovethinking this,or does this mean anything?because like I said when my best friend told him that I liked him and asked him who he liked and he said " no one" but yet now he does all this stuff and is apparently staring at me,I mean you wouldn't just do all that to someone if you didn't like them right?

You don't know what to do, and neither does he. Someone has to end this stalemate. Do it. Your already talking and hugging, just ask why is he doing it.

I mean I guess you could say your right, because most of the time I don't know what to say to him and so I just take it as it comes.but your saying that I should flat out ask him why he acts the way he does around me and why he stares at me?

If you want you can ask him, of course not flat out then he'll wonder if it is bothering you. I understood you wrong, you guys are talking now... well then I guess if you want to you can ask him what he thinks of you. Don't go like why do you and why don't you, I don't think guys like girls who over analyze things, I don't think they understand its in our nature! :P Anyway, ask him casually, when you two are alone and comfortable, what he thinks of you. Does this sound okay? Any other questions I'm here! :D

I'd like so say something though...
The things he is doing to you right now as you said are really cute and girls tend to fall for them, all I'm saying is that things can go wrong and you might jeopardize what you have now... just be careful with the choice of words. Goodluck! Keep posting!

I agree approach is everything, to forward may scare him, since your talking what is your own take on this, does he flirt and compliment you? What do you talk about? Does he appear comfortable?

To answer your question talaniman,he doesn't really compliment me but he does he flirt w him and picks on me and stuff like that and just the overall way he acts.cuz every time he does something when I'm w my friends my one friend is always like y'all need to stop flirting but in a joking way.yea he appears comfortable, because I mean he's like friends with a lot of people and he has a lot of friends who are girls but he doesn't act the way he does with me as he does with them

he has a lot of friends who are girls but he doesn't act the way he does with me as he does with them

What makes you special? Just asking, and no desrespect, Just trying to get a picture of his motives, because if he shows females a lot of attention and hasn't hooked up he may just like you as a friend. And that changes things, as a lot of female friends means he is not shy, and would have expressed his interests, and you would know he is courting you, to use an old school word. That's why my question is what makes you different?

I mean I don't know what makes me special,ud have 2 ask him but he doesn't show them attention like that but you know he talks to them or whatever,I mean they're his friends so why wouldn't he talk to them but he doesn't like flirt w them like that.

I'm old school, and think a man should express himself, and take the chance of rejection, if he is that interested. Most young guys are afraid of rejection so are reluctant to overly pursue a female, so tell him you like him, and then back off, and see if he comes to you.
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I don't see a problem in asking him in the ways I suggested earlier. If there are any questions about the approach shoot. Personally I think he likes you... guys pick on the girls they like and they play fight and hit you to make physical connection and break the boundaries. I say go with it, but back off afterwards and see if he comes to you and how he acts afterwards, show him you are interested, but not pushy, you definitely don't want him if he doesn't feel the same way.

To go with what you said talaniman he does know that I like him.to go with what you said silent breeze, at times I think he likes me too by the things he does to me and stuff like that and all my friends say awww and get them and stuff like that when I tell them and stuff.I'm never the one who approaches him,he's always the one to approach me.I think another reason why he hasn't done anything is because he's on punishment rite now and he doesn't know for how long because my friend asked him.and then his parents are really strict and won't really let him do anything but I don't know if that's because he's on punishment or if that's how it always is.but once he gets off punishment I'll c he would want to do anything

Of course that means he likes you!! you should ask him though because some guys are werid although he most likely likes you you could slip a note in his locker saying how you feel or go to him face to face or ask your friends to ask him if you go for a note in locker make sure you put that its from you

Girl I think he likes you, but I'm not giving you the thumbs up because I've been in a similar situation. I used to like a guy in my school, he was always the one to come up to me, he was always joking around and fooling around with me and trying to get my attention and acting differently with me. I really started to fall for him, then all of a sudden he stopped doing the things I love and started doing them to my best friend (yeah, ouch!) maybe he is a player, and maybe I ran out of time... I know I am special and if he was too hasty to wait for me then I don't think he deserves me. We are now on a friendly bases, he still kids with me, and lately he's been telling me he wants to take me out and we set a date and all but it was all just kidding around. The date was last Thursday, he didn't show up of course he doesn't know where I live (he doesn't even have my number!) and today I was like: thanks for taking me LOL and we fooled around and stuff then he was like I wanted to take you and I was like I got dressed and waited for the phone to ring but it just wouldn't... etc. All OBVIOUSLY fooling around, there was no doubt we meant any of the words we were saying, we were laughing so hard.

Sometimes it helps to hear similar stories from other people. The reason I wrote all this is that I wanted you to see my situation and try to see the similarities between them.
Maybe he thought I didn't care, maybe he gave up trying to show me he cares, maybe its my fault... I don't know, I still haven't figured it out... BUT he can also be a player, which he probably is, a player I fell (falling) for.

So, in the back of your mind you must remember things might not work out all right, just so you don't get shocked like I did. Getting heartbroken and knowing why is easier than getting heartbroken not knowing the reason for all the pain...

But to be honest, I don't think he's like the guy I know, the thing that shows is that he treats you differently, and it shows and he's not trying to hide it.
I say go for it, what's the worse that can happen? But make sure you tell him that you Don't want to jeapordise the relationship you two already have, you just wanted to know so you'd be on the same page. That you don't want this to change the lovely relationship between you. Make sure he gets that message.
Goodluck girl, I hope your story turns out better than mine...

Thanks silent breeze for letting me c your perpective... it really helped :) so thanks.I think I will go for it once I find out when he's off punishment because I won't know how far our relationship is going to go if I don't try right?I honestly think I have a chance w him because out of all the guys I've liked and tried 2 pursue something with,this one is turing out to be the most optimistic so far and it has the potential and he's not like all the other guys I've liked and all my good friends think I have a chance and that he likes me too,so we'll c. I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you with your similar experience,hopefully things will get better for you too

This morning I was talking to my friends and I happened to look over and I saw him looking at me,that's actually saw him and so I looked and then looked away and kept talking to my friends.then my friend was talking to him during 1st block and she was looking at his camera and was like you don't have ant pictures of my boo on there n he was like who and she said my name and was like I'll take a pic and he was like no I'm going to take it.what does that mean,if anything.so today during last block I was in the hall I was walking 2 go to the bathroom and he just happened to be in the hallway and so I called his name and he turned around and waited for me ,then we hugged and started walking down the hall.I talked and walked w him till we got 2 his locker and then I left and went to the bathroo.when I came out the bathroom he was still in the hall and he was talking 2 my friend and so talked to her for a min and then walked back up the hall w him.as we were walking he kept pushing me into the halls and so I was pushing him back and then he was asking me what class I was going to and I was like chorus and he was like o so you have penny and I was playing around and was like nooo I have so and so n then I did something else and he was like what are you making fun of me and I was like nooo and I like put my hand on his shoulder or something and was like I would never make fun of you or something and then I tried to turn to go into my class but every time I went to go in one direction he would go in the same direction and so we kept doing that for awhile and then I was like my teacher is probably like wth is she doing and then he let me by and then he left.then I got in the room and my friend were like I saw that and I was all like what.so does any of that mean anything?

this morning i was talkin to my friends n i happened to look over n i saw him lookin at me,thats actually saw him n so i looked n then looked away n kept talking to my friends.then my friend was talkin 2 him during 1st block n she was lookin at his camera n was like u dont have ant pictures of my boo on there n he was like who n she said my name n was like i'll take a pic n he was like no im gonna take it.what does that mean,if anything.so 2day during last block i was in the hall i was walkin 2 go to the bathroom n he just happened to be in the hallway n so i called his name n he turned around n waited for me ,then we hugged n started walkin down the hall.i talked n walked w him till we got 2 his locker n then i left n went to the bathroo.when i came out the bathroom he was still in the hall n he was talkin 2 my friend n so talked 2 her for a min n then walked back up the hall w him.as we were walking he kept pushing me into the halls n so i was pushing him back n then he was askin me what class i was goin to n i was like chorus n he was like o so u have penny n i was playin around n was like nooo i have so n so n then i did somethin else n he was like what are u makin fun of me n i was like nooo n i like put my hand on his shoulder or somethin n was like i would never make fun of u or somethin n then i tried to turn to go into my class but everytime i went to go in one direction he would go in the same direction n so we kept doin that for awhile n then i was like my teacher is prolly like wth is she doin n then he let me by n then he left.then i got in the room n my friend were like i saw that n i was all like what.so does any of that mean anything?
About the camera thing I don't think he means much by it. Walking in the hall and goofing off is really nice but I have some questions; I didn't catch the last part... you two were messing around, when he was like are you making fun of me, was he serious, kidding, or seriously kidding... and while saying no ill never make fun of you, were you serious or kidding or in between, last but not least, his eye contact, when jumping in front of you, was he looking into your eyes searching, was he looking down kind of wondering what to do next (not by how to block your way but something deeper) or were you JUST goofing ? I don't think just goofing around... please make it clear, I'm waiting :D
Goodluck

It seemed like he was kidding because he didn't sound serious and I was being serious when I told him that I wouldn't make fun of him.while we walking beside each other we didn't have eye contact because we were beside each other but while he blocking me when did have eye contact.

While blocking you... you didn't have eye contact? If you did was he looking into your eyes searching, or was he looking down? The reason I'm stressing is that eye contact is important. Good thing you said it kind of seriously. I think you two are good together and I guess your friends think so too. If a close friend of your was the one to comment ask her what she meant if you are really interested. If not go back to your original plan and wait till he gets off punishment. But enjoy the time you two are spending together now and don't get too caught up with what might happen later, take everything as it comes. Any questions?

I meant to say when he was blocking me we did have eye contact.thanks, yea all my good friends, the ones who know I like him and everything like that,say we look cute together and all this stuff. Yea it was a close friend of mine who was like I saw that when I came in the room,because apparently they had saw through the door.

Then girl I guess you have got a great guy for you! I truly hope your story turns out better than mine! I honestly wish you the best of luck. How long is his punishment going to continue?

Awww thanks! :) I hope things turn out good for you too! I don't know how long his punishment is,I guess I can always ask,because me and one my bestfriends want to go iceskating and she wants to bring her boyfriend and I think it would be fun to bring him

Sure! I say go for it. Set a date and tomorrow ask him if he can come along, all in the say ways we have talked about earlier. Goodluck, keep posting!

It was supposed to snow and unlike all the rest of the countys we had to go school and then we had to end up going home early because of the roads. So the school was pretty much desserted. And so we had to stay until 11:30 so we only 2 blocks. I was walking to class and my two friends were standing in the hall and so we stopped in the middle of the hall and then we looked to the right and he was down the hall and then one of them was like someone down the hall is looking at u,and she was talking about him, but I kind of figured he was,because you know how you get that feeling when someone is staring at u. then during 1st block I went to go re-take a test and he ended up coming down there 2 talk to the teacher.n so I get up and he puts his hands out for me to hug him and so I hug him and then he teased me about the way I hug.. sayin that wasn't a hug and he was like you have to squeeze tight and so then I hugged him again and it was one of those hugs where you rock back and forth,and this time it was a tighter kind of hug because he squez(sp?) me and I held onto to him tighter than I usually do and so we were closer together when he hugged me then we have before, then like 30 minutes later I was wandering the halls again w my friend and he was in the hall too and so we stopped and he had his camera in his hand and he took a picture of me and then we kept going in our opposite directions. So I guess my question would be ,is all this a good sign?

I think these are pretty good signs. Him taking a picture of you is really good, means he wanted to make sure you are okay with it before. But a question, is there a possibility one of your friends asked him why he didn't take a picture of you?
Him hugging you and insisting on you hugging him stronger I think that is also good. I think any other guy wouldn't really think much of the hug, you know, he'd hug you, whatever. But he cared and wanted you to hug him the way he is hugging you, all to further lay down the boundaries between you two. Another question, does he hug any of your other friends? How does he hug them, same way or a quick rush of hello?
P.S. “Squeeze”
He/I squeezed me/him
Is squeezing me
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Well remember on one of my last posts I said that one of my bestfriends was looking at his camera and said " u don't have any pictures of my boo on here." and he said "who?" and then she said my name, and was like "i'll take it." and then he said " no i will." but that's not the same thing as her asking him why he didn't take a picture of me.when all this took place, I wasn't in the same place as them. Yea he hugs some of my friends, but no not in that same way,it is more of a way to say hello. Thanks for clarifying how to spell sqeeze lol. So you think him wanting to hug me tighter was a way of telling me he wanted to get closer or something,I don't know.

Today I was in the lunch line with my best friend and she saw him coming out the lunch line and she told him to come here.he did,and he hugged me first, it was a kind of long hug too,then he hugged my friend.then I stole one of his fries and then they started talking about wrestling.then before last block I was talking to that same person and then someone called my name so I went over there and then I went back and she was talking to him.then he hugged both of us at the same time.then me and him both started walking and he had his arm around me so that it was hangin on my shoulder and then my other best friend was walking the other way and she gave me that look like "awwww thats cute..get em!" then he put it down,then my friend comes up and walks w us, and he said something about her and then he touced her on the shoulder,but he had to reach behind me to do it because I was in the middle and so it was kind of a smooth move because then he put his arm around my shoulder again.and so then we kept walking down the hall until I had to go up the stairs so then I said bye.I mean I think all these are really good signs that he likes me.what do you think of the matter?

First I want to say Im sorry for the late reply but I have my finals now and Im really struggling and there is no time to sign in. I finally found a second and quickly decided to log in and see what happened with you. I think these are great signs, I really liked the smooth move he did, pretending he wanted to touch your best friend so he could put his arm around you again ;) So I say its all good.
Keep posting! Ill reply as soon as I possibly can

No its OK I understand... school is a # one priority... I hope you did good on your finals :). I was thinking about seeing if he would want to watch the superball with me.. whether it been just us or like a group of us... that is if he's of punishment... I hope so... because its been awhile.do you think that would be a good idea or no?

no its ok i understand...school is a # one priority... i hope u did good on ur finals :). i was thinking about seeing if he would want to watch the superball with me ..whether it been just us or like a group of us...that is if hes of punishment...i hope so...cuz its been awhile.do u think that would be a good idea or no?
Instead of giving you a yes/no, Im going to tell you to ask yourself two questions, from that you'll know the answer.

1- Can you NOT ask him and NOT regret it later?

2- Worse case sinario, do you want to be the person saying: "I took the risk, it didnt turn out the way I planned but at least I knew" or "There was a guy I liked, period.

Hope I helped.

Yea your questions helped me.my answer to the first question was no and my answer to the 2nd one was I'd rather be the person who took the risk instead of doing nothing.so I'm guess I got my answer,I guess that means I should ask him? Today my best friend asked him if he was off punishment and he told her that yea he was off punishment and that he can hang out but that he didn't have his phone back yet. And then she told me and I was like that's good and I said that he probably knows its me since he knows that your my best friend and she said of course he knows its you n that she had a good feeling about us.and then at the end of the day I was going into class and he called my name as I was about to go in the room and so I turned around and I hugged him and then we started walking and he had his arm around my shoulder again and I had my arm around me and he asked me how I was doing and stuff.and then we stopped and my best friend was talking to some of our friends and she like smiled at me and winked because she had saw us.

ok so the guy who ive been crushing on n whos always pickin on me n flirtin w me now knows that i like him. when my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" n then she told him that i liked him but even tho he knows that i like he still flirts with me n then the other day he comes up 2 me n hugs me n says somethin like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."i mean i guess u could say that was kinda tru,but that was because i didnt kno how 2 act around him.so what should i do?
I think that you should keep flirting with him.. Nothing is ever going to happen if you keep avoiding him.. You never know you guys could be purfect for each other.. I am 22 years old but I still get shy arounnd a guy if I really like him.. Just keep going after him don't give up!

OK so I was on myspace today and I got a message from my crushes brother and I don't know what 2 think it,it kind of there me off .hes 19 n in a whole different state but
Here's what it said


Hey what's up my name cj and I'm s' older brother and I came down to watch his state game and I saw you and I was like who's that I wanted to talk to you but you was with you friends so I was like never mind you wouldn't believe what I wnet through to find out who you are I'm not a stalker or anything trust me I just wanted to get to know you if that's all right with you I'm sorry if I come off wrong to you . But I really would like to get to know you as a person so if your willing to take time out of you life to get to know me that would mean a lot. My little brother is sw he;s how I found out who you are I hope you don't mind. P.S think you could send me a friend request??

Does this make it sound like he wants to be my friend or what?my best friend thinks that I should tell my crush about the message and see what he says... what do you think?I need help... idk what to do...

I think telling your crush may be a good idea. But you have to be very careful; you don't want to cause problems between the two brothers. And you shouldn't make it sound like you are interested in the matter, like you want to meet the guy or something, make it sound like you are curious if he knew or not. Just open up the subject casually, go like, what's your brother's name, or which state is he in or anything. And then when he answers you can go like, "well to be completely honest he sent me a message on myspace and he was like I want to meet you and that he went through a lot to know who I was...." Btw, there was a part I didn't really catch, in the message he left you on myspace, did he mean he got who you were from his little brother, which is your crush? Or from who?
I think you should be honest, honesty can be truly helpful. Just don't give him the wrong impression like you want to meet him or something, go like he sent me this, see how he reacts and stuff, and for the meantime do not add his bro on your friend list and do not reply to him. What if your crush tells you to stay away from his bro and you're like I can't cause I already added him or something. And please be careful not to cause any problems between the two brothers as I said before.
Best of luck girl and keep posting!

Yea he found out who I was from his little brother or so he says which just happens to be my crush. But then I asked my friend if she knew him and she said that was a little weird because she's never heard of him and she said she knows there this kid who goes to school near ours and that they call each other brothers but they aren't really and the guy who sent me a message is in a whole different state,so its starting to get sketchy.

So today I asked one of my good friends if she knew if my crush had a brother named cj and she said yea. And I was like OK because he sent me a message and I told her what it said and she said yea he does that. So should I think nothing of it and just forget about and not tell my crush or tell him but not make a big deal about it and also what's a good way to ask him if he wants to hang out sun, and like maybe watch the superbowl?

so today i asked one of my good friends if she knew if my crush had a brother named cj n she said yea. n i was like ok because he sent me a msg n i told her what it said n she said yea he does that. so should i think nothin of it n just forget about n not tell my crush or tell him but not make a big deal about it and also whats a good way to ask him if he wants to hang out sun, n like maybe watch the superbowl?
Since you’re friend knows him and told you he does these things, just forget about it and don’t reply him as if you never read it. But just so you don’t fall into a drama TV series, tell your crush about the message. Tell him you decided to completely ignore it and you don’t care at all about it but you just thought he ought to know cause you don’t want to have any secrets from each other.
I think if you are too shy to ask him straight out, you can slip a note into his locker, it’ll be cute. Go like, “Hey you, I’ve really been wanting to watch the superball and I thought maybe we could grab some (popcorn, ice-cream, whatever) and watch it together, it may be fun. Waiting for a reply, ___ "
And if you feel like you want to tell him straight out you can use the same. You don’t have to use this but at least you have an idea. You can ask him out while you are talking, go like, “By the way, how about we hang out on Sunday and watch the superball together, it might be fun.”
Good luck!

Both of those sound like good ideas.my best friend kept telling me to go ask him because it wouldve been the perfect timing.n so then she went and talked to him and told him that he needed to talk to him because I had something I wanted to ask him but was too scared too so now he knows I wann ask him soemthin but he doesn't know what and I think I changed my mind though,I think I'm going to ask him if he would like to the movies Sunday before the superbowl starts because if I ask him 2 watch the superbowl,we're not going to have a place to watch it at and plus I doubt my mom would let me invite anyone over.. especially not a boy.. since I kind of got in trouble today.

So today I asked him if he wanted to hang out Sunday and he said he had church and I was like what about after and he said he'd ask.n then I was like how am I going to kno(cuz he cnt text back) n he was like well I have your number so I can call you n I was like OK n I then I said call my house phone because my cell doesn't have many minutes left and so then he said he didn't have that # n that id need to give it to him and then he went to the bathroom and then he came back and then I gave him the #. So does this make it date? I'm thinking about going to a movie because there's this movie coming out today that I really want to c.how am I supposed to act though because I'm afraid that I'll get nervous or something. What am I supposed to do if he does something during the movie like using the old strech then arm around the shoulder move or like tries to hold my hand or something,how am I supposed to respond? Help me...

I say you bat those eyelashes and keep smiling.
I think this kid might just like you, and if not, it's fun having a guy treat you with a present :]
Just don't sit by the phone and don't be too anxious, play it cool and smile when he talks to you; guys looove when you smile.

So we ended up not hanging out yesterday :(.at school day when I was going into math class he was standing in front of the door and he wouldn't let me by and was like where are you going and I hugged him and then he was like " u kno i didnt get ur text til this mornin" or something like that.n then I asked him if he did the history hw and then I started to ask him about this weekend but the bell was about to ring.then during class when he got up to hand in his test he walked past my desk and like grabbed my side or something like that and I smiled when he did that,but I don't know if he saw it.should I ask him 2 hang out again ,but this time so its not last minute?

Yesterday at the end of class,I was walking in the hall and he was in front me and I called his name and he turned around and stopped and then he put his arm around my shoulder and then I put my arm around his waist as usual. And I asked him if he got my text and I asked him what he was doing this weekend and then he told me he got grounded because our math teacher called his parents and told them he had a f in class and so he got grounded and had to quit the wrestling team.is this just bad luck n should I give up or should I patiently wait for him to not be grounded,but who knows how long that's going to be since he was on punishment for so long for that one time. I mean he's such a sweet guy but he stays in trouble with his parents,they're really strict,especially towards him and not his older sister.then today in math when I was talking to my friend and I was walking back to my seat he came in and we went in for a hug and then I leaned back and told my friend what I had said before he came in and then we went back into our hug and it was a really nice hug.. he kept rubbing his hands up and down my back,I guess you know what I mean.is that normal for a guy to do?I mean I like it when he hugs me and stuff.its times like that... that I don't want to stop liking him because we can't hang out because he keeps getting in trouble with his parents.. . help me.. what should I do

I think you like those hugs so much, your ignoring the obvious. He stays in trouble with his parents a lot. He is failing in his school work. These are red flags!! It means there is something wrong with this "sweet guy"". Start paying attention, to more than his hand around your shoulder, and how good it feels!!

So what are you trying to say?that I should stop looking at how much I like him and how he mite like me and start thinking about how much he gets into trouble with his parents and pay more attention to how he is doing in school and try to help him in math?I mean we are in the same class.

Yes! What I was trying to say is, he may not be as sweet a guy as you may think, and keep your eyes open, and don't be blinded by love so much. You are in a good position to see why he is flunking math, so you know if he knows the material, or is not turning in his home work. Tutoring is good help to give, doing his homework would be absolute proof he is a lazy user. Do you see the difference??

I mean I can attest to the fact that no one in my class never really does the hw.. myself included.as far as him knowing the material.. I don't know if he does or not,but sometimes the material can be hard at first.what did you mean when you said "doing his hw would be absolute proof he is a lazy user." did you mean if I was the one who ended up doing his homework for him, instead of tutoring him?

Yes, but not saying that's the case, just making an observation.

Yea I don't think he would do that.love fest is coming up on valentines day... its this thing we have at my school where you can send your friends songs and candy and stuff and I was thinking about sending him something.. would that be appropriate or not?I'm also singing with two of my friends,so we will be singing to people all day who got songs sent to them,I was thinking about singing in class to him but I don't know if I should...

I think its okay to do what's appropriate. Singing to him in class... may be a little much. Just curious, how you would describe where this thing, you two have, is at right now, just for clarity.

Yea I don't think I'm going to sing to him,but I will send him something,but I don't know what yet. To be completely honest I have no idea how to describe where we are at rite now

Until you can, don't step in to deep. If he cared that, much he would be making it more apparent how he feels, with words and actions. Sorry he has not so far. Just a word of caution. Given what you has written, frankly I don't trust him, but you are there, I'm not. Be honest with yourself, don't you have some doubts about his motives?

What do you mean don't step in too deep?what do you mean you don't trust him?what about his motives should I doubt

Sorry, he is just not forthcoming with his feelings, and I think until he is, you should be cautious, because I would hate to see you hurt. I also think you care more than he does, and he knows this, so why not tell you, how he feels? I would, and have always done so. That's one reason why I can't really trust him, as I think he likes your attention, but is not returning it the way you are. Another reason, just me being a parent, being on restrictions by his parents so much is sort of a red flag, and know for sure there may be something about that that he isn't telling. What kind of friends does he hang with? My point is what kind of guy shows physical attention to a female, but she dooesn't know if they have a relationship or not?? If that makes sense. What do you think?? Am I way off?

Its been so long since I've last posted and I apologize. Seems things changed and things improved since I last opened this site, many new questions rose as well.
The biggest stepback in your story Prettybrowneyes is that when you asked him to hang out together he didn't. I don't know about you but I am the kind of person who doesn't like to ask he same question twice.
He may not be as sweet as he seems just as Talaniman expects, but he may also have strict parents.
He may think of you a close friend and hugs you, but he also may think you are just some girl he can melt away with a hug.
Now lets talk about each point. These days there aren't many strict parents, most parents are clueless as to what their children are doing. Do you know why he is getting grounded so much? This time its about math, but what about all the other times? I don't think they'll ground him from the first time, so I think you have to figure out what he's been doing to get himself into this much trouble with his parents. So I may be getting back to Talaniman's point.
Personally, now that he has regected your invitation whether it was literally or not. I said before that since you asked him the first time don't ask him anoher time. I don't know if Im too late but I don't thin its very wise to send him a Valentine's day card. Lets see what he does. Don't be too obvious, don't let him know you like him. Let him be dying to know whether you like him or not, not the other way around.
I hope I didn't cause you too much confusion.
Goodluck

He knows that I like him,I thought we had established that,but yea he's known for awhile.I haven't asked him to hang out that much,its only been like twice.when he was on punishment,it was because his parents caught him downloading music.I mean id think he's a complete angel but he's not a bad guy either.I don't think he's using me or sending me mixed signals or anything because he wouldve said something by now.cuz there was this girl who liked him and she got mad at him because he said she thought he liked her and he said he doesn't.yesterday I didn't send him a valentines day card.. I sent him a bundle of love thing,because our school does this thing called lovefest where you can send your friends and significant others stuff.the bundle of love ending up coming with a teddy bear.yesterday I saw him walking in the hall with the bear sitting on his shoulder and he said the bear was "our son."

My hope is your enjoying yourself, but being smart, and not get to carried away with these intense feeling. Your supposed to be happy, and enjoy the experience. Can you imagine what I put my own daughter through at your age?? LOL, Dads can't help it, so forgive me if I sound to strict, and worrisome about this fellow.

Thanks for your concern,parents have every rite to be that way I think. I mean I am enjoying myself but at times I get confused about him.I want to know where we stand now,because we're better friends now then when he first found out I liked him and he also said he didn't like anyone then,but I don't know if anything has changed.one of my bestfriends thinks that I should ask him if he likes me now because she doesn't want him to play me by flirting w me and stuff and by not asking me out yet.I mean I honestly want to know but at the same time I don't necessarily want to be the one to ask him because I Don't want to get hurt,u know.so what should I do?because as I've said before,I am shy person, so any ideas?also do guys usually take forever to ask someone out or no?

Most guys are as scared, and shy as you are. We just don't like to show it.

So do u think that's what he's doing?

I honestly don't know, I know only what you tell me, but if you weren't so shy, you would ask him. (my wife told me to tell you that) so maybe its time to overcome the shyness, and ask him what's up?? We can go crazy assuming, guessing, and wondering about the feelings of others, or we could just ask what's on our minds, and know for sure how they feel. I know for a fact, fear prevents us from many things we need to do, and it takes courage to overcome it. My wife also says, you will feel so much better overcoming your shyness, and I believe her, so should you.

That was very deep and insightful.thanks.I will take that into consideration.I agree with your wife.. u married a smart woman lol

OK so today my day wasn't too good.first I found out that this guy I've been talking about only likes me as a friend and then I ended up failing my driver license test.so what am supposed to do now?I mean I can't just stop liking him rite off the bat.. I mean I do still like him, but you can't make someone like u.. they have to in their own time.

Sorry it didn't work the way you wanted, but now you know where you stand and can focus on other things, such as passing the driving class, and MATH! Don't sress over him as there will be others to take your attentions. Just make the adjustments. Good luck and let us know how things turn out. The wife says, something better will come along, so don't waste a lot of time getting over this guy, and she sends hugs.

Yea at least now I know where I stand... but I hope that doesn't ruin our friendship.. because today we didn't talk at all.but anyway... thanks and tell your wife I said thanks too.

Go up to him and say if you like me tell me. If you don't stop teasing me.

I have been there before and it hurts worse than him not liking you trust me.

My friend asked him and he said he only liked me as a friend.. but now since then we haven't talked.. idk why but we haven't.. idk.. I don't get it.

Don't let it bother you, as he may be a little embarrassed to know how you feel. Give it some time, and let the emotional dust settle.

Be embarrassed how... why would be embarrassed

Because he is a young guy, that has it brought to his attention, that someone likes him, and he doesn't feel the same way, for all the hugs and stuff. So its natural he back off, and avoid you. I would, and have done the same at his age. He is the one to answer for his actions though, as any one else, me included can only speculate and assume, and be 100% wrong. OUCH!!

Yea I get what your saying.actually.. yesterday.. we did talk and stuff.. so I guess us not talking was a coincidence and because of Monday

Now I am curious, and NOSEY, what did you talk about??

He first spoke to me when I was walking to the library and when he was with a teacher.then I was in the lunch line with my best friend and she called him over and he hugged us and then got in line with us.then we started talking about how he should stand behind us and be our bodygaurd because there was this big scary kid behind us.then my best friend was saying how I wanted to get with that kid and my crush.lets call him "sam" was like you want me to hook you up and I was no no no and then he went back and started talking to him and I was like "sam" if you do that I will never talk to you,but he ended up talking to the kid about joining the football team next year.then he asked us if we were going to some game last night and we both said no.then he showed us this self-defense move,that's always a wrestling move.. idk what it was.then it was turn to get my lunch and I was saying what I wanted on my wrap and he was like saying stuff out loud as if I was saying that's what I wanted on it and then I got out of the line.

OK so remember I said we hadn't been talking or anything since last Monday when my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he only liked me as a friend. Well what I don't get is,if he didn't,then why he was avoiding contact w me or whatever you want to call it by not talking to me or hugging me or anything.then the other other day we were walking right beside each other and none of us said anything,then I finally said "hey,how are u?" then he said he was doing fine, but then after that it was weird,because for like the first time we didn't have anything to say and it was kind of awkard.then yesterday,I was walking out of my class and he was walking down to his class and he hugged me, and he was like my be that was a bad hug and I was like yea it was.then later during class,I looked up at the door and he was standing in the doorway and then he came in and he walked in and came over to where I was sitting and put one arm around my neck, and he "claimed" he was looking for "his book." then he searched around a little bit.. then left.idk.. I find his behavior weird.. its hard to read.I guess that's his way of showing he wants thing to be cool.. but like I said I don't really know...

Maybe for all his confidence outside, it may be a different story inside.

Wait,what are u talking about... u lost me lol

Sorry, but guys put up walls to hide things from everyone else, and this is actually a form of protection from being hurt, or humiliated, not saying this is the case, but its likely. Young guys, like young girls are inexperienced, and they may hide that fact from others. Does that make sense?

Hide what... how they truly feel?so your saying that he's hiding the fact that's he's inexperienced?ineperienced with what?

ok so the guy who ive been crushing on n whos always pickin on me n flirtin w me now knows that i like him. when my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" n then she told him that i liked him but even tho he knows that i like he still flirts with me n then the other day he comes up 2 me n hugs me n says somethin like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."i mean i guess u could say that was kinda tru,but that was because i didnt kno how 2 act around him.so what should i do?

Tell him you don't talk to him anymore cause you are getting nice attention from him now so you must be doing something right and go with the flow basically.

Thanks but that's an old post.. that was my first one... its always the first one when it goes to a new page

Well how's it going then? IF he is still being unpredictable I would just let it go.

People reply to old buried posts that do bring them to the top and I rarely think to check the date.

I mean I don't know.recently.. like last week recently.. my best friend asked him what he thought of me or whatever and he said he only liked me as a friend.that kind of threw me off because I had gotten the impression that he mightve by all the things he did.then for a few days after that,we didn't talk at all.. I mean we saw each other we just didn't speak.then finally we did.but I just get it.. why would he have been avoiding me.then yesterday.. he actually hugged me for the 1st time since that day my friend asked him and then during last block he came in my room "lookin for his book" or so he said.as soon as he came in the room,he came straight over to where I was and put his arm like around my neck and started looking around for his book.

He is most likely *avoiding* you because he only wants to be friends and feels he has to back off because he doesn't want you getting the wrong impression of anything more than just that and/ or he may feel he is starting to like you more than he wants to allow himself to.
Be friends and go with the flow and don't expect much more.

I wish I knew which one of those were the reason why.I mean I am trying to go with the flow.. but its hard.. because I do still like him..

You might have to come right out when you have his attention and time
Ask him Don't use the word us or anything that would make him feel uncomfortable
But ask what do you think of our friendship, how do you feel things are going, how do you want them to go?
Tell him you are happy with however he feels but you feel you would like to be on the same page on things.

That sounds like a good plan.. only problem is... is that I'm really shy.. especially when it comes to stuff like that

Since you are shy maybe try finding a humorous friendship card that says your appreciation of his friendship in a way that he will laugh, nothing serious, but get the message that you do appreciate him

I think Nohelp4u, has a great idea, since your shy, see this as a friendship, and just talk as friends, with no expectations. Many guys will tell a girls' friends one thing, but feel another way. Go slow, and be friends. It will allow you to be comfortable around him, and then you can develop talking, with no pressure, because of your feelings. One question though, is he the type to hug a lot, or put his arm around others? Just curious as to the basis for your own feelings.

Yea I mean I think I can handle being his friend for right now... and then go from there.but where I should I draw the line though.to go along to what you were asking... he does hug other people yea.. but no he doesn't put his arms around a lot of people

Drawing the line?
I would say if he tries to get into a situation you feel uncomfortable with like excessive kisses or seeming like he is putting an unquestionable amount of 'romantic' feelings into a hug
Then pull away and say something about that not feeling like friendship only. Then that leaves it open for him to say if he is ready for more than friends and you can discuss where he wants to go from there.

When I said drawing the line... I meant where should I draw the line by how I act around him

Just wanting to know if his outward show of affection is what draws you to him. Be friends, and the line you draw, will depend on how you feel, just never cross your own lines. Friends don't just make out, unless they have agreed to be more than friends, that may have been blunt, but you both can work on where to draw the line on this friendship, and as Nohelp4u says, only do what your comfortable with. Back in the day when I was your age I found that it got girls interested even more when I put my arms around them or touched there hand or arms while we spoke or laughed, and that's why I was asking. He may have found that you react the same way, as I found out. Don't panick, we lads are learning, just as you females are.

when i said drawing the line...i meant where should i draw the line by how i act around him

Cool, reserved, confident! Lots of confidence. But not overly affectionate, but friendly. Confident and friendly is a great combination.

when i said drawing the line...i meant where should i draw the line by how i act around him
How to act around him
Like a good friend
Not too forward -avoid coming off like you are looking/trying for more

I think I can handle that.what about hanging out?because I really want to go icekskating(I haven't been in awhile)n I want to get a group of people to go with.

G0 for it and invite him if you want
Tell him a group of you are going Sue, Mary, Fred... (make sure you have set plans with them) and he is more than welcome to go along.

Yea I think that's what I'm going to do.. I got to ask my other friend first.today he actually played around with me... like I was trying to go to my locker and he kept blockin it.. whichever way I went he went.. n then he kept doing that.. even when he started talking to my best friend.then when she left he kept doing that.. n then he was like wheres your locker and I pushed him up against my locker and he was like o its like that.. u alll assertive or something.then he moved and I tried to open my locker,but it wouldn't open and then he was like let me c n then he moved to the to the other side of me and then I finally got it open

I have to disagree with you guys on this one. This young man is showing signs that he is not mature enough to date. He definitely likes her there is no doubt about that. She has to tread carefully.

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I was very shy in the 5th grade and I liked girl and she liked me. Our friends kind of forced us to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Since, I was scared to kiss, hold hands, hug or do anything. She would have to initiate those actions. Since, she was the girl she wasn’t going to. Eventually, a mutual friend told me it she said it was over. I was broken hearted and relieved at the same time.

If they are having fun, then holding hands is not important, what's the rush with the love stuff? I think its great to just hang with friends, and have fun.

I mean I understand where your both coming from.. but I still don't even know myself

That's the real beauty of youth, having fun while learning about yourself, and others, and life.

OK so as I have stated in the past.. I am still confused about this guy but I DO still like him.all this week we've had a few moments of us talking one on one... but then we've also had moments when people ruined it.like a few times this week.. we were walking in opposite directions but our eyes still met and then I was walking with my friend to the busses and he was standing on the steps and he was like looking over where we were and I know no one else was like behind us that he was looking at or whatever.but anyway enough of that... my birthday is coming up real soon(april 3rd) n me and one of my bestfriends are going to have a double birthday dinner since hers is the 2nd and mine the 3rd.we are both inviting people and I want him to be apart of it.. so should I ask him?also prom is in April too... n he's the only guy who I would even want to go with.im still not even sure if I'm going to go or not because prom this yr is not in the best place... but if I do decide to go I would want to go with him.idk if he's going or not or if he's going with anybody or any details like that.. but what should I do?

Invite him to your party but leave the prom up to him asking you.

But what if he doesn't then what

OK so the other day I was walking in the hall with him and I was like so guess who's birthday is coming up and he guessed mine.n I didn't even ask him if he was going to get me anything and he was like what do you want.then I mentioned to him that I was having a birthday dinner and asked him would he want to go and he said yea.then the other day I was at my lunch table talking to some of my friends and I happened to look over and it seemed that he was looking over in my direction.a few days ago I went out of town and I was looking at keychains that had my friends names on them.. but I only found one with his so I got it.. & I guess I'll give it to him tomorrow.as I have said before our prom is April twenty something & I really would like to go with him but I don't know if I should either ask him myself or wait for him to ask hme(if he does at all) or just bring up prom so me how and go from there.

Slow down, and see how the dinner goes. Hmmm, reading back through this post we have established he is a friend, so lets be very careful where, and how, we approach, and define that friendship. Proms usually, but not always involve couples, so he may not be keen on taking that step. As a guy, a female buying me little gifts shows affection, and more than just a friendship, so is that the message you want to convey? Have you been hanging out doing fun stuff as a group yet?

I mean yea I have established that he is still a friend but I do still have feelings for him.I mean I know proms usually involve couples but there are some people who go as friends.what did you mean he might not be keen on taking that step? I mean it was just a keychain with his name on it nothing big.. and its not like I just bought him something.I also bought my other friend a keychain too. I mean I don't really know what he thought of me giving it to me.. all I remember his saying what "u didnt have to get me anything" then my friends came up and ruined our conversation so then he hugged me and left.to answer your question, no we have not.my b-day dinner would be the 1st.

Seems your feelings are stronger than his. It also seems your intent on pursuing a bit.

I'm not trying to push things and I'm not intent on doing so

Okay just wanted some clarity, because I think you can have as much fun, if nor more, as friends, and there is little need to be couples. Hope the dinner goes well, and he asks you to the prom. I see nothing wrong with talking about it with him, soon. Might not be easy if he is still on lockdown.

Thanks... yea I hope so too.u don't see anything wrong with talking about what?prom?I was thinking about trying to bring it up sometime.. maybe during or after my b-day dinner

Good idea, as I doubt he will ask you on his own.