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uncertaingirl
Dec 16, 2007, 02:35 PM
My b/f wants me to come up with new and ''strange'' ideas to spice up our sex life. I'm happy with the way it is going, but he wants to try new things,as do I... Any other things we have tried have been his idea, so now he wants me to come up with some. Help please, ideas anyone? I'm quite reserved when it comes to talking about sex, but lost for ideas here... :(
Xrayman
Dec 16, 2007, 03:09 PM
What do you call strange versus what he calls strange?
uncertaingirl
Dec 16, 2007, 03:32 PM
Well, strange to him is having his arse fingered and he is DEVOUT hetro!! I don't think he means strange as in weirdo, but something different...
Xrayman
Dec 16, 2007, 03:39 PM
That's normal. You have a g-spot, that's ours.. cheers.
uncertaingirl
Dec 16, 2007, 03:45 PM
Mmmm I knew that, but I still need some help here...
stonewilder
Dec 16, 2007, 03:49 PM
In the www there is nothing you can't find when it comes to different. Do some research, I'm sure you'll find something. Have you went to a sex shop? There's lots of ideas you might get from there. It's kind of hard to come up with ideas to this question when we don't know what kinds of things you've tried already.
Fr_Chuck
Dec 16, 2007, 03:49 PM
Costumes, body paints, role playing, blind folds
uncertaingirl
Dec 16, 2007, 03:55 PM
Thanks for your replies... I have been to sex shops and used toys, but was looking to elaborate a bit, cheers guys!
stonewilder
Dec 16, 2007, 04:21 PM
You could do something different like ridding him then slapping him across the face as hard as you can when he starts getting off. I don't think it will turn him on, but I'm sure it will surprise the chit out of him. :D
uncertaingirl
Dec 16, 2007, 04:30 PM
I'm not too sure I want to get into the violent side of things, but thanks anyway!
shygrneyzs
Dec 16, 2007, 06:07 PM
I am voting on the side of simply web searching. You can find everything from A to Z in the areas of sexuality and preferences and all the things you want and did not want to know. I won't put any links on here - just because minors read through some of these posts. Happy surfing.
Choux
Dec 16, 2007, 07:09 PM
Dump him fast!!
It seems you guys have tried all kinds of "strange" sexual positions, and all your friend wants to do is get more and more weird instead of developing his and your sexuality in more powerful and satisfying physical and emotional directions. Perhaps, he doesn't even know about vast unexplored areas of human sexuality that are far more sublime than him simply "getting off".
Females have a far more complicated sexual process than men and are capable of such wonders of orgasmic power if they are with a half-way decent partner. Unfortunately, it seems that young people's sex lives are really unsatisfying these days.
There must be some books that describe the wonders of sex... not how to books... just so you can get an idea of what you are missing, but what you are capable of having. I think it would be worth your while to understand human sexuality and not get stuck with a selfish guy just trying to get his rocks off.
Good Luck, you can do it. :)
uncertaingirl
Dec 17, 2007, 06:49 AM
MMmmmmmmm Thanks for your comments, Choux. As for young persons sex lives, well, we aren't ''young'' as in 20's or 30's. I was married for 22 years to a boring in bed person (god knows why I stuck it so long).. He was married to a ''prude''. I am willing to try new things, don't get me wrong, but am at a loss as to what!!
Ash123
Dec 17, 2007, 08:32 AM
Perhaps he can be invited to "finish" in new places on you...
DanieLovesPaul
Dec 17, 2007, 11:59 AM
Okay well the first thing to consider is your comfort level. If you are not comfortable with something then do not do it and he should respect that. Sometime sex can start to get a little monatinous, but try simple playful things that could really spice things up. Go to a bar and have him pick you up. Act like you never met and go from there. Role playing is a great way to be creative and comfortable. It like an adult version of playing house. He can be the robber and you the innocent woman all alone. Say daring and bold things. It will surprise him if your not usually like that. Talk about sex in a non sexual way. Ask him what he would like. Tell him what your comfortable with. Make boundries. Sex is all about personal prefrence and as long as both are comfortable and safe that is what really matter. But do not do anything your not comfortable with. And do not lie to him and say something is okay when it's not.You will begin to resent him for it. Honesty and Comfortablility. I hope this help!
Danielle
ISneezeFunny
Dec 18, 2007, 12:49 AM
Play a game. Take 3 - 4 extra strength tylenol PMs... and try to finish sex before you guys fall asleep. Either case, it's win win.
Just kidding. Don't do that.
Play games such as... role play? I always found communication (actually talking) during sex to be sort of fun. And I don't mean talk about the weather or the stock market. Such things like DO YOU LIKE THIS? DO YOU WANT ME TO DO THIS? And at times, I play a game such as IF YOU TOUCH ____ (insert body part such as ears, head, neck, chin, etc.) THEN I WILL DO ______ (go up, go down, go fast, go slow, lick, etc.)
It gives your partner some control over what they want.
blitz1
Dec 18, 2007, 10:26 AM
My b/f wants me to come up with new and ''strange'' ideas to spice up our sex life. I'm happy with the way it is going, but he wants to try new things,as do I....... Any other things we have tried have been his idea, so now he wants me to come up with some. Help please, ideas anyone? I'm quite reserved when it comes to talking about sex, but lost for ideas here......:(
Try the 69er
talaniman
Dec 18, 2007, 10:43 AM
Get a pole for the bedroom, and give him a real lap dance. Dress up like a Klingon and mate with him. Oh gosh, I have to many ideas. Try those first and comeback in an hour.
biggsie
Dec 18, 2007, 11:15 AM
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--Mayo Angelou
idesign17
Dec 18, 2007, 01:16 PM
Depending on what you like and what you are willing to do, I have a thing for being submissive/uncooperative. Not necessarily rape, per se, because to be raped for real is not sexy, but to have to be coerced, or held down, or play coy and make him get "angry" with me for not knowing what to do by feigning innocence. You can take this to as an extreme as you'd like. Pretending that it's your first time is hot too, telling him to go slow, wincing with imaginary pain... all in what you like and what gets you going.
Hope this helps
Aussieman
Dec 22, 2007, 04:24 PM
Lots of ideas, have you tried bondage, spanking, blindfolds, role playing like Master/slave, Boss/secretary, Doctor/patient?
Get creative :)
talaniman
Dec 22, 2007, 04:51 PM
Fill the tub with chocolate and... whipped crème.
stonewilder
Dec 22, 2007, 06:51 PM
Fill the tub with chocolate and ............................whipped creme.
Eww have you ever licked a melted Hershey's almond bar off a hairy man before? It seemed like a good idea at the time.
Spontaneouslemon
Dec 22, 2007, 07:07 PM
Read Cosmopolitan, there are many great ideas, and tricks in there.
Otherwise, just ask him. Ask him what feels good, and what turns him on.
Try different positions, in different places, wearing different outfits.
And see what works. But more importantly, have fun with it. If you're doing something that makes you uncomfortable just for your boyfriend's own pleasure, than it's not worth it. Find something new that works for the both of you.
stonewilder
Dec 22, 2007, 07:09 PM
Ok I'm dead serous on this. It's a little weird but I've never been accused of being normal. It's called monkey sex (I came up with that myself). I've only had one guy that was ever crazy enough to play it with me... man I miss him! Anyway both of you act like monkeys and make all the monkey noises. You can pick lice off each other, hang off the bed in different monkey positions, you can even jump on the bed if you want to. Oh yeah and the only rule is you can't talk, remember you're monkeys. Hey don't knock it till you've tried it! It's actually a lot of fun!
talaniman
Dec 22, 2007, 07:18 PM
I'll stick with the chocolate, My wife is not hairy. We do play Tarzan/Jane , but cheetah ain't allowed.
stonewilder
Dec 22, 2007, 07:28 PM
Cheetah more fun than Tarzan, Jane would like cheetah! Tarzan would like cheetah Jane too!
uncertaingirl
Dec 24, 2007, 08:45 AM
Ok I'm dead serous on this. It's a little weird but I've never been accused of being normal. It's called monkey sex (I came up with that myself). I've only had one guy that was ever crazy enough to play it with me... man I miss him! Anyway both of you act like monkeys and make all the monkey noises. You can pick lice off each other, hang off the bed in different monkey positions, you can even jump on the bed if you want to. Oh yeah and the only rule is you can't talk, remember you're monkeys. Hey don't knock it till you've tried it! It's actually a lot of fun!
MMMMMM Like I said earlier... We isn't in the first flush of youth, I don't think his heart would cope!! Thank you all for your ''input''... I am very grateful. I have tried new things in this relationship. My main problem... (not right wording, but) my 12 year old lives with me, so... I do have to consider his feelings... i.e. whether he can hear us!! OMG
:eek:
talaniman
Dec 24, 2007, 09:35 AM
MMMMMM Like I said earlier...We aint in the first flush of youth, I don't think his heart would cope!!! Thank you all for your ''input''... I am very grateful. I have tried new things in this relationship. My main problem...(not right wording, but) my 12 year old lives with me, so....................I do have to consider his feelings...i.e. whether he can hear us!!!! OMG
:eek:
So good to hear you are concerned for your mans health,:rolleyes: and your child's... feelings.:D Send him out to play and take care of your man. He is more durable than you think.:eek:
stonewilder
Dec 24, 2007, 10:12 AM
MMMMMM Like I said earlier...We aint in the first flush of youth, I don't think his heart would cope!!! Thank you all for your ''input''... I am very grateful. I have tried new things in this relationship. My main problem...(not right wording, but) my 12 year old lives with me, so....................I do have to consider his feelings...i.e. whether he can hear us!!!! OMG
:eek:
If I read right you are in your 20 and 30's. You make it sound like you're in your late 60's,on Viagra and with a heart condition! Stop thinking like that! Sex is suppose to be fun, exciting and playful. I know your son must spend the night with family and friends sometimes, if not it's time he did. Girl open your mind, loosen up and have a F-ing good time... literally! I'm 42 years old and would still have the monkey sex if I could find someone who wasn't such a stick in the mud. Oh, speaking of mud...
Emm Lura
Dec 24, 2007, 10:49 AM
MMmmmmmmm Thanks for your comments, Choux. As for young persons sex lives, well, we aren't ''young'' as in 20's or 30's. I was married for 22 years to a boring in bed person (god knows why I stuck it so long)..He was married to a ''prude''. I am willing to try new things, don't get me wrong, but am at a loss as to what!!!!
Just because you aren't necessarily in your 20's or 30's doesn't mean you can't get wild.
This may just be me but I love oily sex. Especially after a very romantic massage and then your bodies slide against each other and it is very erotic and sexy. For me, it always feels the best when my breast are smashed against his chest or if my nipples are barely grazing his chest. Oil will make this feel even better. It's not exactly wild but I think you will both enjoy it.
Also, I've heard of (but never tried) getting something to tie around the both of you that way you don't really have a whole lot of room to move around. Of course let it have some slack but it makes the "simple positions" like missionary a little more entertaining.
I think I may have to try that. :D
Also it may be a good idea for you to buy two different sex books. You read one and him the other so it can be a surprise what you spring on him and visa versa. That should spice you up for a while.
Good luck!
Aussieman
Dec 24, 2007, 03:16 PM
Talking about mud... there is jelly wrestling :)
And what a nice way to die if you think his heart won't cope :)
Ash123
Dec 24, 2007, 03:40 PM
So, any of this work?
uncertaingirl
Dec 24, 2007, 03:55 PM
Not into him dying, thanks but thank you for all your input... taking it all on board, bar the monkey!! He don't like me cummin on him because he is too hairy...
Aussieman
Dec 24, 2007, 04:01 PM
so, any of this work?
Yes, not just any of them, ALL of them, if you do it right :)
stonewilder
Dec 24, 2007, 05:18 PM
Humm... cucumbers, bananas, pop sickles, honey?
Aussieman
Dec 25, 2007, 03:25 AM
humm....cucumbers, bananas, pop sickles, honey?
And if they don't work you still can eat them in bed :)
smoothy
Dec 27, 2007, 07:41 AM
Watch some porn movies with him... find out what tickles your fancy so to speak. For example what works for my wife is the last thing either of us expected. That's a good way to find out stuff you might not think of. Trust me, you CAN keep the excitement in your sex life, I'm going on 17 years and its better now than when we first got married.
Nothing is more boring that the same thing, the same way year after year. That will explain many people running around on their spouses, or just not having sex more than a few times a month or year.
2personal
Jan 8, 2008, 02:23 PM
I could be hear all night suggesting things, its difficult without knowing what you do already. Maybe to challenge his DEVOUT hetro side, you could dress up as a man, strap on a dildo and get him to suck you off... just for a change !
2personal
Jan 8, 2008, 02:26 PM
I could be hear all night suggesting things, its difficult without knowing what you do already. Maybe to challenge his DEVOUT hetro side, you could dress up as a man, strap on a dildo and get him to suck you off, when you think you might have , you could flick natural yogurt in his face to add to the effect... just for a change !
TxOcelot
Jan 9, 2008, 10:42 PM
From listening to your comments, have you considered a role reversal? Have you taken control? Have you ever owned him? Perhaps an evening of you being to dominant of the relationship?
Plan it out, from 5pm through 3am when you leave him panting and so tired he can't move. Plan the time so it allows for both of you to indulge in aspects of your life and devotion, but more importantly, plan out what you want him to be doing and tell him; have him perform 45 minutes of slow back massage on you, then small kisses down your body tell he lingers upon cunnilingus tell you climas. Let him know you are in the relationship for real and fully and if he stops at any time you are going to pick up the ropes and get your desserts reward.
Partners are about surviving and driving on. Sometimes in our core we want to know the other is part of our life, our carrying on and moving forward. Within the realms of sexual depths it is the same, we want to know that our partners are part of our lives, our continuing on.
So plan out the night if you are generally the submissive. Let him know that though you are submissive in nature, you still know progressive/exploration is a positive path of the relationship.
EIFS EXPERT
Jan 10, 2008, 03:10 PM
I got it.
Purchase one of those witch's mask and place under the bed...
Purchase a standard flash light and put under the bed...
Turn off the lights before getting into bed...
Ride him as usual, w/oohs and ahhs...
When he's about to bust...
Slap him with all your might across his face and...
Dump ice cold water on him from the night stand...
Start talking like the exorcist, " Fvkk me, Fvkk me!"...
Reach down and put the mask on...
Turn on the flash light.
Don't forget to duck.
Synnen
Jan 11, 2008, 12:19 AM
Can we PLEASE take this poster's question seriously?
Any more facetious comments will result in the closing of the thread, and all "funny" comments being deleted.
The OP isn't mocking YOUR questions--please don't mock hers.
EIFS EXPERT
Jan 11, 2008, 09:21 AM
When articulating the various methods of sustaining excitement in the bedroom one must be fundamental in...
Oh forget it.
Ash123
Jan 11, 2008, 09:31 AM
If two people want eachother more than anyone else in the world - the sex is usually pretty good.
When this emotion fades, is challenged, or is not there at all, we have to decide to take action:
Talk.
Talk.
Talk.
Or break up...
If you are crazy about each other - there is no reason why you cannot voice your fantasies to each other.
Otherwise you are with the wrong person...
That is sometimes the toughest thing to face of all....Even more than mediocre sex....
smoothy
Jan 11, 2008, 11:13 AM
My b/f wants me to come up with new and ''strange'' ideas to spice up our sex life. I'm happy with the way it is going, but he wants to try new things,as do I....... Any other things we have tried have been his idea, so now he wants me to come up with some. Help please, ideas anyone? I'm quite reserved when it comes to talking about sex, but lost for ideas here......:(
Listen... don't stress it. He is comfortable enough to reveal his fantasies to you. Don't you have fantasies of your own? Some you might not want to reveal?
My wife is able to tell me her fantasies... we play with them but that doesn't mean she expects me to do them. Some guys would be offended if their wives disclosed a fantasy like mine did to me. She'd like to see me with 4 really well hung black guys... well you can figure the rest.
Trust me that isn't going to happen, nor does she expect it to. I'm not upset by it, its only a fantasy... the fact she feels strongly enough about me to tell me that fantasy and others tells me a lot about her conviction to me.
Bottom line... only try what you feel comfortable trying. And don't feel pressured into anything. If he is worth having, he won't pressure you into anything.
hajt70
Jan 11, 2008, 03:09 PM
I think he wants a threesome but afraid to ask you.
mraquino21
Jan 11, 2008, 03:36 PM
I think in some way any man would love a threesome. If you don't ask you'll never know. Are you will to have one? If so, ask him you can even set up rules together about both of you picking out the person or it might turn him on even more if you picked out the person especially if it is another women. Make it fun but set some rules like going to a hotel so she's not in your house or whatever. It could be a lot of fun if you are both secure enough in your relationship to not get mad or upset. Also have you ever felt interested in another women? I ask because for your first time you could say you want him to ONLY watch you and a women together then after your done he can come over and taste you and finish the job with you. This is my husbands fantasy.
Synnen
Jan 11, 2008, 03:48 PM
Wow... where the heck did the threesome idea come from?
She's reserved about sex as it is--why add trouble?
uncertaingirl
Jan 12, 2008, 05:58 AM
I think he wants a threesome but afraid to ask you.
Oh, he has asked... and got told in no uncertain terms where to go!! It's not for me... :mad:
MycheleXoXo
Jan 12, 2008, 07:41 AM
Ok... I've got some ideas for you-There are many things you can do w/o really having to venture into the "strange and unusual"... just these simple things may be what he's looking for... if not, it will probably be fun finding out...
*these will be basic-if you'd like more in-depth, all you have to do is ask*
**Anything that does't make sense, again, just ask :)**
-Use the fine (and almost lost) art of "mental foreplay"... Give him something to think about that will make him absolutely crazy to get his hands on you!
*tell him about anything you've been doing (you don't have to DO it... just make him THINK you did) to get ready for him... such as masturbating, or looking at yourself in the mirror, touching yourself as you did, as you thought of him... give him every single detail! Again you don't have to do anything, although I think it's better if you do... only you can decide this one-just think of something you think he'd enjoy and then describe it in length using your voice, expressions and body language to communicate to him how much you want him...
*Show him "dirty" pictures... men are visual... they LOVE to SEE things that are sexual- of course each man is different on what he prefers to look at!! Careful! You may have to do a bit of "secret" research to find out what he likes (unless you already know)-Most men enjoy pictures of 2 women making love or very explicit pics of a man and woman... make it a "shocker" Say something simple like, "Hey honey? I saw something interesting and wondered if you'd give me your opinion on it?" He won't see it coming and then it'll hit him hard! (uh.. no pun intended)
*Show him erotic pictures of YOU. Have a trusted and I mean TRUSTED girlfriend take the pics or if you have the equipment you can do it yourself...
*Mail him an explicit photo of you-no notes or return address-just kiss the back of the envelope... he'll get the point (Only do this if there is absolutely no way anyone else will get the picture!! )
*Ask him to take pictures of you... that'll get his attention...
*Try reading him something erotic... and most men are not going to enjoy anything like a harlequin romance novel... it'll have to racy...
*This one is great! The look on his face is priceless... secretly record (audio) the 2 of you while having sex... splice it into the middle of whatever song you choose... like you've set up a romantic dinner and have music playing? Then out of the blue.. grins I loved this one!
*Write him a very explicit note-about what you plan to do to him when he returns from work(or where ever)... slip it secretly into his lunch, pocket that you know he'll get into... some place you know he'll find it w/o others finding it first!
*Give him an unexpected call when the two of you are apart-tell him anything you think will get him going... make sure to give juicy details then hang up quickly... suspense and anticipation... great combo.
*If you're out in public together, look him in the eye and act like your talking about the weather so no one would guess what you're saying... then tell him explicitly what you plan to do to him when you finally get home-in a very normal voice-then smile and change the subject...
*Send him sexy lingerie (for you) in the mail...
-try moving sex to someplace not the norm... seduce him unexpectedly in a different room of the house-this one is simple but does work... Outside! Of course where no one else will see the two of you, but this is a great one.
-Call him at work with a "trivia question"... tell him if he gets it right you'll be his "sex-slave" for 2 hours that night... if he gets it wrong? He must be your "slave"... don't make the questions too easy or too hard! If he gets the question wrong? Tell him he'll have another chance tomorrow and the next day and the next...
-Use props... your own hair, washable body paints, erotic oils, silks, mirrors, feathers, fruit, spreadables such as honey or whipped cream, ice or popsicles
-there are many, many erogenous zones that you might not be aware of that may in fact really turn him on... (I'll give you some of them I know if you want) Find them and use them...
-One last thing because I've got to get back to cleaning my house! While having sex with him, bring him right to the edge of having his orgasm... (if you can't tell PM me and I'll tell you how to learn this) When he's close suddenly stop and just lie on top of him for about 10 seconds... once he's calm, continue with what you were doing (or do something a bit different) until he's on the brink again, then suddenly stop again... ONLY DO THIS ABOUT 3 TIMES OR HE'LL HAVE A DIFFICULT TIME ACTUALLY CLIMAXING!. if he objects to what your doing the first time, just tell him he'll be pleasantly surprised and to trust you because when he does finally , it will be very intense and I'd just about bet $ he'll want you to do this again!
Hope this helps!
Good Luck!
XoXo
Mychele
ayashe
Jan 14, 2008, 10:09 PM
First, open up with your boyfriend about your sex life. The mind is the most powerful sexual tool! Then find your limits and boundaries together. Is he looking or a rough sexual encounter? Maybe something public? Or is he just asking you to come out of the bedroom, and use the kitchen table? Too broad a subject to get ideas here... you might be surprised what he is trying to tell you.
voula03
Jan 20, 2008, 06:22 AM
Why not suggest a threesome with another girl and seee his reaction?
uncertaingirl
Jan 20, 2008, 06:25 AM
why not suggest a threesome with another girl and seee his reaction?
Mmmmm as I said before, in a reply, NO WAY... It's not my thing but he would love it. I couldn't handle the jealousy aspect of it, seeing another girl all over him, he knows this because he has suggested it.. I went ape!! So... NOPE!:mad:
simoneaugie
Jan 20, 2008, 11:35 AM
The slapping idea made me laugh too. It reminded me of "fire and ice." Don't know if you have tried it yet. Have some ice cubes near the bed (ice chips are better.) When he is about to climax, press ice to his balls. You can also do oral with ice in your mouths. It's different anyway, and most guys really like it.
Guys like surprises, the unexpected. Try bounding out of the other room naked, or wearing a coat only when he thought you were completely dressed. Surprise him in odd places, like the laundry room or the locking bathroom at a grocery store. Men appreciate risk and excitement. If you are excited about the activity it tends to be contagious.
However, if you do not feel safe doing something, say "no, let's finish this at home."
YellowBrickRoad
Feb 6, 2008, 09:27 PM
My b/f wants me to come up with new and ''strange'' ideas to spice up our sex life. I'm happy with the way it is going, but he wants to try new things,as do I....... Any other things we have tried have been his idea, so now he wants me to come up with some. Help please, ideas anyone? I'm quite reserved when it comes to talking about sex, but lost for ideas here......:(
You are lucky you have a boyfriend who wants sex.
I have to play with the vibrator every day.
Sexy Guy Ohio
Feb 22, 2008, 03:06 PM
Hmm, this 1 got me thinking!! First, no offense to other answer but I wouldn't test his hetero side. 1 of 2 things will happen, he will either be mortified that you are dressed as a man and have a larger plastic manhood, or he will love it and might start prancing around in heels saying "stop it silly" lol
My suggestion is 1 I like. Take a ice cube and put it inside you. It will be warm it will be cold, warm, cold, warm... and above all... will def be hot and wet. You as well will get a lot of pleasure out of this.
OK, someonelse with something creative to add please. I want a few myself.. lol
uncertaingirl
Feb 23, 2008, 12:41 PM
Thank you for all your input guys and gals... It is much appreciated. Things are on the up, pardon the pun! But I'm still not sure about talking during sex and actually asking for what I want...
clafairey
Feb 23, 2008, 01:39 PM
I am shy during sex vocally also, my partner has found a way to get me to. We have the whole dom/sub thing going on. I am submissive, when we have sex, she makes me very horny and then just randomly asks me what I want her to do exactly whilst teasing. If I don't answer, she stops and I get so frustrated that I end up needing to say what I want. It works and doesn't make me feel uncomfortable if it's done in this way. It makes you feel so desperate to climax that you know you have to be more vocal to get it. It's quite fun. You should maybe get him to try this. Another way is for him to ask you questions during sex which have just a yes or no answer, it kind of edges you in a little more.
As for spicing things up in other ways, I think most of what I would come up with has been said really. The threesome thing, I completely understand where you are coming from on that one.
kraz
Feb 24, 2008, 01:51 AM
Some very interesting stuff to try out! :eek: I like the ice cube idea, I think I will try that one.
This isn't strange but can be exciting, it's the thought of maybe being caught. Having sex in a "public" place. Examples, in the sand dunes, under the canopy of a big tree, in the lake or pond, or pool, or sea, in a field under the stars, in the car by the side a the road, but just out of view of people.
We have also read erotic fiction to each other in bed, never get to finish to entire story though (borders have a great selection of short erotic stories for couples)
dragnlady5
Feb 24, 2008, 03:26 PM
A lot of it depends on how open you are to experiment. You guys could get on Yahoo chats and cybersex with someone to get things started, there are numerous games to be played, don't always think sex has to be in the bedroom try other rooms. Rent some adult movies, Toys, Toys, Toys.
chella169
Mar 12, 2008, 02:30 PM
My husband and I have a very exciting sex life and are always looking for new things... needless to say we've done a lot of things people would consider "strange" lol... have you ever tried bondage? It doesn't have to be rough but it's a thrillin experience to know that your in full control, or toys? That's always fun I myslef have numerous vibrators and dildos... from what I hear guys enjoy watching a woman please herself. What about watching a sexy movie together or just having sex in new and exciting places the high you get from knowing you can get caught and knowing your doing something your not suppose to is one that is completely unimaginable in a great way... if that's too much for you just try dirty talking during sex asking ? Like what type of things turn him on... what turns you on? What he would like being imaginative or real
smoothy
Mar 13, 2008, 12:32 PM
Try viewing different kinds of porn... its a fairly discrete way to find new things that turn either or both of you on. Go into the video store with him and look at the covers... rent a couple you both give a nod to.
However that's more for a Married couple that already have made the lifetime commitment to each other.
If you are still casually dating its really a different ballgame as it takes years of routine sex to become boring... not months.
If he's bored already that might be a warning flag to heed.
jayden308
Mar 19, 2008, 05:58 PM
Well trying 69 position, the butterfly and any other kama sutra positions really spices things up... especially having sex in different areas of the house. I mean when he comes home, just surprise him by giving him a nice sentual old fashioned blow job. If you are not ready to swallow, have a towel near by. Don't tell him anything but, honey I want you to close your eyes and just relax, I've got something I want to give you from the bottom of my loving heart. Might sound a little like a cliché, but it damn well works, reasure him it is what you WANT! To give him something for him and you to both enjoy. You see, spontaneous sex is definitely the best, unplanned and charismatic in pure lust.:p
kortneyg
Mar 23, 2008, 09:42 PM
There is a book that my husband and I bought one time, it was great. I wish I could remember the name. I bought it at Waldenbooks, but anyway it had pages for him and pages for you. The pages were silled and only had a price sign on the cover to let you know what the project would cost. When you openned the pages it gave you something to do with your partner (something sexual) once you got everything you need for the plot, there's an invitation to invite your partner. They have no idea what to expect, it's so fun.
One of the things that I had to do, drove him WILD! I blindfolded him and tied his hands together where they were out of my way. Then I went and got a hot cup of water and an iced down cup of water. Start with the hot, let it sit in your mouth for a bit, then go down on him. After a couple of strokes, change to the cold. It will drive him CRAZY in a good way.
Good Luck
Flightbrief
May 27, 2008, 08:09 AM
Try wearing something sexy. A very short skirt with thigh-high stockings and a white blouse with nothing on undernieth. Perhaps give your b/f a blowjob in an unexpected place, the car - or a theater. We all like having our balls played with and licked / sucked. Masturbate together have an orgasm in front of him, talk dirty!:p
Give him a book of fantasies and suck him off while he reads. See what turns him on and then do it! Strip, dance and play. We most all like an angel on the street and a whore in bed, reverse the roles a bit and be naughty in public, away from home.
Have fun.
Married 27 years and still horny for each other.