I would really like to know why men love getting head so much. Some men would rather get head than have sex so I'm just wondering what is it about getting head.

Servitude,submission to do something with some 'degradation' to it.

Just a thought.

KBC

Because it feels so good!

Not every guy loves head... most guys I know perfer sex rather then head

I agree - sexual intercourse is better - but oral sex is also very stimiulating and pleasurable - both giving and receiving.

Just wondering on the post above... how is oral sex both giving and receiving? How can the girl be getting any stimulation?

Just curious

Isn't it obvious - it's giving when the man performs oral sex on his partner. Many men enjoy receiving oral sex from their partner and reciprocating by returning the favor

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Mixed feelings here...

I've been in a relationship where I never received oral, and desperately wanted it...

Then later in a relationship where I received, for a time, almost only oral, and wound up desperately wanting intercourse...

For me, oral is a completley selfless act... whether its male or woman performing on the other partner... although either can be a nice prep to intercourse.

The sensations are different... as a man, I can say that oral can, if done well, apply more pressure and also be just as lush as intercourse... that said, there is also a loss of contact with the woman's body as experienced in sex.

So... why are men obsessed? It feels awesome. Period. And when we don't get it, it's the thing we know we want for xmas but can't seem to get.

Is it the best sex? Can't answer that. It is unique and it has a proper place in the sexual relationship. I think most healthy sexual relationships don't rely on it and don't deny it.

By the way, do you receive great oral? Only reason I ask is that the women I've been with that were able to get off well orally didn't seem to question the "value" of returning the favor. So is part of the problem that you maybe aren't being satisfied orally?

number 1 oral sex can't get a guy hiv.


PLEASE do NOT say can't get hiv by oral!!

The rate of infection is generally lower, but "cant" is NOT true!!

Bad, bad answer.

Primary HIV Infection Associated with Oral Transmission | Factsheets | CDC HIV/AIDS (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/oralsexqa.htm)

Hello SW:

Well, a chick has about 5 things going for her when she's giving head: she has her lips, 2 hands, all her fingers, a tongue and her teeth. Chicks who are good, use 'em ALL.

She can't do near as much with her vagina (although some can).

excon

And here I always thought it was because they could just lay back and not have to do any work!

I don't like oral unless I'm absolutely sure this she is totally into turning me on and enjoys the sensation of having me in her mouth. Actually, I love to go down on her. I love when she is writhing in extassy (sp?), squezzing my ears with her legs, and pulling my hair. It gives me a rush of sexual power over her that I can totally send her to outer space without using the obvious man-object. Yes I enjoy the whole thing and anal (perhaps topics for other blog-streams) but lots of times I love to dive!

Why do girls like receiving oral? Are you for real? Because-IT FEELS REALLY NICE. I would have thought it was obvious.

It just feels incredible...

Wife would say the same thing. She loves getting it as much as I do. And Like me she really loves to do it as well.

Smoothy, you said to me : "Not if you ever actually went out with a women that new what she was doing."
I am a women, so obviously I never dated one. I am married to a man.

To just lay there, and feel good, oh yeah!!

Some men are turned on by women who will submit to them.

Why do men like head so much...

... hahaa

... why do men like beer so much? Why do men like naked women? Why do men like the new murcielago?

... because it

1. feels good
2. tastes great
3. looks sexy
4. you just want to ride it.

... not in that particular order... for any of them.

Some men are turned on by women who will submit to them.


By KBC, Servitude,submission to do something with some 'degradation' to it.


Confused?? What is submisive or degrading about oral sex, for men or women? Is there something I need to know, or is it you don't like to give head? Pleasuring my partner is one hell of a turn on.

No chance of surprise pregnancy and slim-to-no chance of contracting an STD.

Confused???What is submisive or degrading about oral sex, for men or women?? Is there something I need to know, or is it you don't like to give head?? Pleasuring my partner is one hell of a turn on.

I think what KBC is referring to is when the act is performed with one partner on their knees whilst the other stands. Clear submissive and dominant stances, though the thrill for me isn't in degrading my partner, but when they are enjoying the act. Especially when it turns them on, to turn me on! Oh yes!

number 1 oral sex can't get a guy hiv.
number 2 guy can't get girl pregnant
number 3 easy clean up. convinient
number 4 feels good

It's a known fact that people who engage in any type of sexual activity rather it's intercourse, anal, and oral can get an STD. Go to search and research the information or better yet ask a physician. Now a person can use a condom for anal and intercourse for protection but not any type of condom. And for oral sex a person may use a dental dam.

Being in a monogamous relationship is te best way to protect yourself and enjoy sex without those other contraptions. (dental dam?? Doesn't sound sexy to me!)

I would guess for the same reason I like oral sex... 'cause it feels so darn good!

Dental dam don't sound sexy. Do an STD sound sexy?

Dental dam don't sound sexy. Do an STD sound sexy?


seductive (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/seductive.html) disagrees: I'm just giving advice. You're grown do as you please. You find out the hard way. And there is a such thing as cheaters. You can't be around that person 24/7.
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Sorry you took it as a slight, but it wasn't, and if you knew me, my comment was in reference to my own long standing marriage of three decades, in which has been monagamous. I've never had an STD, or a dental dam, or used a condom, in that time. What you never heard of monogamous relationship? Or been in one? Don't be so defensive, it WAS nothing personal. I wasn't giving advice, just my opinion, know the difference.

seductive disagrees: I'm just giving advice. You're grown do as you please. You find out the hard way. And there is a such thing as cheaters. You can't be around that person 24/7.

Seductive, please let me call your attention to the guidelines regarding using the comments feature... https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/forum-help/using-comments-feature-official-guidelines-24951.html

Smoothy, you said to me : "Not if you ever actually went out with a women that new what she was doing."
I am a women, so obviously I never dated one. I am married to a man.Sorry about that... I made an assumption rather than check the profile... my bad.

When I give oral, it's a huge turn on for me, especially if he is vocal during. It's probably the best foreplay, and I can do it myself. Besides, it feels good to give a gift.

Pleasure is pleasure.

Great question friend one which I would enjoy answering...

Though I am a female I think I can explain it quite simply. Besides most sensor points are located in that area, it feels great to them. And when you are good at giving them, mixed with the love of doing it to a man you have the perfect reaon why they would want it.

If you don't like doing it, don't. Don't try to act or force yourself to enjoy it. However, ask a girlfriend or a friend who is good at it to teach you how to do it to provide the most satisfaction for him. If then you don't enjoy it or prefer it at least you have tried.

Most of my girlfriends hate it. But there are some of us who really do enjoy it for ourselves as much as for them. We each have our own likes and dislikes when it comes to sexual interaction.

And here I always thought it was because they could just lay back and not have to do any work!

Hmmm... guess I have to go tell my wife she's a lazy lover since she loves getting oral?.

hmmm... guess i have to go tell my wife shes a lazy lover since she loves getting oral?...


Heck, I love getting oral too!

EVERYONE likes to lay back and let someone else do all the work sometimes.

no u cant

Guess you know better than the docs at the CDC?

Can I get HIV from oral sex? | Questions and Answers | CDC HIV/AIDS (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/qa/qa19.htm)

Primary HIV Infection Associated with Oral Transmission | Factsheets | CDC HIV/AIDS (http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/oralsexqa.htm)

I think ill trust the pros here. You can pretend its not a risk and ignore health experts...

Lol... well... I think most of the guys like oral... because we just lay back and let the girls do the work... XD... sorry for saying that... but oral is fun... and I love it

And by the way... is this seriously?. the male can get HIV from the girl giving head?.

yes i do u can't get hiv from a girl giving u head

the journal of the american medical association addressed this issue almost 8 years ago, stating that up to 8% of new infections in a study could be attributed to unprotected oral sex.

if you think I'm going to trust you over one of the most respected medical journals in the world, you are as clueless as you sound.

you are propagating a lie. The risk is lower than other forms, but not 0%. An infection rate as high as 8% in a population is higher than the rate of pregnancy while using the pill... it doesn't happen a lot. It happens. The higher rate was in a population engaging in risky behavior, but that doesn't mean it cannot happen.


there's a point when you can choose to be ignorant of the facts.

itd be laughable that you rebute some of the most respected medical associations such as the CDC or JAMA with "no you cant"... if it weren't such a serious issue.

lower probability IS NOT the same as no probability.

Aids is only one diease, there are many others that are out there. And before anyone gets the wrong idea, Aids and other STD's can be transmitted by oral sex, so be careful who you eat.

Here... lets spell it out so this doesn't go on and on...

Hiv transmission is typical through blood, vaginal fluid, breast milk, and semen...

Don't see saliva there, right? That's why you think it cannot happen.

Well.. ever see your gums bleed when brushing your teeth? Think that there cannot be micro abrasions or cuts in the mouth? Think that your unit rubbing inside the mouth cannot cause these micro cuts? Wrong.

That's where transmission can occur. Has occurred. Will occur.

It isn't about saliva, its about blood.

Just as it isn't about the sweat on an athlete, it's the blood from a gash.

So... this has gotten way off topic, but I just think we need to resolve this misconception. The chance is lower, but still there.

That said... oral is still a fantastic option for sex for many, many reasons.

Less work for the guy I guess. Sometimes its nice just to relax as it were. :)
Its one of the best things you can do. I know its my fav gift. It means a lot to a guy when this is done.

Because it shows the girl really cares and does something for you. And in turn we do the same :)

It can't be all just one way

Why do we love head?.
Let me count the reasons..

1. It feels really good.
2. What's not to like.

I Ask My Husband That All He Tells Me Is " It Feels Good" Im Like Ok! But That Still Does Not Answer "my" Question. I Guess We Will Never Know B Cus We Are Not Guys.

A women's mouth is the next best thing. It's 98 degrees and has a tongue. Now if we can do something about them teeth. :D

A womens mouth is the next best thing. It's 98 degrees and has a tongue. Now if we can do something about them teeth. :D

The tongue does make a difference... and no, I'm not saying I prefer oral over intercourse. I've had a stretch of time where all I got was oral and I desperately missed intercourse, and likewise, going a long time without oral can work on me too.

But back to the tongue. For the guys... do you notice a difference between the sensations when the woman is traditionally facing you, her feet toward yours whether you are standing or not, versus when she's turned around 180 degrees, as she would be in 69 or if she's just on the bed approaching you from the other direction?

I think the 69 approach feels more lush. And with 69 you get your hands all over great parts of her body.

Now as for pleasing the woman in 69 to orgasm, I've never done it. The angle is all wrong. It might get some things going, but I've never been able to get a woman off in 69, and one lover said she liked to please me that way, but just to leave her alone. Again... bad, bad angle for me to hit all the right areas for her.

So men... do you notice what I do about the approach angle?

And while were on it, women who like oral... where do you like to be when you get it and what approach is best.

I've had most success with the woman on the edge of the bed, often a pillow under her tush, me on my knees on the floor. Any thoughts?

Exactly what you have to do will depend on size and build of both people. While I am a fair bit taller than my wife I find the 69 position can work pretty well if you do it right. What position she is in makes no difference as long as its comfortable for her. But 3 weeks out of 4 69 is preffered. I'd say 90% of the time we can get within 30 seconds of each other when getting off. And hitting it right on the head (simultaneous climaxes) about 40% of the time.

Try that if you are just casually dating... Being married for a long time does have several advantages.

Exactly what you have to do will depend on size and build of both people.

I couldn't agree more. I remember of one time when I was with a lady who was... shall we say, pleasantly plump. Well anyway, that woman damn near suffocated me because she was so into it, not my skills per se, I think it was my whole face. I literally had to bench press her the hell off me. Needless to say I never called her back. :mad:

Interesting about the diff experiences w 69. My partner needs a really soft, light touch and she also tends to need to be mentally focused on herself, without a lot of other "distraction" when getting oral... so I think part of it is mental distraction, and part is she prefers a diff approach. Done the way she prefers, and with her mentally in it, oral is mostly a guaranteed home run.

Previous lover, I think, couldve done fine w 69, since she was soooo easy to get off, but I honestly can even recall our trying it!. been too long. Must not have been memorable, eh?

And before her, always seemed like 69 was used as precursor for intercourse.

Do you notice a difference in sensation from the position like I mentioned (seems more "lush" with her tongue gliding over the top instead of under)?

do you notice a difference in sensation from the position like i mentioned (seems more "lush" with her tongue gliding over the top instead of under)?


Not with the way my wife does it. :D

69 while your both on your sides, is less strenuous, and longer sensually.

I agree oral on your side, at least for a guy, feels different... and "good" different.

Lets face it... oral is great, however you can get it.

But I just noticed the last few times my partner did oral in a 69 position without her getting oral... and she's does all oral well by the way... when approached from "above" like 69 it felt different, meaning better.

Part of this is mental. I like how it feels different to run my hands over her back and to feel her rear so close... not to mention you have more freedom to touch her chest, but I also thought the tongue over the top felt better.

We haven't heard from the women yet...


Women...

Wheres the best place to get oral? Any "props" like pillows?

I've already said edge of bed is my mates preferred place.

Smoothy said it, it's about focus. I find it very difficult to focus on what I'm getting when we're doing a 69. Number 1 problem for my girlfriends and I who have talked about it is that no matter how you slice it, someone's b-hole is in someone's face. It can work and is an incredible exercise in a full circle connection. It's just easier to give and then take.

Angle, all I can think about is that he can stick his nose in my...

I just can't concentrate on 2 things at once... I like to either focus on giving, or focus on receiving.

That being said... receiving standing up (leaning against the wall, or the back of the couch for support) is nice, as is just laying on my back, propped up with a pillow or 2. The best way, though, for me, is to just sit on his face :)

It's a different feeling. Sometimes its just hype. But honestly I don't think its better than actual intercourse(without a condom)

I'm a guy and I would rather give head than receive. It is not that I don't enjoy it, but I want my Woman to enjoy sex as much as I do. Really, he is just being selfish.

giving head to a beautiful woman with beautiful skin and clean genitals is really... mmm. U make her feel a goddess, giv her pleasure,. the satisfaction on her face is a sight u can never forget. Also the aroma of a woman's p**** is really wonderful it makes u feel - I got no words. Also it's the best expression of love. It's the ultimate expression of love - that u love a person so much. The woman will quiver her hips, push herself on your face, wanting more - (some people will find this writing offensive - its not meant to be offensive - but if u love a person to the extremees - giving head is the best thing u can do.) the person will never for get it.

Smoothy said it, it's about focus. I find it very difficult to focus on what I'm getting when we're doing a 69. Number 1 problem for my girlfriends and I who have talked about it is that no matter how you slice it, someone's b-hole is in someone's face. It can work and is an incredible exercise in a full circle connection. It's just easier to give and then take.

Angle, all I can think about is that he can stick his nose in my...I'm pretty good at having two different things going on in my head at once. Maybe that's why its easy for me. I'm multi-lingual and can hold conversations with two different people in two different languages without a lot of trouble.