Well I had left a question lastnight, but I really didn't get any answers so I am going to try this again, my husband has 3 children by 2 different women we pay child support for all of them, but one of his ex's we have been battleing her in courts for 5 years. He had signed his custody rights over to her, and we have been trying to get visitaion, he hasn't seen these two children in 5 years she will have no part in it, we had went to a mediation a few months back and she had agreed if my husband would sign over his rights to a parent then we wouldn't have to pay her any more child support. She backed out I figured she went home and told her husband and he didn't want any part of it because he only works about 20 hrs a week and she doesn't work at all, she had just had a new baby in April so that is her excuse, I don't know but we are tired of keeping up 3 homes I know that is part of it when you have children but if you don't even get to see them it is really hard, we pay her over 1,000.00 a month it is just really hard on us we both work all the time never have any extra money for ourselves, BUT... last week she had contacted our lawyer and all of a sudden she said if we will agree to pay her 3,000.00 she will file the petition for my husband to give up parent rights and she said we won't have to pay her any more child support. We are trying to come up with the money to pay that , but we are afraid that when we go to court that the judge may going her favor again and say your going to give her the 3,000.00 and sign your rights over and still pay her child support, I am just wondering if we all agree that we can not have to pay any more child support? It has been really hard on my husband not being able to see his kids but he said it has been 5 years in 4 more my oldest will be able to come and see me on her own if her mother doesn't have her brain washed. People don't realize someitmes when you say things kids are listening, and they believe everything you say until they get old enough to make their own decisions.
If anyone could help me with this queation it is greatly appreciated and may God bless you.

I'm not sure how to answer this but it sounds like an awful situation. It is my understanding that if your husband gives up parental rights - he loses the privilege of seeing the kids.

Even if he signs over rights, he could still be required to pay child support. The only way out of it is if the mother agrees to stop payments or a judge rules in your husband's favor. Parental rights and child support are two different things. Rights pertain more to custody and a legal right to make medical decisions. Child support is just a set dollar amount to help support the child financially as the custodial parent sees fit (meaning toward food, cloths, etc.).


I'm sorry, but chances are good he'll continue to pay at least until each child turns 18.

I agree with LearningasIgo, and everything else set aside. If he is the father... she cannot stop him from seeing the kids ifyou guys go through the court system, especially if he is paying support... I say tell him to work a little harder on seeing his babies! Money over kid... let us think about it for a minute!

Handing over three thousand dollars to make this child support go away? It is not going to go away, until her new husband adopts the children. Terminating rights does not terminate child support.

Yeah I can understand where your coming from, my ex wife doesn't work and her husband can't keep a study job, I know its not a lot to pay but the 581 dollars a month for my daughter I feel sometimes its not child support but its supporting my ex wife and her new husband, but she refuses to either give me custody or have her adopted by her step dad. Its sad when women use children as pawns sometimes people need to grow up and take the initiative and make something of themselves. Its like she says she does bad mouth me in front of her and she makes up all kinds of stories, but I know that it will have no affect because I do get to see her at least once a year which is a good thing, and another thing, its your right as a parent if your paying child support that you get visitation rights.