My wife is refusing to have sex with me repeatedly. We used to have 3 to 4 times a week but now once in two weeks for the last 8 months. Does this mean she is seeing some one.

Does she disappear for hours and not have any REAL explanation?
Act sneakier than usual?
'Talk' on the phone or computer more and not want you to know who it is?

It could be a physical or mental problem that she feels this way---chemical/nutritional imbalance, low energy, depression, stress,.

No that is not what that means... maybe she is depressed, maybe she feels unloved, she may be ill, maybe she feels you pressure her or that you are self centered. There are many reasons for a person to not want to have sex. Talk to your wife. See if she is OK both physically and emotionally.

It may be that you are married and she doesn't feel like it. Not all of us are sex fiends, LOL. It was new in the beginning... now she is probably comfortable and feels she can get away with being lazy and just say no out of pure tiredness. Give us more info please.

Yep it can be she feels like she is in a marriage that lost the romance along the way.

If that's the only change you've noticed, then probably not. Are there other reasons to suspect she's cheating? Such as times when her whereabouts are unaccounted for? Suddenly paying more attention to her appearance? Mysterious phone/online conversations? Examine all the evidence carefully before jumping to conclusions. Have you tried directly communicating with her about her recent decreased sexual drive?

To be truthful it doesn't nesiserily mean she is having a affair, she could just want a break.
There is more to a relationship than sex and I think she might want to know what that is, just because she ain't having sex with you doen't mean she is cheating on you she is probabily getting tired or something.

I would talk to her to see what's up in the bedroom, before jumping to conclusions. If that's all the evidence you have , then you can't just worry about her cheating. Talk to her, she could be ill.

So many good answers here. Is she just refusing sex, or has other physical contact changed?

No that is not what that means...maybe she is depressed, maybe she feels unloved, she may be ill, maybe she feels you pressure her or that you are self centered. There are many reasons for a person to not want to have sex. Talk to your wife. See if she is ok both physically and emotionally.


I agree. Some women lose there sexual desire after having a child, they feel unattractive and un-sexy. She could also have post partim depression if she recently had a child.

Communication is the key to a happy and healthy marriage and sex life. Talk to her about it. That is the best way to get to the root of your problem. It could honestly be such a simple answer but you are over analyzing because you are unsure of what is going on.

Best of luck to you.

I would say no at this point unless there are things that you either have not noticed or left out. Maybe there are other factors like stress.