Hi, I am 23 years old and I'm thinking about getting married. My boyfriend is leaving for the Army on January 21st. We don't know if we should wait till he gets back to get married or get married before he leaves do to the benefits?

That really depends entirely on the two of you. If you marry, you will be considered his next of kin. Right now the next of kin is probably his parents. You will be eligible for military benefits like heath insurance and commissary privileges. What do you want to do?

Do you want to get married because you want to promise to be with him forever, or because of the benefits of being a military wife?

I think you should marry him when you both feel ready. Either now or when he comes back.

You shouldn't get married solely for military benefits but if you both really love each other and want to be married to one another then I say go for it. It makes things a little easier if you're married before he goes to basic training. It's a hassle for him to change all of his information after he's already gone through training. But if you guys aren't really ready don't do it. Marriage is hard and a military marriage is even harder. Trust me I'm a military wife and the army comes first. So be prepared to come second.

I have the same question... well kind of. I don't know if me and my boyfriend should get married before or after boot camp. We know that we want to be with each other forever and were not sure when we should get married. We want to live together when he gets out but I'm not sure if I'm allowed to move in with him on his base unless were married. Any thoughts??