How to gain self confidence and how to maintain that for future ?

Hello, amitsaxena!

So, what is it now that you are having trouble with as far as self-confidence?

Please remember that like you, I am a performer of music. Also, I hope that you remembered some of the things that last time that we visited together.

Hello a:

Fake it till you make it. What?? You think WE'RE not doing that?

excon

Try it, act self confident, see how people react to you. Just as good as the real thing... so, now you do feel more self confident. Ex cons got it going on!

Learn to appreciate the good things in your life, including you:)

Hi,
Self confidence begins in your head. Extremely powerful are your thoughts in your own mind.
Start to think "I can" instead "I can't.
Magdalena

To others posting, and for some background, please see https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/personal-growth/how-feel-confident-stage-152621.html

Nothing builds self confidence like being in a good relationship, just got to find the confidence to ask someone you like out, try book 'the aladdin factor' by jack canfield, it's a goodun.

There are different ways to build self confidence. One of the things have done was to, simply, start over. Starting with some introspection.If you do not understand yourself there can be no real self confidence. You must understand your strengths,weaknesses,and limitations in the quest for real self confidence. Take all the information you have gathered throughout your life and try to make your descions basted on the accumulation of that knowledge. Take small steps with this, before you know it you will be running. Prepare for some stumbles,but keep your head up! I would throw those stumbles into your lake of knowledge, you are gathering for yourself.The more experiances in that lake the more information you can draw from. Becareful when you gain confidence in yourself keeping all the same friends might not be easy. Have fun on your journey it's a good one!

There are different ways to build self confidence. One of the things have done was to, simply, start over. Starting with some introspection.If you do not understand yourself there can be no real self confidence. You must understand your strengths,weaknesses,and limitations in the quest for real self confidence. Take all the information you have gathered thoughout your life and try to make your descions basted on the accumulation of that knowledge. Take small steps with this, before you know it you will be running. Prepare for some stumbles,but keep your head up! I would throw those stumbles into your lake of knowledge, you are gathering for yourself.The more experiances in that lake the more information you can draw from. Becareful when you gain confidence in yourself keeping all the same friends might not be easy. Have fun on your journey its a good one!!
Thank you everyone...

So, are you feeling more self-confident now?

So, are you feeling more self-confident now?
Hello Mr.Clough

I don't know how , but after discussing my first question with you, I felt some change within me , and I observed myself in public appearances , that I am feeling more confident... Even I got the complements from the official Band lead... that " Amit you are looking more confident now then ever before..... "

I think I have stepped in to the right track now... Thanks to all who suggested so many tips and tricks. A special thanks to you too for helping me coming out of my problem...

Hello Mr.Clough

I dont know how , but after discussing my first question with you, I felt some change within me , and I observed myself in public appearances , that I am feeling more confident... Even I got the complements from the official Band lead......that " Amit you are looking more confident now then ever before..... "

I think I have stepped in to the right track now ... Thanks to all who suggested so many tips and tricks. A special thanks to you too for helping me coming out of my problem...

Hey, thanks a lot! Ever onward and ever upward! :) It really does take practice. Are you having more performances than you used to? I know that I will get more self-confident when I have more performances.

Hey, thanks a lot! Ever onward and ever upward! :) It really does take practice. Are you having more performances than you used to? I know that I will get more self-confident when I have more performances.
Actually it is not the performances.. but yes now I can sing any where I am asked to... be it a gathering of 10 people or 100 people :-) so that much of confidence I think I have gained till now... In last few days... I attended some 6 or 7 small parties and everywhere I sang.. and got lots of appreciation also... I feel more confident now then before..

I observed now my performance in front of the people is much more better then before :-)

I think if u be yourself and if some doesn't like you then there loss.

Originally Posted by Clough
Hey, thanks a lot! Ever onward and ever upward! https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/images/smilies/smile.gif It really does take practice. Are you having more performances than you used to? I know that I will get more self-confident when I have more performances.


Actually it is not the performances.. but yes now I can sing any where I am asked to... be it a gathering of 10 people or 100 people :-) so that much of confidence I think I have gained till now... In last few days... I attended some 6 or 7 small parties and everywhere I sang.. and got lots of appreciation also... I feel more confident now then before..

I observed now my performance in front of the people is much more better then before :-)

That's great! I used to have such fear of being in front of people, that if I had to go up a flight of stairs to the room where I needed to speak or perform musically for them, I would go up and then go back down the stairs right away. My self-confidence was that bad. I did eventually go back up the stairs and do what I needed to do. But, it was really hard.

I can now speak or do a performance in front of 1,200 people with no problem. It doesn't mean that I'm not nervous, but that because of the practice and getting used to being in front of that many people, my self-confidence is where it should be.

Even the best musical artists in the world still get nervous before a performance. If they weren't at least a little nervous, they would play or sing as well.

You and I are living proof that such fears can be overcome!

Hi Amit,

Do some SEVA means help to other person I think that's will help u to gaining the confidence

Originally Posted by arjitashukla
Hi Amit,

Do some SEVA means help to other person I think that's will help u to gaining the confidence


What's SEVA, please?

Thankyou everyone....
"Passing on knowledge that will help someone else, will help the passer even more" _Clinton Mccoy.