I know its time to start living my own life. He left me a year ago without explanation. I know he loves me and is dealing with issues of depressen, post traumatic stress, etc. from being overseas. I want to wait, but I also need to live my own life.

I'm scared of being without him and I'm scared of waiting for something that may never happen.

My question: after being apart for so long do couples ever reunite and actually work out?

It is always possible but you need to stop making excuses for his behaviour, no matter what he is going through does not give him a right to leave you without any explanation. Sorry but this is over. You need to let go of this and if for some reason you can not it is time for you to seek counseling. Not saying anything is wrong with you but they will give you ideas and ways and suggestions on how to move on from this experience. A year is a long time. It is over in my opinion. Time to live your own life and time to stop waiting for something that will not happen, or if it does your both two different people and I do not see it working out.

Just my opinion and you're the one that asked the question. I think you already know the answer just wanted to make sure, right? I think you need to stop living in the past and move on to a better future and start thinking about what is best for you.

Joe

Get on with your own life. You don't need anyone to be happy.

If you are scared of living on your own, you need to start living on your own, You need to start getting on withyour life and stop worrying about this other person. Get involved in chariteis, helping others and find your own way. You need to be your own person, before you can be a partner in a relationship

I know it is difficult for you to accept what is happening. I was in your shoes and I know how it feels. The best thing you can do is live your life. Learn to love yourself, you don't need them, they need you. If you do not work out, I highly advise you do so. I started working out after my break up and I feel / look great, it gave me confidence. Go the book store, buy self help books, they work wonders and they keep your mind off things. Go out with your friends, meet new people, go out on dates!! Everything will fall into place, you will be happy again trust me.

I agree with Jiser..you need to work on yourself and be happy with your own life before you take on other people's problems! You have to help yourself before you can help anyone else!