The next time I have sex with some one it will be after I have a ring on my finger and we have said wedding vows. My friend says that because of the fact that I'm not a virgin and I was married before that I do not have the right to tell any man that I want to wait.

Your friend is wrong. It's your body, your morals, your test of a man.
Good luck!

Your friend is full of "crappola." You have every right to tell a man you want to wait, regardless of your past. Personally, I think you're doing the right thing. People who think like your friend set themselves up to be taken advantage of. "I'm not a virgin, so you can screw me at will?" Please, give me a break!

That what I thought but I wondered if every guy thought the same thing he did. Id rather kill myself than live in a world that thought like that.

Your life! Do what YOU want to do,when you want to do it.If they don't understand tell 'em where to go. :cool:

What a load of rubbish. Your friend is not very supportive of you. No one should be judged on their past - no one should be judged full stop. It does not matter what anyone else says - you do what you want to do.

If anything I have total respect for what you are doing. We all learn from our past mistakes that is what makes us so much wiser as we get older. You go girl - just ignore your friends comment - it might be her opinion - but I think your find a lot of people disagree; especially all the wonderful people on this site,

Your friend has been over-ruled on this one!

Hi,
"You don't have a right to tell a man you want to wait???"
That is the quote from your friend. Your friend is a Jerk.
You have the right to do what YOU want to do, short of Murder, etc.
Too many men are out for what they can get... you know what I mean.
You are doing the right thing by waiting for the right man. I know that out there, somewhere, is a man who is just right for you. A man who has respect for you, caring, love, and puts you first in his life. Someone who listens to every word you say, and doesn't want to talk about himself all the time.
I applaud you by wanting to wait until you find "Mr. Right".
When you do, he will understand, and will not try "pressuring you" into doing it.
But, be prepared for a surprise... when you find the right one. You might want to then, with him before marriage. You never know, but your attitude is very, very good about it. But, again, don't be surprised if you change your mind. You will know, and so will he.
I wish you the best. You deserve it.

Just a small question - if your friend is so judgemental and really thinks that of you - is she really a friend at all??