panda_girl
Nov 22, 2007, 02:23 PM
I met this lad, we got on really well and started dating. This is a big move for me as I have never been in a relationship before because I'm too scared.
I'm not fat, I'm within the healthy bmi for my height and wear size 10/12 UK size clothes. However my BIG issue is that I have stretch marks. I know I'm not alone, but I've never met anyone else who has the same problems as I do. In the past I have never committed myself to anyone because I am ashamed of them so much. But this guy he's just so nice and I really like him, the thing is he is quite sexual with the way he talks and I think once he gets into a serious relationship with someone who he can trust and is happy with he really enjoys sex. However I feel that I am just going to let him down, as how can he enjoy sex when he has to look at my marks? They disgust me, they aren't particularly red, its just in some light they are like indented and look like ruts in my skin, in other lights they are barely noticeable because they're whitey/silver, yet there are just too many all over my boobs, thighs, hips (i.e the most sexual places)
My issue that I need help with is over coming this fear, as whenever he makes a sexual comment I tend to ignore it, because I freak out, not because I don't like it, because I'm worried that the sooner I encourage him the sooner he will see me naked and I just fear that I am really going to dissapoint him and let him down so much. Its also he asks me what my insecurities are yet I want to tell him this issue of mine face to face so he can see how much it effects me, but I wouldn't know where to begin with telling him.
I just feel guilty, that I've impressed him so far and that he really seems to like me, he said I'm perfect on the inside as well as outside, yet he hasn't seen me yet and when he does I think ill just let him down and the upset that that will cause is unbareable to think about... please help me because I'm petrified I really want it to work, yet I don't know how to break it to him and I'm scared it will effect us as no one wants to look at stretch marks, I feel like I'm really letting him down! :(
I'm not fat, I'm within the healthy bmi for my height and wear size 10/12 UK size clothes. However my BIG issue is that I have stretch marks. I know I'm not alone, but I've never met anyone else who has the same problems as I do. In the past I have never committed myself to anyone because I am ashamed of them so much. But this guy he's just so nice and I really like him, the thing is he is quite sexual with the way he talks and I think once he gets into a serious relationship with someone who he can trust and is happy with he really enjoys sex. However I feel that I am just going to let him down, as how can he enjoy sex when he has to look at my marks? They disgust me, they aren't particularly red, its just in some light they are like indented and look like ruts in my skin, in other lights they are barely noticeable because they're whitey/silver, yet there are just too many all over my boobs, thighs, hips (i.e the most sexual places)
My issue that I need help with is over coming this fear, as whenever he makes a sexual comment I tend to ignore it, because I freak out, not because I don't like it, because I'm worried that the sooner I encourage him the sooner he will see me naked and I just fear that I am really going to dissapoint him and let him down so much. Its also he asks me what my insecurities are yet I want to tell him this issue of mine face to face so he can see how much it effects me, but I wouldn't know where to begin with telling him.
I just feel guilty, that I've impressed him so far and that he really seems to like me, he said I'm perfect on the inside as well as outside, yet he hasn't seen me yet and when he does I think ill just let him down and the upset that that will cause is unbareable to think about... please help me because I'm petrified I really want it to work, yet I don't know how to break it to him and I'm scared it will effect us as no one wants to look at stretch marks, I feel like I'm really letting him down! :(