Hi, my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 2 months when she left me for another guy and I still love her and I want her back but it hurts so much to see her go.

Would anybody be able to give me some sdvice on how to get over the break-up and move on?

Thanks

Please I really need help I can't get over her on my own...

Well, the question is would you want to get back with her, she dumped you for someone else. Think about that real hard, 2 months, perhaps your infactuated with her, and you are mistaking it for love. As I always say if someone wants to be with you nothing can keep them away... These next few days will be hard but you will begin to get better.. Think of it as her loss, and make sure not to keep yourself on standby, surround yourself around friends, go out, do something productive, don't contact her, delete her numbers, if it help, remove everything that reminds you of her. I would suggest you take this time and focus on yourself... when someone usually leaves for someone else it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with her needs, that was a selfish move, but it happens to the best of us then they realize they made a mistake and sometimes they come back and sometimes they don't but by her doing this the trust level has already been ruined.. If you were to get back with her you would be walking on eggshells... THink about it..

Yeah it certainly doesn't sound like love. 2 months into a relationship, the other cheats and you still want them. That sounds like complete infatuation. You will get over it. Even if it's on your own. I mean some people get divorced after 10 years and get through it alone. 2 months is a relative blink of an eye compared to that. After two months you knew very little of her and lo and behold you came to find she is a cheater. So now you got to know the real her, not the her that's in your head. What you need to do is go out and "grow your life". That means get strong enough where if by a girl after 2 months breaks up with you, you never say again "I can't get over her on my own". You do that by sticking with a game plan. Start working out, vigorously if you have to. Start some hobbies, make some friends, go and volunteer your time at a homeless shelter or for the environment. Read a bit about the psychology of relationships. Get yourself strong and smart and things like this will be more easily traversed.

Thanks for the help! She really hurt me so I'm going to try as hard as I can to get over her thanks for the advice! I'm definitely going to think this through

Time is the only answer, start going out with frineds and living your life.

It hurts so much, I keep going to text her and I do and she doesn't answer so I don't know if she is ignoring me or trying to help me because she told me she still loves me and she said she is seeing this guy mainly because he reminds her of me... the thing is, I think I may want her back

Yeah it certainly doesn't sound like love. 2 months into a relationship, the other cheats and you still want them. That sounds like complete infatuation. You will get over it. Even if it's on your own. I mean some people get divorced after 10 years and get through it alone. 2 months is a relative blink of an eye compared to that. After two months you knew very little of her and lo and behold you came to find she is a cheater. So now you got to know the real her, not the her that's in your head. What you need to do is go out and "grow your life". That means get strong enough where if by a girl after 2 months breaks up with you, you never say again "I can't get over her on my own". You do that by sticking with a game plan. Start working out, vigorously if you have to. Start some hobbies, make some friends, go and volunteer your time at a homeless shelter or for the environment. Read a bit about the psychology of relationships. get yourself strong and smart and things like this will be more easily traversed.

Or the girl was in a rebound relation, and now her ex has come back. That doesn't make her a cheater. But that makes our guy a fool. He was into her so soon and without a minimum of information about his ex.

The guy isn't her ex. He's her friends brother.

One step in getting over a break up, is remember all the BAD times, and you soon won't want to be back with her. Although... two months, probably not many bad times squeezed in there.

There really weren't many bad times, we do have a bit of distance between us and we didn't get to see each other all the time... she said she left me for the other guy because she missed me and the new guy she met(which is her friends brother) reminded her of me... getting over this break-up has been very hard, I'm not a person that cries a lot and I have found myself crying every night and every morning, its not like soft crying its more along the line of quietly cryuing like a baby.

Hi, my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 2 months when she left me for another guy and i still love her and i want her back but it hurts so much to see her go.

Would anybody be able to give me some sdvice on how to get over the break-up and move on?

Thanks
Now I have a major problem, I want to get back together with her but my friend told her that she was making my life horrible when she wasn't and now she won't talk to me, I need advice, anything,.

Thanks for your help

...she said she left me for the other guy because she missed me and the new guy she met(which is her friends brother) reminded her of me........

Hi Schwartz
What do you mean by this comment above , I don't get why she would leave you for this new guy if he reminds her of you. WHY would she not just stay with you??

It was a long distance realationship

it was a long distance realationship

Ok thanks that clarifies it , so how old are you guys?

15 each

Its young for the feelings I have for her but its just amazing how much I care for her, its ture that you truly don't realize what you have until there gone

15 each

Well you are both still really young with your whole lives in front of you. You really just need to let her go at this point. If you start contacting her you are not only hanging on to false hope but you will also push her away. You see this is what happens , when you push they pull away.

its young for the feelings i have for her but its just amazing how much i care for her, its ture that you truly dont realize what you have until there gone

That's true , but believe me there will be others , like I said you have your whole life ahead of you.

Its so hard no to talk to her, she tells me she loves me, but I feel as if I'm being ignored

its so hard no to talk to her, she tells me she loves me, but i feel as if im being ignored

They all say "I love you" And look I'm sure she cares for you a lot , BUT she has made her decision , respect that and let her go. If she really "loves you" she will come back. But don't put your life on hold waiting for her. If she knows you will always be there for her it just makes it easier for her to explore other avenues , which is what she is doing.

Thanks a lot for your help, I'm so broken up over this I can't even eat, I shove the food down my throat do because I refuse to starve myself, I miss everything we ever did together... also, what do you mean by avenues?

She also said that she is undecided over who she wants to be with, do you know anything I might be able to do/say to win her back?

thanks alot for your help, im so broken up over this i can't even eat, i shove the food down my throat do because i refuse to starve myself, i miss everything we ever did together.....also, what do u mean by avenues?

Listen , don't beat yourself up about it , what your feeling is perfectly normal when someone breaks up with you. Read all the other posts on this forum and you will see you are not alone.

Time is a great healer , and anytime your feeling down just get on here and vent. There are always people willing to listen and give you advice. Important thing for you is YOU , just remember that. So don't worry about what she is doing or what she is thinking , concentrate on yourself.

Go out and be with friends etc. and before you know it you will be on the road to recovery. But that won't happen until you LET GO.

She also said that she is undecided over who she wants to be with, do you know anything i might be able to do/say to win her back?

If she wanted to be with you she would be , don't push her that is the best advice I can give you. If she knows you aren't hanging about waiting for her she may just miss you.

The thing is I'm really not waiting around, of course I want her back but I'm also going out and living my life, and I'm not pushing her, I told her to do what she feels is right and to take her time and that's there's no one rushing her

the thing is im really not waiting around, of course i want her back but im also going out and living my life, and im not pushing her, i told her to do what she feels is right and to take her time and thats theres no one rushing her

GOOD!! You are doing the right thing then. It is now up to her. Out of your hands.

Ok, thanks again for your advice and for your help. You're a great person for helping people like this.

Thanks

Ok, thanks again for your advice and for your help. your a great person for helping people like this.

Thanks

My pleasure , and I hope it all works out good for you. Keep us posted.
Or if your having a bad day just come on and vent. You'd be surprised how much it helps :-)

Thanks again

How I envy you and the fact it was only 2 months with this girl. I have a similar story, but we were almost a year and she left me for someone else. She said all the 'im not sure what I want' and also said she thought she wanted to come back to me, but alas. We lived together as well so man did it suck (and still sucks 3+ months later).

Find comfort in the fact that you will be able to get over her, and more quick than most of the people posting here. There is no way you actually 'knew' this girl after only 2 months of dating, and she is showing her true side now.

We may have only dated for 2 months but we have been friends for 4 years

She also said that she is undecided over who she wants to be with, do you know anything i might be able to do/say to win her back?

Best way to help her make her decision, is disappearing. We usually want back what we have lost.

we may have only dated for 2 months but we have been friends for 4 years

you were friends for 4 years, and it seems like the friendship worked better, don't you think so? I can imagine, you forgot the part "friends too" in the relation, and you went into it too seriously and a little bit more dependent on her. Now, what is a relation at all? Is a more deeper friendship, + the element intimacy. But the base is the friendship. And that's how should have reacted in the relation. Friendship, romance, intimacy, fun=relation.

The thing is that I want to be more than "just friends" with her. I really care about her.

the thing is that I want to be more than "just friends" with her. I really care about her.

The thing is that you are not used to lose and you are feeling lonely. Yes, you care, we all care about someone, even about our friends. And you can care of her, also as a friend, a really good friend. Why don't you accept it?

You might have to accept the fact that she doesn't want anything more than friendship with you. Do you want to risk losing that to push the dating? Because you will lose the friendship (if its not gone already). It could also make it 10x more awkward if you have mutual friends.

As nice as it would be, you can't make someone like you or want to be with you. Your initial question was for advice on how to move on and get over the breakup, but it really doesn't seem like that is your goal.

My goal was to get back together, then to move on, then to get back together, but now its to move on, I'm done waiting for her to make her decision so I'm just going to accept the fact that were just going to be friends like you guys said I should.

my goal was to get back together, then to move on, then to get back together, but now its to move on, im done waiting for her to make her decision so im just going to accept the fact that were just gonna be friends like you guys said i should.

I can guarantee you are going to be friends with her, because you still have some hopes, you can make it work. YOU can't make it work, whatever you do. Try to tell yourself this! You can do nothing, but take care of yourself. If she will be free someday, and in the same time have some crushes on you (here is your part of helping her to got the crushes), she may come to you. Otherwise, it will be like that, friends. Can you deal with it ? Being friends, but without false hopes ? I tell you a little story of mine. Yes, it may happen, but depends. Before 7 years I told a girl-friend of mine, my hidden feelings toward her, but in somehow I knew it won't work, as it was LDR and there were not so much ways of contact. Anyway, it didn't worked out, but we still remained friendly, and after I came back we spoke to each other. 1 year went by, and now was her turn. She began to like me, but in the same time was her turn to go out of town. Anyway, its another story that. Out of sudden, she even sent me a message one night (after 4 years my proposition), telling me she liked me and so on... booooo. Anyway, we came in relation, but in somehow it was not meant to be. Anyway. I was just saying that yes, it may work, but it depends on them, not you. They go, and they come, you just can't do nothgin but move on with your own life.

Yea I understand now, cause this relationship was a LDR also

yea i understand now, cause this relationship was a LDR also

Well, it was a LDR, and it didn't worked out. Anyway, my point was that, being friendly, you leave them a door open, if they change their mind someday (and someday means even years). Buddy, when they want out, they want out. You can't do nothing. And you shouldn't. Just because its not worth. They are the one who goes out, sometimes even without a fight. And if they come back, that's your turn to accept them. Some of them come because they are free. Some of them come because they just lost someone else, and you are the one who may comfort their hurted feelings (they use you as a rebound). But they rarely come back because they love you! Common, someone who loves you, and respects you, and knows you are worth, etc, its not going to leave you like that!

Like because of the relationship we became really good and really close friends, like in our 4 years of friendship we were never this close... so we did get something good out of it :)

like because of the relationship we became really good and really close friends, like in our 4 years of friendship we were never this close....... so we did get something good out of it :)

Yes, be happy with that at least. And learn your lesson from all this.

Yea, I'm getting a lot happier now, and I'm starting to learn how to deal and get over the pain, its still really hard at night before I go to sleep but its bound to get better... oh and is it bad if we still talk all the time, but just like friendly really long conversations?

yea, im getting alot happier now, and im starting to learn how to deal and get over the pain, its still really hard at night before i go to sleep but its bound to get better.....oh and is it bad if we still talk all the time, but just like friendly really long conversations?

I'm not saying its bad or good. Being friends or friendly, is what it is. You act like with a friend. But I say don't be there for her all the time. You have a life too, right ? So take some responsabilities, and make your life a priority now, not her! You have to go to work, you go. Don't stay without doing things, or talk to her every day, because she needs your company (mostly this is what you will think you have to do). She had your company, she didn't wanted that. Maybe because you were too attached to her and all the time for her there, and that's boring sometimes. So act normally, like with a friend. Also remember that, you don't need her company. You may want or like her company, but not need it. You have to act independent!

Yea, thing is I'm always there for my friends, its just our conversations just don't end we keep finding something else to talk about, its cool, yet strange haha... I'm only 15 so I don't really have something to do everyday, I don't have a car yet and I don't get one for another year so I'm either outside with a friend or inside doing nothing

yea, thing is im always there for my friends, its just our conversations just dont end we keep finding something else to talk about, its cool, yet strange haha..... im only 15 so i dont really have something to do everyday, i dont have a car yet and i dont get one for another year so im either outside with a friend or inside doing nothing

Buddy, you are not exclusive anymore! Remember it to you. You have to do something without her! I know, its comfort to talk to an ex, cause they know you better than the others, but you have broken with each other. If she needs your company, she may still want more of you, and the less you give, the more she asks for your company. So, I say, do things independently, without her in it. I don't know what, but go to gym, go dating, do what single people do!

yea, im getting alot happier now, and im starting to learn how to deal and get over the pain, its still really hard at night before i go to sleep but its bound to get better.....oh and is it bad if we still talk all the time, but just like friendly really long conversations?

Hi Schwartz
Well you say you are still trying to get over the pain of losing her , therefore I would suggest not contacting her at the moment. Not only does she know you will be there as a fallback but you will not move on. You see you will take everything she says to you out of context and think all of these great things whenever she says nice things.

So therefore while you are probably making her feel less guilty about dumping you because you are showing her you are still there for her you are stuck at square 1 and not moving on.

Go No contact to heal yourself , then when you have healed and are not emotionally tied to her you can decide whether you still want to talk to her.

I'm not the great looking and I get nervous around girls... luckly I've made some friends that are girls :) I haven't been to my gym in a week, so ill probably do that, whenever I dig in my pocket and don't see a text or missed call from her I feel bad and then I go to text or call her and I say to myself, I'm not going to do this, the only way I'm getting over her is to stop doing this, so most of the time I put my phone back in my pocket but sometimes the urge is to strong

I should do that friend4u178. But the thing is we have been friends for so many years, if I suddenly stop talking to her she will start getting sad and cry and I don't want to do that to her, also would it be a good idea to just not answer her sometimes?

im not the great looking and i get nervous around girls....luckly ive made some friends that are girls :) i havent been to my gym in a week, so ill probably do that, whenever i dig in my pocket and dont see a text or missed call from her i feel bad and then i go to text or call her and i say to my self, im not gonna do this, the only way im getting over her is to stop doing this, so most of the time i put my phone back in my pocket but sometimes the urge is to strong

I didn't read the whole post of you, but now is more clear. You aren't ready yet, for any kind of relation, is this relationship or friendship, with her. For now, you have to heal your own wounds! It's a procces to be done, in order to go forward. Friend4u, made it clear.

i should do that friend4u178. but the thing is we have been friends for so many years, if i suddenly stop talking to her she will start getting sad and cry and i dont want to do that to her, also would it be a good idea to just not answer her sometimes?

She will get sad and cry So its OK for her to make you feel like that but not OK for her to feel bad? Come on she dumped you , for someone else.

i should do that friend4u178. but the thing is we have been friends for so many years, if i suddenly stop talking to her she will start getting sad and cry and i dont want to do that to her, also would it be a good idea to just not answer her sometimes?

Did you forgot yourself? You were sad, and cried, because she left you like that. Get some respect for you, and stop being a wuss! Stop acting like a big brother to her, you have your own dignity too! And you are a human being too. She should have known this, before she dumped you! Now, go to the NC, and let her think with her own mind on what's going on.

She will get sad and cry So its ok for her to make you feel like that but not ok for her to feel bad?? Come on she dumped you , for someone else.

He sounds as a wuss to me buddy, and in somehow, I can put myself in the shoes of his ex. You know, being there every time, without a challenge, and everything. That's boring, I have to say. And sometimes, this helps the dumper to get out of the relation, from that too much attention and boring. But sometimes, the dumper, because is afraid of staying alone, finds someone else, and than dumps the old one. Its not fair, but its human.

Ohhhh OK now I understand, I'm definitely going to No Contact, I don't want her to think that whenever she needs me ill magically appear for her because I just can't and I have my own life to live

ohhhh ok now i understand, im definatly going to No Contact, i dont want her to think that whenever she needs me ill magically appear for her because i just can't and i have my own life to live

GOOD!! So you see where we are coming from. Look after yourself FIRST. She dumped you and has made you feel like crap , so don't hold her on this pedestal and think she is some sort of goddess. Go NC and she might just realise that you aren't a wuss and you can look after yourself without her. Believe me women like men who are strong. That way too you won't lose your dignity and she will see you in a much better light in the future if you were ever to get back together.

Yea, the hardest part is the cell phone, then there's myspace

yea, the hardest part is the cell phone, then theres myspace

There are lots of hard things about a break up , it's not easy and no one will tell you it is. But everyone goes through it at some stage in their lives , but we all get through it. Just make sure you learn the lessons from it for your next relationship/s. Like I said yesterday you are still young , you have your whole life in front of you. And when you meet your next GF and are happy you will look back on this and realise how silly it all was and what a waste of energy to feel like you do now. It's your choice , you decide how you feel , don't let someone who has mistreated you control your emotions. And yes I know its easier said than done but YOU have the power , no one else.

Yea, that is true! Thanks for help you guys

Thank you to everyone who has tried to help me with this

One more thing, is it normal to write stuff like this after a break-up?

These I Wrote:
1) I fell in love with somebody who made me feel special, made me happy, but only to see it crash down to ashes, and I fell down, down into a dark and lonely puddle, unaware of the people who care, there in that puddle I sat and cried, hurt, alone and scared for what may be in store for me.

2) I sit here alone in my bed wondering why this hurtful thing happened to me, then I realize, why should I be the one broken up over this when she first said those 3 hurtful words "I Love You", she was the one who said "I want to be with you forever", but it's over now, no more will I love her, no more, I must stop thinking these dreadful thoughts of love, amd forget her, forget this time of pain and see, yes see all those who care for me.

3) Here, here I am crying over you, just as you wanted, inflict the pain on me, go ahead do it, I'll just ignore you, as you did to me, until you realize what you lost in me.

Perfectly normal.

OK, good lol, just needed to make sure

Why do you think there are so many Love Songs , listen to the words and you'll probably find that a lot are inspired by breakups. Listen to the song in the link below , it is about a Long distance relationship. Hope you enjoy it :)

YouTube - Plain White T's - Hey There Delilah (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EbJtYqBYCV8)

Wow, that pretty much sums up how I feel... that song hurts

wow, that pretty much sums up how i feel......that song hurts

My point being the things you are writing are perfectly normal , in fact what you should do is write down your feelings each day in a journal , you will be able to see how you are progressing. Believe me when you look back on it after a few weeks/months you really start to realise how much you are progressing.

Yea, I'm definitely going to do that, I just started the NC and it hurts already but I know it must be done

Well just remember once you start NC you MUST stick to it , the minute you break it you go back to square one , or Page 1 of your journal.

Allright, I'm going to do my best!

Good , keep us posted on your progress!

Ill be sure to, thanks for the advice

I got to ask something, during the NC what does it mean if she doesn't send me any messages?

Doesn't mean anything , in fact hopefully for your healing process that's what happens , because even if it might be hard at the start it will make the healing process shorter , just concentrate on YOU and don't worry about what she is thinking or what she is doing. It's out of your control.

OK, just needed to know, thanks again

No problem :)

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Lo, nothing happened... :)

Hey there schwartzy. I read your signature and realized how it appropriately coincided with your need to read Jiser's signature.

Who's Jiser?

Whos Jiser?

Jiser is one of our members , see link below.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/members/jiser.html

Yea I know, part of my signature I got from him... after I posted who is jiser I realized who it was haha

Hi, my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 2 months when she left me for another guy and i still love her and i want her back but it hurts so much to see her go.

Would anybody be able to give me some sdvice on how to get over the break-up and move on?

Thanks
You know what man, you shouldn't anticipate getting her back soon. But be sure in the long run-if you rearly care. It won't be easy! the fact that she left for someone else implies that she found something in that guy that fasinate her that is sadly larking in you. You need to know what it is learn it and master it better than that person. Evidence this chartacter to her indirectly. For know forget your pain and just be friends with her care for her and she will learn how to fall in love with you again. SURELY YOU CAN DO THAT,A HALF WIT CAN

you know what man, you shouldn't anticipate getting her back soon. But be sure in the long run-if you rearly care. it won't be easy!.the fact that she left for someone else implies that she found something in that guy that fasinate her that is sadly larking in you. You need to know what it is learn it and master it better than that person. evidence this chartacter to her indirectly. For know forget your pain and just be friends with her care for her and she will learn how to fall in love with you again. SURELY YOU CAN DO THAT,A HALF WIT CAN
Good luck

Yea, but I'm done with, I'm putting my feelings aside, and I just have to live my life because with everything that's happened, I'm just not intrested anymore, and yea I still care for her, but I must learn to forget those feelings

I'm so porud of myself this morning, I woke up at 7:00 to see that I had a text message from her which she sent at 6:30 and I'm so proud of myself that I haven't answerd :)

Hi, my girlfriend and I had been dating for almost 2 months when she left me for another guy and i still love her and i want her back but it hurts so much to see her go.

Would anybody be able to give me some sdvice on how to get over the break-up and move on?

Thanks
Just leave her.. trust in the saying that if you love a person,let her go.if she comes back to you then you're destined and for each other..

Yea, good point. I've let her go already and I have just started NC with her this morning, and I'm proud of myself cause I haven't answered her text message :).. like the urge to answer her just like dissappeared over night

yea, good point. I've let her go already and i have just started NC with her this morning, and im proud of myself cause i havent answered her text message :).. like the urge to answer her just like dissappeared over night

Good for you , and you should be proud. Now don't spoil it by contacting when you get the urge.

Oh man did I get the urge like 10 minutes ago, but I'm happy because instead of contacting her I went out to the living room and hung out with my sister... im working really hard at this

I have a problem :(... I think I'm starting to like someone else, and the girl I'm starting to like, is very close to my ex

But the one I'm starting to like lives like 2-3 miles from me, not over 1000

I broke up with a long term boyfriend, I cried all the time, if a song came on the radio that reminded me of him id get so upset. But I do believe that everything happens for a reason and I met someone new, maybe it was fate or something that I had to go through the break up to find that special person. I would advise you to fill your day with things to do, if your mind is always occupied then you won't have time to think about this girl xxxx

I broke up with a long term boyfriend, i cried all the time, if a song came on the radio that reminded me of him id get so upset. But i do belive that everything happens for a reason and i met someone new, maybe it was fate or something that i had to go through the break up to find that special person. I would advise u to fill your day with things to do, if your mind is always occupied then you wont have time to think about this girl xxxx

I don't believe in fate. Im someone who believes in "we, humans, are made to make our fate the way we want. it all depends the way we act". As for you, maybe your boyfriend was the bad one, maybe you were the bad one, or maybe there was no bad side, but your lifes were just apart and they crossed just for a couple of minutes in this 1 hour long life.

I have the same problem with some songs...


The girl I'm starting to like now likes one of my friends, but he doesn't know that she likes him and she has had sex before, "from what ive been told from my ex."

Any tips on how to get her to notice me?

I'm not that great with girls that I'm not really close to, me and my ex were very close that's wh yi was able to ask her out, I just don't know how to ask people that aren't that close to me out

Oh and, happy thanksgiving everyone!!

i have the same problem with some songs....


The girl im starting to like now likes one of my friends, but he doesnt know that she likes him and she has had sex before, "from what ive been told from my ex."

Any tips on how to get her to notice me?

I'm not that great with girls that im not really close to, me and my ex were very close thats wh yi was able to ask her out, i just dont know how to ask people that arent that close to me out

To whom are you crying yet ? Be a man, for god's sake! Again, you go to someone who likes someone else! What the hell are you doing? Wasn't the first hurt just enough??

I don't know if I like her yet that's the thing, she's a really nice and helpful personm

Yea I guess it is a stupid thing for me to do, and yea I really don't want to go through the first hurt again

I think my ex finally got the picture that I'm doing "NC" she texted me a lot yesterday but today I haven't gotten one which I'm sort of happy about and sort of sad about

i dont know if i like her yet thats the thing, shes a really nice and helpful personm

yea i guess it is a stupid thing for me to do, and yea i really dont want to go through the first hurt again

i think my ex finally got the picture that im doing "NC" she texted me alot yesterday but today i havent gotten one which im sort of happy about and sort of sad about

Do you hate this ex of yours? Or you still like her to the point to consider her to be with you again?? Why are you going NC? You may think she calls you, because as someone here said "she cares about you, but as a friend". COMMON!

Read this, and look at my posts about this topic "NC, friends or Friendly". There are a lot of things to be debatet, but as I still don't see any debate, I still believe it's the best way to act with an ex. Stop being childish, disrespecting her, because she left you. She may had her own reasons for leaving you. And the way you talk to us, that reason was because you were a wuss to her.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/why-does-she-want-know-how-im-doing-152967.html#post728128

I'm starting to understand here,I don't have feelings for my ex in the way of my wanting to be with her again anymore, I just want to be friends, and I don't hate her, I never did, I don't mean to dissrespect her, and how am I being a wuss?

im starting to understand here,i dont have feelings for my ex in the way of my wanting to be with her again anymore, i just want to be friends, and i dont hate her, i never did, i dont mean to dissrespect her, and how am i being a wuss?

Don't be offended if I called you wuss. You were, in some point during the relation. We all have been. And we all have been dumped. Is the moment when we don't take care anymore of our masculity, how to act around the woman, how to be the male, keep the attraction, the spark, etc. I was in your shoes. It just doesn't work that way. Lets make a question here. How is it possible, that every guy here, who acted just like me and you, has been dumped from their ex??

I'm not offended by "wuss" at all, I was just wanted to know...

Yea, probably like you said in your other post that you told me to read we lost the "spark", or we just became unaware of our needs and just focused on her which I've realized is a very dumb and pathetic thing to do, to stop caring about yourself is just like overdosing on painkillers or something, just without the deathly consequences

i'm not offended by "wuss" at all, i was just wanted to know...

yea, probably like you said in your other post that you told me to read we lost the "spark", or we just became unaware of our needs and just focused on her which i've realized is a very dumb and pathetic thing to do, to stop caring about yourself is just like overdosing on painkillers or something, just without the deathly consequences

I can't say anything else. I just say read the whole posts of mine. There are answers of what to do. If they work or not, its another thing. But in the same time, NC won't bring you anything new, nor the friendship. Friendly, makes a difference.

Yea, I have lost the feelings of getting back together with her, now I just want to be friends, but I'm just not sure if I should break the NC yet, it worked for me these past 3-4 days

yea, i have lost the feelings of getting back together with her, now i just want to be friends, but im just not sure if i should break the NC yet, it worked for me these past 3-4 days

No you didn't. You just can't lose the feelings for someone during the night, or as you say, during the last 3-4 days. Common, you were the one who came here like crying and asked us how to move on, and get over the breakup. Helloooo. Don't be so superficial. You know how you feel deep down. Anyway, do what you think its best to do, but I say, reconsider the whole thing. She is still there, waiting for a call.

but i say, reconsider the whole thing. she is still there, waiting for a call.



What do you mean by that?

what do you mean by that?

You see, it was interesting to you what I mean by that. Read my posts, and than you will understand what I mean with that.

Do you mean that she's waiting for a call to see how I feel or something?

do you mean that she's waiting for a call to see how i feel or something?

Do you want to learn something about your life and yourself?? Read my posts! And don't be so UNBEARABLE to know what I mean. I won't tell you more, read the posts! And find some truth there.

Aww dang it, aright, thanks for the help man

No contact is to heal YOU , not make her want you back. I believe as do many others that if you still want to be with her in a relationship (and don't kid yourself) you can't be friends with her right now. When you have healed and no longer want her as a GF sure then you can be friends. But if you be friends while you still want her you will read all sorts of things into what she says and her actions , this only gives you false hope.

I no longer want her as my girlfriend, I'm done with that, I can't take it anymore so I just let it go and deep down I just don't feel that way anymore, ever since this break up I've taken a different aspect to life and I've noticed that I like different kinds of music, different things its just an amazing feeling and I'm happy because I'm accomplishing all of this without her and I'm no longer mentally attatched, I still don't know if I should end the NC today or end it tomorrow, because I feel healed and I'm not kidding myself

Well it's good that you have healed in 5 days

I feel so good and it's like I never felt this way before, yea I was happy before the relationship and happy during it but now I just feel happier and you know, I may have conquered this myself but it would have been 10x harder without your guys's advice, id probably still be at square 1

Well it's good that you have healed in 5 days

That's what I said to him. It looks more like angry than healing. I don't know, but doesn't sound good. I guess he found someone else, as an emotional flow. I don't know, but in 5 days you can't heal yourself.

Thank you so much, to everyone who has posted on this question

Thank you so much, to everyone who has posted on this question

Goodbye!

Thank you so much, to everyone who has posted on this question

Pleasure , glad we could help!

Goodbye! It was a nice and positive experience talking to all of you...


And HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

I think I just figured something out, I don't think I ever loved her, I think it was infatuation because there's no way I could have gotten over someone that I love in 5 days

i think i just figured something out, i don't think i ever loved her, i think it was infatuation because theres no way i could have gotten over someone that i love in 5 days

I think you may have just nailed it , just took you 5 days longer than us for you to work it out :-) Good luck!

This is a hard day, even though I'm over her, it's still hard not to like cry because today was supposed to be our 2nd month

This is a hard day, even though i'm over her, it's still hard not to like cry because today was supposed to be our 2nd month

Do you see ?

Do I see what?

do I see what?

That you are not over her yet!

To me there's like a spark left but it's really small, like I don't feel like I once did for her but there's still a little bit there that's not bothering me at all

Wow, I feel so much better and she is rarely in my mind now

Well done schwartz , see we told you , TIME :-)

Hehe, nice, this gives me something to look forward to as well.. it's been a little more than a week since she dumped me.

It just takes time... surround yourself with friends, family, whatever makes you happy and will help take your mind away from the situation.