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beangirl
Nov 15, 2007, 03:13 PM
I am here because this is something I cannot talk to anyone about!
There is a guy I work with who I am so attracted to, but we are both married. I would never cheat on my husband, but feel so drawn to this man. I have never felt such a pull towards someone else before. Is there such a thing as chemistry? Pheromones?
We touch (not sexually) every chance we get, in a very caring way. Just a connection. He looks at me, smiles at me, winks at me, hugs me a lot, or just touches my arm or back when passing by. He told me I am his "favorite" (he's mine too) and is always happy to see me. We can go 1-2 weeks without seeing each other, and he will say "I haven't seen you for 2 weeks!" I mean, I know how long it's been... but he seems to also. We love working together, and nothing inappropriate has happened, even though we have been alone for short times. I don't think it will go further, but does it sound like he's interested? I think it's all in my head. I like him a lot. He is starting to dominate my thoughts. Thanks in advance for your insight!

kiki_doki
Nov 17, 2007, 04:50 PM
Ok, I can't say very much on this, but what I will say is, you are married!!


I would never cheat on my husband, but feel so drawn to this man. I have never felt such a pull towards someone else before.I don't think it will go further, but does it sound like he's interested? I think it's all in my head. I like him alot. He is starting to dominate my thoughts. Thanks in advance for your insight!

So you would never cheat? You already are, emotionally!Enjoying him touching you and touching him and looking forward to going to work just to see him. This pull, did you feel it with your husband?

What upsets me is that you haven't asked for advise because you feel bad due to these feelings you have for another man you are instead concerned with whether he likes you or not! You don't THINK it will go further, that's really not good enough for your husband. You need to distance yourself from this man if you care about your marriage and your husband.

peggyhill
Nov 17, 2007, 05:40 PM
Well, he may like you or he may just have a really outgoing personality. If you don't want things to go further, try to distance yourself from him. Spending less time with him will help you think about him less.