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cassylynn
Nov 14, 2007, 04:35 PM
So I was dating this guy for almost a month and at the beginning we hit it off something fierce,we just clicked it was amazing and soon after we became very comfortable with each other. Anyway we got along for about a week and a half then all of a sudden he started being very distant and pushing me away so I asked him what was up and he said he was scared because everything was happening so fast. The thing is the only reason things were happening so fast was because of him. He poured out his feelings on the table pretty early and also gave me pet names like baby and babe the second night we hung out. So he pretty much scared his self. Anyway I asked him what was up and he said he was scared and he apologized for pushing me away so I forgave him... things went back to normal for the next week it was perfect we hung out and everything was fine then one night he started acting weird again after he started getting comfy again I figure it was because he scared his self again... damn guys! So he started being distant again but this time when I confronted him he said I was an amazing girl and he still wants to talk to me but he's not sure on what level right now so I told him that was fine I understood so again we went back to normal except for when we were texting on the phone... all baby and babes stopped and were repalced with hey you,hun, or sweetie. So I started getting bugged so I started ignoring him and he didn't seem to mind because he didn't try to contact me at all. I just want to know how a guy can go from being so into you and spilling his guts about his feelings for you to not even talking to you. I thought I handled this pretty well but apparently not. My friends tell me I should ask him what's up but I don't know if that's a good idea because he's giving me signs he's not interested. I really need help I thought this guy had serious potential but now it's like there's a huge miscommunication from both of us and I have no idea how to bring up the subject or when to for that matter. HELP!! :(

Greatadvice4you
Nov 14, 2007, 04:59 PM
Guys are weird like that sometimes. They think one way one day and another the next. How long ago did he stop talking to you? Text him again saying something like"hey haven't talked to you in a while, whats up?" and see if he responds. If he does just keep talking to him and later on bring up a subject similar to the one your in like "so do you like anyone?" but in order to have a conversation like that don't ask him until like 3 or 4 text have been done.

Good luck!

450donn
Nov 15, 2007, 11:37 AM
Did you have sex with him? It is very likely that all he wanted was sex, and once you put out the challenge was over.

N0help4u
Nov 15, 2007, 02:22 PM
If you do get back with him make sure you communicate more. Ask him and remind him and reassure him regularly that you don't want to make him feel pressured and you are comfortable with your friendship and it is up to him to tell you when he is ready for a next level and that you are willing to discuss what each level entails as it comes along. Tell him you do not want to make him feel uncomfortable with you.

stonewilder
Nov 15, 2007, 04:31 PM
“I was dating this guy for almost a month….. ”
“……I thought this guy had serious potential”

I would guess somewhere between “almost a month “ and “serious” was where it went wrong.