My sister-in-law is giving up her 3 year old son for adoption. My husband and I are trying to help in doing this since we know it would be in the best interest of the child. (She is young and struggling). The father is willing to give up his rights since he really has nothing to do with his son. There is an adoptive couple that is a friend of the family that is interested in adopting him, how do we do this? Please help this isn't an easy thing to do with the holidays right around the corner. I should add that We live in VA (my sister-in-law and father of son live in NE) and adoptive parents live in VA as well.
Thanks,

My sister-in-law is giving up her 3 year old son for adoption. My husband and I are trying to help in doing this since we know it would be in the best interest of the child. (She is young and struggling). The father is willing to give up his rights since he really has nothing to do with his son. There is an adoptive couple that is a friend of the family that is interested in adopting him, how do we do this? Please help this isn't an easy thing to do with the holidays right around the corner.
Thanks,
Contact the social services.

They will make th3e rights decision for the child and will have his/her best interests st heart.

How does the father terminate his rights? Can he just write on a piece of paper that I, Father's Name, herby terminate my rights as Child's Name father so that Adoptive couple's name may adopt my child and assume all responsibility for above child.

Call a family lawyer.

It's not as easy as both birthparents writing down that they give up their rights and handing the child over to the adoptive parents. Adoption is something that MUST go through the courts. Some states have mandatory counseling involved for the birthparents (believe me, this is a very good thing).

A family lawyer would know who has to take what step to do this properly.

Right for the adoption to be legal and final, it has to be approved by a Family court. Therefore you need an attorney to draw up the papers. Find an attorney and let them do their job.