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natasha38
Nov 13, 2007, 08:15 PM
Here is my story, I'm a 37 year old latin woman, who got involved with a married guy he is 38. He was my boss, and when management found out about us, he got fired, of course his wife put 1 and 1 together and figured it out. After 2 months of hell at that job I quit.
I didn't see him or knew about him for 8 months, but never stopped thinking about him. Finally on his birthday 2 years ago called him to wish him a happy birthday (left a msg) he called me back, after that we would talk on the phone every day for hours, we finally reunited on the day of my b-d, and we found out that we still had feelings for each other. He offer me to work for him of course I took it (to know that I would be with him and making extra cash on the side) it was great. After a while his wife found out about this, because by then he had gotten me a phone and she found the bill. We broke up again, and got back after a couple of weeks. Well needles to say she found out every time we got back together. This last June we had a HUGE fight I ended up dialing his home phone #, I didn't say anything but she her heard his voice and hell broke lose. Next day he went home and promise me he would come back no matter what (swore on his kids) of course that did not happened he called me that same day and said GOOBBYE. He broke my heart. It was very hard for me, my family was visiting at that time, and because of work I went to Memphis so I had to push all my feelings aside, after 2 months I was starting to heal then again he comes back, by that time I found out that he was doing a marriage counseling thing, but again we talked and got back together. I don't know what to do I love him with all my heart but I know that he will never leave her, because he said a long time ago that his marriage, was not a marriage it was a business and he had invested too much money on this. I have been caring, understanding, his best friend, and I have let him be the leader of this relationship, at one point I was very involved in his kids lives, they know me and we get along very well (one is 9 and my buddy is 5). He told me that if she found out he even had communications with me don't even try to go home. Tonight again he let me down and I am so upset that I wish she found out, but I know that if she found out he would never be with me, I feel like I am not good enough, but I think I am. Funny but every time I try to break up he acts like he doesn't care and that hurts me more, I want him to hurt like I do, I want him to cry like I do, but I always end up losing this battle and I hate this, I know I should be stronger and send him to hell, but just to know he'll turn around and go back to his perfect wife, like nothing happened, it makes me want to call her and tell her everything but I'm such a coward, at this point I found myself hating her like I never hated any one else, because no matter what I do or what I say at the end of the night he goes home to her. And I have to deal with it. One thing that I don't understand about him is that I have everything to destroy his perfect life and he still treats me like a piece of s.. . I'm so angry and frustrated I want them to hurt. I have always been a good person but he brought out this hate in me, and sometimes I just want to be a , maybe people would stop pushing me around. If some one would like to give some advise I would really appreciate it, just don't judge I'm not perfect.

statictable
Nov 13, 2007, 08:58 PM
Well Natasha you've been playing the very old game of: I-Love-You-Please-Sleep-With-Me-And-Yes-I'll-Leave-My-Wife-4-You.
This is a great game which has brought tons of pleasure to countless millions over the years.
This game is based on the Love, Sex and Danger reaction which is also known as "Wow!!! This Is So Exciting."
The winner moves on to the next round while the loser is left to cry and feel like crap-o-la.
Congrats. To the winner and maybe you'll do beter next round. Good luck.

kaitou
Nov 13, 2007, 09:16 PM
Hi Natasha,

I think your relationship with that man is very unhealthy. I would advice you to leave him to save yourself from future torment. It may hurt a lot for a period, but I think on the long run you'll be much happier person.

You deserve better than this! Be strong, be brave and forget about him.

I wish you the best of luck on whatever you choose to do!

natasha38
Nov 13, 2007, 09:35 PM
Well Natasha you've been playing the very old game of: I-Love-You-Please-Sleep-With-Me-And-Yes-I'll-Leave-My-Wife-4-You.
This is a great game which has brought tons of pleasure to countless millions over the years.
This game is based on the Love, Sex and Danger reaction which is also known as "Wow!!! This Is So Exciting."
The winner moves on to the next round while the loser is left to cry and feel like crap-o-la.
Congrats. to the winner and maybe you'll do beter next round. Good luck.

Funny but he has never said that he would leave his wife, oh and I forgot to mention that he has been unemployed for a year and 5 months so she has been the bread winner in the family, and when we broke up in June I was so furios that I spend a lot of time on the phone 940 dls to be exact I felt so bad for what I had done that I offer to help him out with the bill, he had to get another credit card to pay in total for this bill and the statement arrives to my address, I have that c.c. and use it to buy groceries, pay for gas, and some other needs. Should I just play dumb and milk the cow, although the hardest part is coming with the holidays, I'll be alone in my apartment thinking his having a great time with his family. I still want him to hurt.

cerisa
Nov 13, 2007, 11:55 PM
Natasha, Maybe you want to rethink this. Karma is listening. His wife should pay? For you to amuse yourself torturing her lying, sneaky, spineless husband. What, you couldn't find a single guy of similar interests as yours to go out with? Oh, right, you have to be married to have conjugal visits. Actually, I believe he deserves you, but she and the children do not. Sugar Daddy is playing with her money, need you even ask when he is 'moving on down'. Why don't you pay your own bills?