Hey, Im 23, haven't had a lot of sex in my life but the last few years I've started masterbating... When I have had sex I couln't orgasm, and have since discovered that I only can if I directly rub my constantly fot 10mins or so... Is this normal? Should a girl need that much attention to her to have an orgasm? PLese let me know. ( and I Should just say that it was never a mental problem, I was always enjoying myself, I just couldn't orgasim)... tHANKS

Yes, what you have experienced is normal. The brain is a woman's center for getting in the mood, and the clitoris is the focus during lovemaking (or masturbation). It takes women longer than men to reach a climax, so that is why he must begin hours before to get her emotionally ready and then later concentrate on her erogenous zones so she will climax sometime around the time that he does.