Couple of items:
YOU may not be on the hook for the taxes! It depends on how the distribution was handled by your ex-husband's legal team.
If they did it correctly (from your ex-husband's point of view), the distribution was done under the QDRO (for Qualified Domestic Relations Order) exception, which would mean the Form 1099-R will be issued in YOUR name as an alternate payee and you pay the income taxes (unless you roll the money over into a rollover IRA; more on that later).
If they botched it (and that happens much more often than you would think), then your husband pays the income taxes because the Form 1099-R is issued in HIS name, which is the default position of the IRA and 401K custodian and probably CANNOT be changed once the distribution is made.
A call to your divorce attorney should get you a straight answer on this issue. If he/she does not know, have him/her FIND OUT, as it affects your follow-on decisions!
Now, if the money was issued in your husband's name, then, for you, it is TAX-FREE income to you, and you are free to spend it however you want.
If it was issued in your name, you should seriously consider doing a rollover into a traditional IRA to avoid paying taxes at would be AT LEAST a 28% and probably more likely a 33% federal income tax rate, PLUS whatever your state income tax rate would be.
You do not have to worry about the 10% Early Withdrawal Penalty, as distributions to an alternate payee (i.e. YOU) fall under one of the exceptions for this 10% penalty. You WILL need to properly request that exception when you file your 2007 tax return, though.
For these reasons, RUN (do not walk! ) to a competent tax professional who can guide your through this difficult process. It may cost you a few hundred bucks in tax consultation fees, but proper advice at this point is worth its weight in GOLD!
Once you have the answer to WHO pays the taxes, I can do some modeling (for a small fee) as to what your tax bill would be under the various options. If you are interested, contact me at
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