SqueekUK
Nov 8, 2007, 12:31 AM
I'm not the sort of person who enjoys being on their own, which makes this really difficult. I left the country at 14 as my parents wanted to travel for business. I came back when I was 21 after being dragged around the world and now I'm really lonely. All my close school friends have moved away and grown up and for a while I was really depressed because I knew no one. I got a new job thinking maybe I could meet people, but it's a small accounting firm and no one there is interested in socialising. They don't get on very well anyway and the atmosphere is very tense. All my offers of pub lunches, etc have been turned down. I try to be happy and bubbly and always smile and say good morning and try to start conversations, but they aren't very sociable people and prefer to just work (in silence 95% of the time) until the end of the day! I've been told I'm too talkative! I also have no interest in the work, which doesn't help, but I really need the money and work experience so I'm stuck there for the time being. I try talking to my neighbours, but the area I live in is predominantly pensioners or very young students and there's no one I could really hang out with on a regular basis.
I want to meet people my own age (20's) and make close friends like I did in school, but nothing seems to work! I'm considering going to university, just for the social life and also because I hate the career I'm in, but it's going to cost tons and I would be 23 by the time I started, which seems quite old for a student! In the meantime, I'm really lonely and stuck at home most evenings and weekends. I went to a local fireworks display recently, hoping to meet people, but other than a few quick hellos, nothing much happened. I work very long hours too, so evening/weekend classes are not possible either - I looked into clubs and stuff at the local college.
Should I just give up and wait till I can afford to move to a younger area and go to uni? I really don't know what to do anymore. I've even got back in touch with my ex (who cheated on me), just so I would have someone to talk to! I'm sure I'm not a horrible person. I'm relatively intelligent, love going out and doing stuff and I'm very gregarious and have a good sense of humour. I don't smell or anything and I'm not hideously ugly - not enough to make people recoil in horror at least! I had great friends when I was growing up and I really miss that!
What can I do?
I want to meet people my own age (20's) and make close friends like I did in school, but nothing seems to work! I'm considering going to university, just for the social life and also because I hate the career I'm in, but it's going to cost tons and I would be 23 by the time I started, which seems quite old for a student! In the meantime, I'm really lonely and stuck at home most evenings and weekends. I went to a local fireworks display recently, hoping to meet people, but other than a few quick hellos, nothing much happened. I work very long hours too, so evening/weekend classes are not possible either - I looked into clubs and stuff at the local college.
Should I just give up and wait till I can afford to move to a younger area and go to uni? I really don't know what to do anymore. I've even got back in touch with my ex (who cheated on me), just so I would have someone to talk to! I'm sure I'm not a horrible person. I'm relatively intelligent, love going out and doing stuff and I'm very gregarious and have a good sense of humour. I don't smell or anything and I'm not hideously ugly - not enough to make people recoil in horror at least! I had great friends when I was growing up and I really miss that!
What can I do?