I am 20, got failed relationships w/ guys... had a 4yr relationship with a girl

Please do not confuse love and sex with friendship. Homosexuality is against Gods law. He intended for a man and a woman to marry, have children and to comfort and protect each other. Relationships with another person of the same sex is great and we need those, but for true love, you need a man. What you need to do is work on developing friendships with men. Not dating, but genuine friends. Learn how to talk to them, what makes a man tick. Then you will be able to find a real man who will love you for the next 60+ years.

Surely you just need to do what feels right? Be that with a man or woman, I don't see a problem that you haven't figured it out yourself yet!

It takes time to figure out who you are and what you want in life. The answers don't just come to you. I thought for the longest time that I was happy being in love with the girl of my dreams (yes I am a WOMAN) but after 2 years we realized that's not what we wanted. I met my boyfriend and we have been together for 6 years now. I still have feelings for girls but the person I fell in love with was man. Over time you will figure out what your needs and wants are. It doesn't matter which sex the person you fall in love with is. Just that you two are happy with who and how you are as people. I am 20 also almost 21. Your young still time will tell what way you will want to be and I know you will evenually find out. Just keep doing what your doing. If you feel an attraction to some one give it a shot. See what happens. The result may surprise you. But in the end you'll know. You've still got many many years of learning left to do darling :D good luck. Feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to