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Miss Sparkle
Nov 6, 2007, 03:05 AM
Ive just come out of a relationship (2 weeks ago) and the guy i work with has taken an interest in me. He has a bit of a reputation for sleeping around in the past, but hes a very caring person from what i know of him so far. He said to me that he wanted to take things slowly because ive just come out of a relationship, thats gotta be a good sign that he cares isnt it?

I like him and i want to give him a chance, but people are warning me off telling me hes no good, he sleeps around and is a slut. But im not guna hav sex with him, i always wait at least 9 months before going into a sexual relationship with a partner, surely if he waits that long (or longer) that means he cares about me?
Hes also said he wants to take his time to get to know me and prove that hes not like what the others say he is.

What should i do? Give him a chance, or stay away?

phillysteakandcheese
Nov 9, 2007, 02:13 PM
This is a question of trust: How much do you trust yourself and your judgement? Do you trust the people talking about this guy? Do they have experience or might they just be spreading rumors?

There's probably no harm is dating the guy. You should see for yourself in time whether he is a player, or if he really is tired of playing games.

shygrneyzs
Nov 9, 2007, 02:30 PM
If you truly can wait in a relationship, that is all the better. In nine months you would have a pretty decent idea if he is honest or is just like people say he is. Hard thing about reputations - they usually precede people and are difficult to live down or live up to, whichever case fits. In his case, it will be difficult to live down and also difficult to prove that he is not a slut. Date him if you want to, but keep his feet to the fire.