I am engaged to my one true love, we have been sexually active for 3 years now and I still haven't achieved an orgasm. I have tried all the regular methods: plain sex, oral, masturbation, etc. No matter what I cannot achieve an orgasm. I don't have sensitive nipples at all and foreplay gets boring, oral is OK but I don't really like it. My clitoris isn't really that sensitive so masturbation gets old real fast. I enjoy sex in that I can give my partner pleasure but he often feels bad after because he hasn't been able to return the favor. I would be OK for things to continue this way if it wasn't for him feeling bad. This is the guy I want to marry and I want him to feel good about having sex with me. I tried to fake it for a while but it hurt him more to find out then if I had just been honest. So I am asking for your help. I'm pretty sure my partner won't object to trying any suggestions you might have.;)

Have you tried using toys? I mean, maybe it's just that you guys aren't trying the right position. Women's G-spots are in different places, maybe his penis just doesn't reach.

Very normal!!

In sexual maturation terms you are young... If you do not have to marry ASAP, take your time.


It takes a while for women to fully get in tune with their bodies...

You will get a lot of advice (toys, masturbation, positions, porno) and all will be valid... but be patient... just take your time... a guy will be there when it happens that you feel differenrly about too... not saying he's The One... but it'll be part of your journey.

So many women that come on here don't mature and explore the world and come on here AFTER married and sometimes with KIDS that still haven't had an orgasm! Bummer.

Take your time!

25 - 35 is your time to grow... do well in your career and find good friends and the rest will take care of itself.

I agree with much of what ASH123 is saying about age.

Relax. Relax. Relax.

It could tomorrow, next week, next month, or several years before it happens, but don't feel there is anything wrong with yourself.

Keep trying, but try not to think about it too much. Chances are that when you aren't thinking about it will be when it happens.

The only analogy that I can think of (perhaps a poor one) is that of a foot or back massage. A person doesn't normally think about how or when the massage will end while they are getting one. They would lose out of the total feeling and enjoyment of the massage.

A person that enjoys massages knows that it feels good, and they will be lost in the utter pleasure of the present without thinking about when this might end. An orgasm for some people can be seen as something similar.

Again, relax. Don't think about. Let it in. Let it happen. :)