Okay, well basically my boyfriend and I are going on 5 yrs, I Don't have a clue why he doesn't want me as much as he use too. (sexually) I know Its good when we do have it, I just don't understand he use to love it and now he acts like it's a chore... :confused: he has cheated on me before and I took him back.. (I know, I know)
BUT because of the cheating and him not wanting sex and acting un-interested I feel like I am waiting to get cheated on again... Like I'm not enough ever, although I am a strong,intelligent,beautiful woman I feel weak, and gullible right now.

What shall I do?

Okay, well basically my boyfriend and I are going on 5 yrs, I Dont have a clue why he doesnt want me as much as he use too. (sexually) I know Its good when we do have it, I just dont understand he use to love it and now he acts like its a chore ... :confused: he has cheated on me before and I took him back.. (i know, i know)
BUT because of the cheating and him not wanting sex and acting un-interested I feel like I am waiting to get cheated on again...Like im not enough ever, allthough I am a strong,intelligent,beautiful woman I feel weak, and gullible right now.

what shall I do?
Do not over compensate just to get him more interested in sex w/u. I would say if he acted this way the last time he cheated, then be cautious, he may be doing it again. Some people, just cannot have one SO. He may be one of those. Hope he isn't for your sake, since you were kind enough to forgive him.

Compensating doesn't keep a guy. It just prolongs the inevitable.

Some relationshiops fizzle....

This sounds like one of them. You may not marry this guy and he may be ready to move on... And you should consider that possibility too. Really. I hear of nothing to fight for.

Dressing up like a French maid and watching prn may get you all off one night but then what next? He may not be your soulmate. He cheated once and may have again...

Wake this tired relationship up. You are not engaged.

Good luck.

I would say, life is too short. You are still young and there are plenty more fish in the sea. If you think he is cheating, just ask him straight out and if the answer is yes, move on as I can guarantee there is someone out there that will appreciate and respect you.

Good Luck.

... I feel like I am waiting to get cheated on again...Like im not enough ever, allthough I am a strong,intelligent,beautiful woman I feel weak, and gullible right now. what shall I do?
Speak with him. Explain how you feel. Tell his actions hurst you.
If he does not want to communicate with you and be your BOYFRIEND it is time to end this relationship.
Sorry!
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