confused73
Nov 4, 2007, 06:13 AM
I hope this is not too confusing...
I dated a girl (girl 1) for 2 years from 2003-2005. I love her very much. She is everything a man could want... beautiful, intelligent, funny, caring and honest. We are so naturally comfortable together, I had never felt so much love for someone before. Unfortunately before I met her I has come out of a long relationship in which my girlfriend cheated on me and I then cheated on her. Therefore, I found it hard to believe that girl 1 would want me... she was so perfect and I was anything but. In 2005 we split up and I moved away. This hurt her very much but I believed at the time that I needed to leave her to make her happy. She deserved so much more than me.
When I moved away a family friend moved in with me after a few weeks as she moved to the same area (girl 2). We ended up getting together. After a few months though I realised that I still loved girl 1. I broke it off with girl 2 and asked her to move out. I contacted girl 1 told her about girl2 and that she was moving out. Unfortunately though girl 2 refused to move. I was paying all the rent. We argued all the time but she was in love with me and didn't want to give up. My family also put pressure on me to take care of her. My family knew we were not together but I couldn't tell them about girl 1 as I did not want tit to look like I dumped her for someone else. We were not together during this time though, we shared the house using different bedrooms.
At the end of 2006 girl 1 moved to my area as we wanted to make a go of it. She has a good job and rented a place of her own about 1 hour drive away. I spent as much time as I could with her and we looked at houses to buy together... we loved each other so much. She obviously wanted me to move out from girl 2 but finding a house was not so easy and I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. Regrettably at the start of this year I pushed her away and said I couldn't hurt her anymore. I decided she was better off without me.
A month later though girl2 moved out. I was so happy - I could now make girl 1 happy and spend the rest of my life with her as I always wanted. I am 35 and ready to settle down and want nothing more than a family with the girl I love - my soul mate. I contacted her several times and she ignored me. She eventually replied saying she had met someone else. This ripped me apart. I could not handle her being with someone else. I was so depressed for months. Friends were telling me to go after her but she kept saying she was happy. I love her so much that I just want to be happy - maybe she had met someone more deserving of her.
Girl2 was still in touch and wanted to get back together and my family wanted us to also. I convinced myself that girl 1 was better off without me and that I should just try to love girl2. We got engaged 2 months ago and are due to get married at Christmas. I missed her when she was not tere but now I don't think that meant what I thought! I just found out that girl 1 is single again. I have kept in contact with her and I still love her... more than life itself. I love girl 2 but not the same way as girl1. I was on my stag do this weekend and spent all the time thinking about and texting girl 1. I need to see her. I want her, I only never chased her as I thought she was happy but she wasn't. I am going to see her tomorrow. I need to. I don't know what she will say and I don't know what to do. I want to spend the rest of my life with girl 1 but I cannot bear to hurt girl 2 and my family. I was so convinced that I needed to settle down but I am in a bigger mess than ever! Please help - should I go through with the wedding or try to get girl 1 back? I know she loves me as much as I do her but she obviously upset at the situation and said she will not come between us - that is my decision. I just want a simple life being happy with the girl I love - girl1 but I risk making enemies within my family. I cannot talk to family as they are too involved and friends give me varied advice. Please help. I am running out of time.
I dated a girl (girl 1) for 2 years from 2003-2005. I love her very much. She is everything a man could want... beautiful, intelligent, funny, caring and honest. We are so naturally comfortable together, I had never felt so much love for someone before. Unfortunately before I met her I has come out of a long relationship in which my girlfriend cheated on me and I then cheated on her. Therefore, I found it hard to believe that girl 1 would want me... she was so perfect and I was anything but. In 2005 we split up and I moved away. This hurt her very much but I believed at the time that I needed to leave her to make her happy. She deserved so much more than me.
When I moved away a family friend moved in with me after a few weeks as she moved to the same area (girl 2). We ended up getting together. After a few months though I realised that I still loved girl 1. I broke it off with girl 2 and asked her to move out. I contacted girl 1 told her about girl2 and that she was moving out. Unfortunately though girl 2 refused to move. I was paying all the rent. We argued all the time but she was in love with me and didn't want to give up. My family also put pressure on me to take care of her. My family knew we were not together but I couldn't tell them about girl 1 as I did not want tit to look like I dumped her for someone else. We were not together during this time though, we shared the house using different bedrooms.
At the end of 2006 girl 1 moved to my area as we wanted to make a go of it. She has a good job and rented a place of her own about 1 hour drive away. I spent as much time as I could with her and we looked at houses to buy together... we loved each other so much. She obviously wanted me to move out from girl 2 but finding a house was not so easy and I was stuck between a rock and a hard place. Regrettably at the start of this year I pushed her away and said I couldn't hurt her anymore. I decided she was better off without me.
A month later though girl2 moved out. I was so happy - I could now make girl 1 happy and spend the rest of my life with her as I always wanted. I am 35 and ready to settle down and want nothing more than a family with the girl I love - my soul mate. I contacted her several times and she ignored me. She eventually replied saying she had met someone else. This ripped me apart. I could not handle her being with someone else. I was so depressed for months. Friends were telling me to go after her but she kept saying she was happy. I love her so much that I just want to be happy - maybe she had met someone more deserving of her.
Girl2 was still in touch and wanted to get back together and my family wanted us to also. I convinced myself that girl 1 was better off without me and that I should just try to love girl2. We got engaged 2 months ago and are due to get married at Christmas. I missed her when she was not tere but now I don't think that meant what I thought! I just found out that girl 1 is single again. I have kept in contact with her and I still love her... more than life itself. I love girl 2 but not the same way as girl1. I was on my stag do this weekend and spent all the time thinking about and texting girl 1. I need to see her. I want her, I only never chased her as I thought she was happy but she wasn't. I am going to see her tomorrow. I need to. I don't know what she will say and I don't know what to do. I want to spend the rest of my life with girl 1 but I cannot bear to hurt girl 2 and my family. I was so convinced that I needed to settle down but I am in a bigger mess than ever! Please help - should I go through with the wedding or try to get girl 1 back? I know she loves me as much as I do her but she obviously upset at the situation and said she will not come between us - that is my decision. I just want a simple life being happy with the girl I love - girl1 but I risk making enemies within my family. I cannot talk to family as they are too involved and friends give me varied advice. Please help. I am running out of time.