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Romanticguy07
Oct 27, 2007, 06:11 PM
Well in my past I've been hurt by a lot of girls, pretty much anything you can think of has happened to me. And I'm in love with this girl and I'm scared to all hell but at the same time I trust her. How do I get rid of this fear that she will leave or do something that will hurt me

needofhelp
Oct 27, 2007, 06:23 PM
Based on your post, your fear is based on what has happened to you from your past that has created some insecurities. If you let your insecurities take over, you will start behaving like you don't trust her, and that will drive her away. Ironic isn't it. You said you trust her, so why are you scared of her leaving? Has she done anything that would lead you to believe she would leave you?

You have to believe in yourself and think of the all the good reasons she is with you. That's the important thing, she's with you because of your traits. Being in love comes hand in hand with pain and the possibility of getting hurt. Be confident and don't start worrying about ever little thing. Being hurt in the past is one thing, but you're smarter know and know what to look out for. What happened in the past can either hurt you now, or you can use it to being smarter. Good Luck.

emi1615
Oct 7, 2013, 06:57 PM
I can understand. My boyfriend is the same way. He always has the fear of me leaving him amd not trusting anything I say. To me it seems like his insecurities are taking over. Don't let that happen. Just let it out. Tell her how you feel. If she truly loves you like I love mine she will be willing to change to make you feel much better