:confused: how can you tell if someone loves you? And how can you tell if someone is cheating on you? A thought

You know when someone loves you! Believe me!! If he tells you he loves you That is the first step. But also by his actions you are able to tell if he loves you. If he's willing to spend time with you, talking to you, listen to you, he isn't being selfish, you likes to make you happy (doing surprises and such). There's many ways you know if a guy loves you. If you are unsure if he loves you, either its because he doesn't or he doesn't show you he does. Try to watch his actions more and you will know.

Cheating.. hmmm, I've never had a serious boyfriend cheat on me, but I'd assume if my boyfriend would cheat on me, he would feel so guilty he would have to tell me or break up with me. Umm if you catch him lying or being sneeky or not calling as often or going to the bars and never inviting you, or staying out late and not telling you where he was.. I think that would probably be cheating.

Not trying to run from your question but too many variables exist. There's no clear method but there's experience and that's probably a good answer. How can you tell?? FROM EXPERIENCE.

For the most part that's true. Saying "I love you" doesn't always mean what it says on the tin though. If he's genuinly caring and attentive, takes interests in what you do and supports you, he loves you. He would do anything to make you happy.

Cheating is a different kettle of fish, there are no real clear signs unless someone's being really dumb about it. Sometimes we just don't see it coming at all. If you DO suspect your partner is cheating though, make sure it's not just paranoia. Cheating is a heffty accusation to level at someone. I'd try and find proof first.

And then you have those that are genuinly caring and attentive, takes interests in what you do and supports you and would do anything to make you happy... Then leaves for someone else...

Yea don't always trust someone when they say they love you. Some people in this world have the ability to lie about love.
And when someone becomes distant and secrative is in 'most' cases when there cheating...

Love you can feel I believe, cheating you can'treally ever know the real truth,u can suspect it but unless they come clean you will never know.

Being a guy myself, one of the factors to consider if the opportunity to be unfaithful does arise is how secure the situation would be. Does he/she know anyone I know, could they ever conceivably meet,am I too dumb to make this work, etc. Most guys go to great lengths to make sure it is done right. I have cheated twice ( that's the OLD me:) And I left no stone uncovered in keeping it a secret, fortunetly the girls did! To this day neither had a clue, although neither are withme so what goes around right? Pointis you'll never know.

And then you have those that are genuinly caring and attentive, takes interests in what you do and supports you and would do anything to make you happy... Then leaves for someone else...

VERY GOOD POINT.