Hi,

I am in my mid 20s, in grad school, and recently have been wanting to go out (eg, to night clubs). The only problem is that I have no group of friends to go with. My boyfriend (who might not even be my boyfriend anymore) doesn't always like to go, and I'd like to not always depend on him anyway. I have so much fun when I do get a chance to go out, but I'm stuck at home mainly because I don't want to go to a club alone. I have no friends from high school or younger, and the few friends I have from college don't like the kind of music I do and don't like going to clubs.

What should I do? I'd appreciate any advice...

Okay I don't want to sound too desperate, but I'd really like some advice!!

Vanessa

Hi,
First of all, a social life is not just clubs, drinking, and such.
Do you go to church? Do you bowl? Have any hobbies that others enjoy?
Or, are you looking for a "drinking and dancing" social life.
There must be many organizations on campus that you could join... meet new people. I am sure there are college dances, and coffee "break the ice" meetings.
But, if you want your social life to be clubs only, why not go by yourself?
Be yourself, and go. Meet some new people, get out there and enjoy yourself.
Don't be afraid of "testing the waters" by yourself. The only way you are going to meet others who like clubs is to go to clubs!
Have a drink or two (if you drink) and start up a conversation with someone, man or woman. Before you know it, you will have friends. Just remember that if you treat others with respect, you will meet others just like you.
Take that first step; what can you lose? Just don't go home with the first man you meet! I do sincerely wish you good luck, and "good luck" only comes from you making the first step.