Me and my husband have been married for 10 years. He is/was a great husband and I go use to be loved and showered with his affection. About year 7 we started to go through so pretty tough times. He stopped being affection. I at the time was 27 years old and my husband had just turned 30. He stopped being sexually active with me. I felt abandoned and it started making me crazy. I tried to suggest counseling and the like, but he was not for any it. Eventually he told me he had ED. It was a shock, but still odd to me. How can such a young man have such an issue. I tried to get him to go to the doctor if that was the case and he refused. Later that year tried to commit suicide (It came out of nowhere) I am normally very strong independent person, but I guess that was more forced,than wanted. I guess I just felt I need one person in the world I could be weak around. I could cry or lean on for help. It took my until about our 5 year to start doing this so I am aware it probably looked as if I had changed, because I had changed I was more trusting of him. I don't think he liked it, he became very different as did I. Anyway, we have struggled through the last 3 and half years. I have a feeling that this is not OK and I am tired of ignoring and pushing the problems under the rug. So I have been rebelling. He acts as if he doesn't care where I am or who I am with so I have been going and trying to live my life as if he isn't there. He doesn't seem to mind and that bothers me to no end. I tried to talk about it and he told me "you're just crazy". I have no defense to this I am crazy. I did try to commit suicide, but I don't want to have to pay for this stupid mistake for the rest of my life and I don't want him to use this as an excuse of why he doesn't communicate with me. I am angry all the time and I know I have to have a change somewhere. Should I leave or should I stay? :confused:

Nm, the problems in your marriage are quite deep and it is effecting both you and your husband tremendously. As you know, attempting suicide is not the solution here. Honey, I know you are in pain and you need to find a way back to contentment with your life. Although your husband refuses to go for counseling, I think it would be a very wise move for you to go on your own. Are you religious? Do you have a pastor, priest, rabbi,. that you have respect for and feel will help you? If not, please seek out a qualified marriage conselor. Here is a link to help you get started: The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory (http://family-marriage-counseling.com/)

Life is too short and too precious. Get yourself some counseling and leave his behind. He sounds cruel and emotionally abusive. He will run you into the ground.

Nm,

Back up to the suicide attempt, please. After he failed to commit suicide, he had to undergo court ordered counseling, didn't he? What did the two of you learn from that?

At this point in time, are you still willing to fight for your husband or do you want to walk away?

If you want to battle the beast, now is the time to call on your strength and set boundaries. Find out what he needs not what he wants and if it is within the boundaries you set up, help him.

Good luck and I hope you two can work through this and save your marriage.