I am a single male. 24 yrs. Student. Waste a lot of my productive time on mansturbation. Is there any definite way of stopping mansturbation without losing my sex drive? Please advice.

You do not lose any sex drive if you don't masturbate, you just stop, sex drive stays.

Why the heck would you want to stop, just sounds insane to me? Cut down on your sleep time and study time, stop talking to your friends, but for God sakes keep choking the chicken! Seriously, could it really be taking that much time out of your life to get a little pleasure here and there?

Don't listen to "stonewilder". Purity is a tough issue, and one that every christian guy faces in this way, so you aren't alone. It's about just.. stopping and accountability. There's no secrets or special tricks. You have to WANT to stop, for the right reasons... and just do it, and keep yourself accountable to somebody to make sure you're styaing on track.

You sex drive will likely INCREASE if you stop jerkin your Gerkin, buddy.

At least you can say you have a date. Just don't tell them it's with Rosy Palmer and her five sisters.

Let's skip the insults, hmm?

Be nice to each other, or I'll delete your posts.

If u think a lot about wanting to stop it, it becomes even more prominent in your subconscience and you will be thinking about it even more. Anyway all "normal" guys go though periods of over masturbation. Just the other day I was thinking about it myself lol. Just Occupy yourself with something else you like doing. Go out more often because usually you masturbate more when you are alone at home and have nothing else to do.

If your masturbating a lot you are fulfilling your sex drive with your hand and it will still be there if you stop. It can become addictive and take up time in your life. See if you can stop on your own. And if you can't stop, seek some help at a help group like sex addiction counseling.

One could argue that dating women is a waste of otherwise "productive" time.

Seriously, I doubt that anybody could completely stop. But if you're past the point where your private fun is harming other aspects of your life (relationships, job, health), you have a problem. As others have suggested above, you may want to seek professional help. Only you can decide that. Good luck.

As long as you don't end up like this guy you should be OK.https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/humor-comedy/guy-goes-doctor-143569.html

Ah. Now that's the point. I'm not very comfortable going to someone, a professional with sex issues esp if that deals with something like mansturbation. I think I'm seeking the professional advice (the thing which many are talking of) here, where I'm not in direct confrontation with anyone. Help.

Hello r:

Wacking off is VERY normal for a young 24 year old. Yes, it does interfere with things some time. But, if you STOPPED, that would interfere MUCH more. You shouldn't stop. You shouldn't WANT to stop. Wack away.

excon

Have you considered finding a girlfriend and getting laid every now and then? That would probably cut down on the masturbation quite a bit.

I do commend you for being brave enough to come on here and share this problem, I was going to ask the same question but I don't want my friends and peers to know! :-)
I understand not wanting to go see a doctor about it... Can you imagine when you shake his hand and then tell him your problem? LoL, but sex addition therapy systems usually are a group thing where I would assume almost everyone is masturbating a lot. If you are still uncomfortable with that you would have to do it on your own. I think if it is affecting your life and getting in the way of your studies you have to make a decision before you do it. How many times a day would you average you are doing it?

I do commend you for being brave enough to come on here and share this problem, I was going to ask the same question but I don't want my friends and peers to know! :-)
I understand not wanting to go see a doctor about it... Can you imagine when you shake his hand and then tell him your problem? LoL, but sex addition therapy systems usually are a group thing where I would assume almost everyone is masturbating a lot. If you are still uncomfortable with that you would have to do it on your own. I think if it is affecting your life and getting in the way of your studies you have to make a decision before you do it. How many times a day would you average you are doing it?

Hi greg.
Thanks for trying to help me first of all.
Sometimes it gets even to 5-6 times a day, but that's rarely, i.e. sometimes on holidays. Its not that I have any issue with mansturbating, but sometimes it takes long hours these days to get a hard on before you can do it. Previously about 2/3 yrs back I could have done it even by closing my eyes, but these days I need to get some mags and journals, etc , hope you get the point , and that takes of a whole lot of time, in fact, otherwise the main stuff takes not more than 5 minutes and 15 minutes a day is almost nothing isn't it. Gen I do it not more than once a day. I am not an addict of doing the thing for sometimes I can go even without it, for e.g. when study loads increase or I have some assignments to complete or I'm in groups etc but sometimes it mounts up like hell and believe sometimes I get very tired after the act and that might well be in betwwen my peak working hours. Hope you understand. I need a solve if there is one. Thanks

Hello again, rhik:

If it's interfering with your life, then you need help. You can find a sex therapist by looking in the phone book.

excon

Have you considered finding a girlfriend and getting laid every now and then? That would probably cut down on the masturbation quite a bit.

Hi margarita
Thanks for your suggestion. In fact my very close friends too suggest the same. I don't know how you concluded the same even without knowing me!
I tell you what.. I had been wild after two girls in 2 different periods of my life. But perhaps our paths were different, so we never united. I cried for them like hell. In fact I still cry for them. I was so depressed that I took an overdose of sleeping pills 4 yrs back. Then my career took a dream turn and I was gone with it with one change encrypted into me that I will never run after any girl again as I don't have the time to lose for the emotional tag attached to getting into a relationship and I will wait for my girl to approach me. But I really feel low as I'm perhaps the only single, among my friends!

Hello again, rhik:

If it's interfering with your life, then you need help. You can find a sex therapist by looking in the phone book.

excon

Thanks for your advice. But sorry, as I told earier that I can't approach someone face to face. In fact I don't know if I'm sure, but your earlier reply is something I shuld believe in. I think you had given me the answer before. Thanks

If you are masturbating to the point where it interferes with daily activities than you definitely have a bit of a problem. I mean how many times do you do it that it is interfering with your life? If your running to the washroom at work every so often than you may have a problem, also if nothing is cming out you have a problem!

If this is a religious thing than it is totally different, you may feel bad for doing it in the first place and your faith is more important to you than the gratification of jerkin', If that be the case than I commend you for that.

As foryour sex drive, I do believe it will go wayyyyy up, if I don't "release for a couple of days EVERYTHING looks good, like that behind ain't sooooo big, PLUS if and when you do try it again make sure you gota beach towel handy cause it'll make a mess.

Lastly, don't hold off until your first night with a girl, if you manage to last after she is undressed you will make itall of 3 seconds and then well... not cool LOL!

I think it is purely a mental problem. I have been there not able to get an erection but still wanted to reach a climax, it can happen from over exertion and draining your sex drive. But it can be a lot more than that as well. Sometimes it can be as simple as not having your true fantasies going through your head. Question... If you get really close with a girl and you may not go all the way, later on when you are alone would it be a quick time well spent session?
I think most guys have had a similar problem at times in one sense or another. My solution would be to commit to a time in your day to masturbate once (like at night) I bet you would find your sex drive will improve drastically, and your timing will get back to what it was. And after a long day of seeing hot college birds walking around or the hot one in your group work, you will have the drive of a Lamborghini laredo. It takes discipline and trial and error. The fact is masturbation can be very addictive like gambling, the trick is to be careful and make sure at the end of the month you have your rent in your bank account. (Analogy) rent meaning sperm

I guess ill throw my 2 cents in here.
Masturbation is a great stress reducer. And it sounds like you are stressed. I don't see the problem. Masterbating once a day is not a big deal. I would much rather see you jerking yourself than going out , finding some strange and catching something that really would be a problem. You will not lose your sex drive, if anything it will stay the same or increase. But this is the bottom line, if it convicts you, just stop. It really is that simple, but the fact is, we do exactly what we want to do. I can't imagine that beating off once a day is taking that much time out of your schedule, even if you do have to work your way up to an erection. Life is short, don't waste your time worrying over the little stuff. Follow your instincts.

Masturbation is actually a healthy release.

There are few reasons to stop, as mentioned earlier: interfering with a normal life , basically, would be the most obvious.
If a study were performed, I think we'd see two types of guy's in the results... One group that admits that they masturbate, and one group that says they're going to quit.
It is your's to learn and enjoy. And it's the quintessential safe sex.

Regular exercise can help lower sexual urges. When I set goals to cut back I set workout routines to go with it. It can be difficult to find time to workout but if its nothing more than 20 minutes of push ups and crunches when you otherwise would be masturbating it could help.

Set realistic goals, 2 or 3 times a day to none is hard to stick with. Maybe 2 or 3 times a week? Masturbation is healthy when its not excessive.

I stopped this summer because I was working 3000 miles away from my girlfriend anyway and sex does get in the way of life after a while. The first few days sucked, thought about it constantly. Past that up until about day 15 was good, easy not to do it but seemed like I became a little more emotional than usual. By day 15 or so it just constantly got worse. I made it to about day 25 but by that point it was becoming painful to run and so on so I said screw it. I did notice afterwards that my desire to do it was way less than before, it took about a week before I really considered it again.

I am a single male. 24 yrs. student. waste a lot of my productive time on mansturbation. is there any definite way of stopping mansturbation without losing my sex drive? please advice.
Hi masturbation is a kind of reliving yourself of sexual supression and every animal has a way to express their sexualy maturity or mating time now anything in excess is often damaging in your context over mastrubation could lead to a lot neurological imbalance which could result in making you feel little different firstly it tends to make u feel depressed unhappy and kind of emotional imbalance (now this is scientific explanation I can tell u ) apart from that try to divert your mind to more constructive work like try to play a sport that u love or do work that you will require some mental and physical work...
Hope that this helps and yes do not stop mastrubation but not in excess...
Good Luck

No way working out actually increases your urges. Whenever I work out I always get horny lol

Masturbation is often a cure for boredom. Rather than trying to quit you should try to eliminate boredom in the first place. Try to find a hobby, one that you really enjoy. After you've found your hobby, do your hobby whenever you fell the need to masturbate. After you've done your hobby, you might have already forgotten that you were going to masturbate in the first place.

Masturbation is often a cure for boredom. Rather than trying to quit you should try to eliminate boredom in the first place. Try to find a hobby, one that you really enjoy. After you've found your hobby, do your hobby whenever you fell the need to masturbate. After you've done your hobby, you might have already forgotten that you were going to masturbate in the first place.

Hey, I have a great idea!! Let masturbation BE your hobby. How cool is that. It's a win/win. Lol hahahah. Sorry , couldn't resist.
By the way, most of the time when your horny, its not going to go away until you release it.
That's just my opinion, and you know what they say about opinions; there like a@# holes
And elbows, everybody has a couple.
Don't make this a big deal, if you feel bad, just quit:)

No way working out actually increases your urges. Whenever i work out i always get horny lol

I've read that people with lower sex drives tend to become more horny while people with higher sex drives less. I'm sure there are exceptions too.

Hello again, r:

Seems to me that MOST of the advice given here is based on the notion that whacking off isn't good. To wit: you should set goals... you should find a hobby... you should work out... it's a mental problem...

That's not surprising considering that we're a really uptight society when it comes to sex. I don't, however, subscribe to the notion that whacking off is bad. It's a great way to spend an available hour. Look, I'd rather get laid. But, when that ain't happening...

excon