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nurse08
Oct 18, 2007, 02:25 PM
My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past year after being together for almost 4 years now. He strongly expressed to me living together and getting married later when we first started getting serious within our first year of being together but I was against it. I have been in some pretty bad relationships before him and wanted to be sure I made the right choice with him. So at first (before living together) all between us was great. He and I both were attentive to others needs, respectful and hung together out when we could together. We did what was needed to make it work. Now since we been living together he no longer wants to do any of those things anymore. He insists he is not cheating or looking for anyone else. He said today he is stressed about being behind with bills and has no money to take me out and if he did have the money he would not because he does do what I do and I don't do the things he does. We argue almost every weekend because of this and when we don't argue it's only because I don't bring it up that he no longer spends time with me anymore. But if I go out it's a problem that needs to be talked about. But when its my turn to communicate to him how I feel about any situation he says I am talking to him like he is my son. What do you think is going on?

nurse08
Oct 18, 2007, 02:28 PM
[QUOTE=nurse08]My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past year after being together for almost 4 years now. He strongly expressed to me living together and getting married later when we first started getting serious within our first year of being together but I was against it. I have been in some pretty bad relationships before him and wanted to be sure I made the right choice with him. So at first (before living together) all between us was great. He and I both were attentive to others needs, respectful and hung together out when we could together. We did what was needed to make it work. Now since we been living together he no longer wants to do any of those things anymore. He insists he is not cheating or looking for anyone else. He said today he is stressed about being behind with bills and has no money to take me out and if he did have the money he would not because he does do what I do and I don't do the things he does. We argue almost every weekend because of this and when we don't argue it's only because I don't bring it up that he no longer spends time with me anymore. But if I go out it's a problem that needs to be talked about. But when its my turn to communicate to him how I feel about any situation he says I am talking to him like he is my son. What do you think is going on? I do not know what to do?