Hi Everyone,

Let me start by telling a bit about myself, I am 33 and now single, I own a house, I have a good job and never been able to be happy in Love. I was in a relationship with that nice girl for over 3 years now. She dump me 2 weeks ago mainly because I was not paying attention to her and not showing any love for her. She is hurt to do it but she was not happy anymore. I never realised how much I needed her and loved her until she leaves. I told her that we should give it another try and I would take care of her more because I know what it is like to lose her. She says that we were getting on each others nerves and we were not meant for each other. I am devastated and disoriented now because I can't believe she is really gone. At some point in our relationship I wasn't sure and was afraid to really commit to her and now that she is gone I want her back. I must be crazy or something.

Maybe you were focusing on other things too much, like your job.
Girls don't like that.

scottyboynmmc, I somewhat know how you feel right now... circumstantially it's a different situation, but I can definitely understand from where you're coming from (you can check my post out, All Warmed Up).

She's gone and you realize that you have messed up and didn't fix anything you said you would or haven't even been given the chance to.

How can you show you want to work on something when the person you want to show doesn't want your time of day?
Simple, You can't. They have lost the belief that you would work on it, hence why they don't give you the chance at all.

Are you two on non-talking terms?

-Sik

I broke up the best girl once, dumped I was. I tried to get back but it wasn't going to happen, "you can't go back" she told me. I have learnt this to be true over and over again and after a breakup period (the unavoidable pain) I look back and see all the reasons we broke up and saw the truth that I never would have worked because we were unsuited to each other.

Probably not what you want to hear friend, but it's the other side of the coin and if we need to do anything when in the omotional turmoil it's try and keep focused on reality. What really happened? Is it really possible to fix? Can I really change to meet her expectations or will I just fall back into my old ways in a month or so?

If you can answer these questions truthfully to your reflection in the mirror you will know one way or the other.