My "husband" and I have been separated for 4 years. He pays child support but shows no interest in raising our children even though we live in the same city. I suggested him signing off on his parental rights and he actually seemed excited. I was wondering what issues or problems may arise out of this? Would it be better to keep receiving child support and just forget he exists, or is there some kind of perk for the kids through the government or state that would make it better for them in the long run? I'm really confused and desperately need some guidance. My children are in therapy dealing with issues arising from their fathers neglect. PLEASE HELP US!! I don't want to make a mistake. If it helps any, we are from Ohio.

Signing off on his rights (if he's even allowed to do so) wouldn't stop child support payments.

It would only mean he has no right to any part of his children's lives.

I suggest you speak with a family lawyer and explain the situation.

Why would you even think about this? In effect he has relinquished his rights by not exercising them. Why would you want to to formalize it?

Yes he was excited because you made him believe and he believed, that he would not have to pay child support, this is not the case unless you have a new partner ready to adopt.

It is obvious he does not have an attorney.

He needs to be told the facts and be advised that he will still be paying support after he signs over his rights, most likely he will not be as excited.

No judge would favor perks from the state over the mandated child support. The child support is due to the children and their welfare. You are responsible to make sure they are provided for and so that means keep on top of the child support. Sure, your husband can terminate his rights but, like everyone has said, it does not terminate the child support.

Simply put...

Signing over rights only means that he is unable to be a part of, or make any decisions, regarding the health and welfare of his child/children. It does not mean that he will not be held responsible for his financial obligations.

It means that if your child has cancer and you want to sign a DNR to let that child pass peacefully, he has no choice in that matter and it is your decision only. This is just an example. Say you are Catholic and he is Jewish, you want to raise your child in a Catholic environment. If he signs his rights away he has no say as to what environment the child is raised in, but he will still be financially responsible for the child in question.