K now its my turn. My girlfriend just did this to me yesterday and well I felt like crap. After reading this I feel WAY BETTER. My question is though I know she wants her space and we are both in university. Except we are in 2 of the same classes, now I know I can sit away. But what about the bus. We take the same bus home. Should I take a later one, or sit as far away as I can. I know to give her her space I just don't want to give her the wrong idea where as *ohh maybe he hates me now*

Ill type out what she texted me and you guys can take a shot at what she is saying to me

*I have to be honest with u, I need to clear my head and I need to be alone I feel like right now things are overwhelming and I need to be single*

I feel crapier than a toilet

I'm in that situation and I was worried about giving her the wrong impression. I kept asking, what if I did this and she thought I don't care or if I didn't do this, she wouldn't know I care. As others will tell you, give her the space. That's what she asked for, so give it to her. Let her see how it is with out you, maybe it won't be everything she thought it would be. Don't go worrying about giving her the wrong impression.

The following post might be of help.
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-break-up-survive-101-use-you-wish-114179.html

Impressions are like opinions - everybody has one. There is nothing you can do to influence other's impressions. But you can change your impression of yourself.

Take a look around. See that bus full of people? Guess what, at least 3 people on that bus have been in the same predicament as yourself, and they survived.

Take a look at those classes. Do you think that they don't know what it is like to have loved and lost at some time in their life?

What I'm trying to say is that you are not the only one this has happened to and that you too will heal and go on with your life.

If you constantly put yourself on the 'defensive' you will wind up with more stress and self-doubt. Catch yourself before this happens and find a way to divert your stress as best as you can. Take a book with you on the bus. Sit somewhere else in class and concentrate on the subject.

Now, what we tell everyone else who is and has been in your shoes... it takes time, no getting out if it overnight.. but you too will get over it.

Good luck on your healing process, and stay with us. We will do all we can to help you through this.

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Make a mental list of the pros and cons of your relationship, where it went wrong, and you'll see that you will no doubt find a better one after giving yourself time to heal.

*I have to be honest with u, i need to clear my head and i need to be alone I feel like right now things are overwhelming and I need to be single*

Your asking what to do? Do exactly what she wants, and move on with your life. The most painless way out of this is to accept its over. If you hold onto what you had -- you prolong your pain -- trust me. Been there, done that. If you give her what she wants, time and space, she will come to you.

And don't go out of your way to avoid her. Don't get on the next bus just because she's on that one. Just don't sit next to her or speak to her. Let her see your moving on with your life and she will question "why the hell is he taking this so damn well?" - Curiosity is compelling, but I'm not trying to give you hope here, so just accept its over. :)

Hang in there, your doing great!

Take care

I once dated a girl in college that took the same bus I did, and it was a 1.5 hour ride, we were also in the same circle of friends as well.

I managed to not talk with her during my last year of college even though we saw each other twice a day for about 3 hours a day. You don't HAVE to talk with her, or even acknowledge her. You don't do that with every single person in your class so you can both have your own space in class. It takes a degree of maturity to do it, but it can be done. I've been there.

K well update. Today she texted me a couple of times during class and since I wasn't in a good mood I didn't retunr any. I felt a bit better as the day went on. But she texted me a few things that have my head scratching. Before we went out she said she wants a relationship now she says she is not ready for one and wants to clear her head. 2nd she said she hopes it is not awkward now but that she still likes me... iunno lol. And 3rd she says she hopes I still talk and sit by her in classes and stuff. So now I don't know what to do. There's a really good chance of getting bacvk together I just don't know how to go about it. 1. I could sit by her, talk with her then maybe get back with her. 2. I could sit away from her and make me miss me and make her keep contacting me. Or 3rd if it comes to this somehow sit awat from her then she gets pissed at me which ruins my chances of getting back together lol. Ok now I just want you guys to smack me around a bit and give me something I can work on. Much appreciated you guys/girls are like my family. Thanks

Give her what she asked for. Don't play the what if game. If she speaks to you speak back but don't go out of your way with her. If she gets mad, that's tough. This is what she asked for.

Maybe you should tell her you need some space now TOO. Do this in a nice way though.

And the truth is - you do need space. This is because she is now in a zone where she is playing games and testing things out. This is controlling behavior on her part, because it shows she wants you to run to her like a pet, but only on her command.

I think what is best for you is to tell her, in a nice and polite way, that you care about her, but that you realize that this whole scenario shows that you two do need some space (make sure you word this so she knows that she is the one who suggested this). And thank her for making you realize that. Then start going to the gym, start improving yourself, start getting straight A's, and just living life. Trust me that she will notice.

Because seriously, right now, what does space mean? She's not making a clear line here of what the terms of this space are and this is dangerous!! She does this because then it's easy to bend this "space" into meaing she's roughly allowed to explore a new guy, but then she is also able to alter the definition of it to mean that you two are "sort of together" if she sees you have moved on first. TRUST ME. I don't know how to word this paragrpah I just wrote, but I hope you get a feel for what I'm saying. And you will end up feeling like crap either way.

If she starts being straight with you and expresses that she wants a relationship again, then it's a different story.

Well I've been going to the gym since my last girlfriend lmao wow did that one suck and was I down. She dumped me for a guy she never met who she talked to ont eh computer with who lived in ENLGAND. Ever since that I was hitting the gym and stuff. Lol iunno seems like once I got the ball rolling again for another girlfriend it seems to screw up. Kind of pisses me off and feels like I have no luck lol. I just don't know what to do... talk to her, not talk to her, make her chase me, maybe she gets mad at me. I don't know, I wish one of you could just fly here and smack me across the face for a while lmao.

LEAVE HER ALONE! That's what you do

Can you smack me while your at it

Plus tomorrow is the first time we have classes together so I'm a little nervous. I'm going to sit near the front of the class so I can pay attention and take good notes. Just wondering how all this is going to play out... I swear curiosity is going to be the death of me lol :p

Here's your smack in the face... she doesn't want a relationship with you. She is just not woman enough to say, "I don't want to see you any more". The fact that she texted you rather than tell you to your face shows how cowardly she is. I wouldn't change a thing in my normal routine. She's the one that wants "space" so let her be the one to take the later bus. You don't need her, there is lots of other woman out there who might love to call you their boyfriend.

*Ron Simmons*... D... DAMN!. now that is deep man lol that hit me right in the lung and especially the head. True there are plenty of attractive women out there to have a piece of Johnny, hmm you smart you know that almost like Gandhi smart but I doubt you wear a towel all day

I think you should be woriied because it sounds to me like she's not into you anymore!!

Don't get mad there are a lot more fish in the sea to swim at!!

Plus tomorrow is the first time we have classes together so im a little nervous. im gonna sit near the front of the class so i can pay attention and take good notes. just wondering how all this is gonna play out........i swear curiosity is gonna be the death of me lol :p

I have class with my ex, and its been 3 weeks. Get ready for a bumpy ride. It can be bumpy if you let it get bumpy. Don't be curious, don't ask, don't talk, or it will get the better of you.

Mate that message basically said IM flushing the toilet and sending you down there!!

She flushed you relationship down the toilet. If you want to get it back...

Do nothing you owe her nothing if she wants you back she will tell you.

Whatever you do don't sit near her don't argue just be polite and move on don't talk about the relationship just let it go. Don't let her treat you like this or she will make up many excuses then just get another guy

Let her realise what she is missing out on. And if she doesn't well that's it.

I hope I didn't come off giving a bad message. My point was what mckenzie134 suggested. You have to do No Contact. By doing so you begin the healing process. Be polite and know that you will be OK without her.

Oh no I so took it the wrong way it was like a kick in the nads... lol j/k j/k but yea well I guess tomorrow is when I take a stand and it not only be for me it will be for you guys helping me and for the whole male race having to go through this as well.

I think sad soul hit it right on the nose.

And besides... what woman really wants a guy who follows her around like a puppy anyway? I've got my soul mate, and you know, we do things together, and try to spend time together, but in all actuality, we each do our own things. We are both independently confident and have our own lives... and yet our lives have meshed into something quite beautiful.

And oh, she dumped you so she could talk to some net dude? Pshaw. Just keep in mind, she probably just messed up - She might REALLY be talking to some 40 year old fat brit, and gave you up so she could flirt with him? Oh come on. You can do way better than her.

That was my ex ex that dumped me for a guy on the net this one my recent just wants *space*... now I know I'm no astronomer but I can't let her have the whole universe there's room for everyone here

Well ive been going to the gym since my last gf lmao wow did that one suck and was i down. She dumped me for a guy she never met who she talked to ont eh computer with who lived in ENLGAND. Ever since that i was hitting the gym and stuff. Lol iunno seems like once i got the ball rolling again for another gf it seems to screw up. Kinda pisses me off and feels like i have no luck lol. i just don't know what to do....talk to her, not talk to her, make her chase me, maybe she gets mad at me. I don't know, i wish one of ya'll could just fly here and smack me across the face for a while lmao.

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Read the first two 'stickies' in the Relationships forum and get your head out of wherever it is stuck in now. You should not give a damn if she is miffed, she made you feel like crap, so now the ball is in her court. Take a serious break - you need it and deserve it.

Well update for today. She wasn't in the classes with me so I don't know if she is hurt by what she did or thinking its awkward now nor should I care. I sat in the front for both classes, and the second class sat with a couple a girls I know that are in my LAB. So I don't know. Today was all right for me. Just I was still feeling the hangover from the whole *space* crap and felt a bit lonely but my friends and I were just having fun and laughing so that helped quite a bit. So anyway I don't have classes with her till thurs so now I can hit the gym hard again tomorrow. Anyway yea things are going all right. Thanks you guys/girls your helpnig me a lot

Well this no contact thing is well meh kind of sore on the spine if you ask me. I find myself sitting home alone tonight and all my friends are working... I feel like crap lol. My phone used to ring from callers and text messages every min and most of them were from her. I feel really low, but I know I got to keep my head up and my eyes on the finish line I suppose.

Yeah no contact is rough but you can handle it. You've been through a break up before and you got through it just fine. Don't feel low. You need a hobby! Buy a guitar. Learn to play the piano or just go for a jog. I guarantee you you're nervous energy will subside. Good luck!

Well I weight lift A lot but I'm sore from today still lol my chest feels as if it is about to explode... I wish it would have snowed already cause then I would be at the rink right now skating not having a care but since there is nothing to do my mind is just playnig with me. I know I shouldn't feel down and stuff lol like my friend gave me a hug today cause he was like *oh so your cause told me you have a gf* and I told him what happened and he was like aww man I'm sorry and hugged me and everyone there felt bad about it. Might I say its good to feel wanted by your friends and know they care a lot. But I guess when your not busy your mind tends to rush to what is was used to.

Well I weight lift ALOT but im sore from today still lol my chest feels as if it is about to explode...I wish it would of snowed already cause then i would be at the rink right now skating not having a care but since there is nothing to do my mind is just playnig with me. i know I shouldn't feel down and stuff lol like my friend gave me a hug today cause he was like *oh so your cause told me you have a gf* and i told him what happened and he was like aww man im sorry and hugged me and everyone there felt bad about it. Might i say its good to feel wanted by your friends and know they care alot. But i guess when your not busy your mind tends to rush to what is was used to.

I envy you. You have great friends it seems. I would suggest if you have more free time perhaps take up painting or something artistic. It helps get your mind off things and put them on a canvas, paper, rock whatever. It's great you're working out. Just keep productive. It works.

With me since I've been doing it for only 2 years it's like a drug to me now lmao. I'm turning 19 in 2 weeks and I'm only 5'8. I used to weigh 120 before working out now I weight 150. I think I did a pretty good gain in 2 years. If I miss a workout I swear I go through withdrawl. But yea I need more than working out cause my mind keeps surging right now and I hate that. I wish there was a button you could push which would turn your brain off or something.

With me since ive been donig it for only 2 years it's like a drug to me now lmao. i'm turning 19 in 2 weeks and im only 5'8. i used to weigh 120 before working out now i weight 150. I think i did a pretty good gain in 2 years. If i miss a workout i swear i go through withdrawl. But yea i need more than working out cause my mind keeps surging right now and i hate that. I wish there was a button you could push which would turn your brain off or something.


Yeah it's called Halo 3. Just get an xbox.

Lmao yea no doubt I have one. Im getting online for my b-day so ill have a lot to keep my mind. But I don't know when I'm down it's iunno hard for me to play video games... I know for me saying that I should castrate myself lol. But I don't know I just either feel I want to work out or waiting for it to god damn snow already lol. I think this is the worst part the NC thing cause when you first start and its new and you really cared about the person... well yea... lmao lol I guess I could always watch porn but I don't know lol

There is no button in the brain, but there are enough other buttons, such as the remote control... change to comedy channels, sci-fi, or listen to some new tunes that you have not heard before. Now is the time to discover new territories.. go for it. The more you fill you brain with new input, the further back the old input gets filed.
We older folks can attest to that fact. I don't remember much about my 19th year now, except that I raced cars, learned a new dance and had fun singing with a band. My relationships then... all forgotten.

You too will survive.

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Be yourself. Do what you would do if you didn't even know her. Stay true to who you are and the rest will come easy.

You could try getting on a bus before she does and sit where there is enough seats that if she wants to sit near you she can. Then you will see if she gets on the same bus or goes for the next one or tries to sit near you on the bus.

You're doing things or trying to think of things to do to avod her is not going to help you because she will always in the back of your mind. You can be on the same bus without sitting together or be in the same class without interacting.
Ignore her she will ignore you and soon she will be out of your mind.

UPDATE: So class was pretty good today. I sat near the front as planned and we watched a movie I actually liked called Tough Guise. Well after class I got a text from her and she wanted to her book I borrowed from her back. Knowing that it is her book I have to contact her or least give it back. So I texted her back telling her to meet me in the café. So I'm waiting there eating my lunch and listening to music and she comes up to me and I hand her the book. She then looks at me for like a minute straight not saying anything and she kind of sighed or made some type of noise and looked at me and said *Well should I sit down I don't know I don't want it to be weird* I just looked up at her a politely said *You can do what you want, it is your decision* So she sat down and she started eating her salade. It was quiet for a bit and got boring so I was being nice and polite and asked her how her classes were going and how her week was going. You know just small talk. I don't know how but I made her laugh just a couple times, I wasn't even trying to be funny. So then my class was about to start and stood up slowly and just said *Well it was nice seeing you again, take care* And walked out of the café feeling pretty good and not looking back at all. Then later I saw her on the bus but I sat near the back and she sat near the front when she came on she smiled at me so I gladly returned the favour and that was that. I don't know what to think now really... so yea! Lol just let you guys know.

You just keep doing what you're doing. Things will work themselves out.

Thank you kindly.I would be lying if I said I didn't want us to get back together cause I do so very much. But a little part of me is saying why bother, is it worth it now. I guess if it doesn't work out you have to give up the things you want the most in life. Which makes for more experience and finding the right person for you if not already found.

Listen to that little voice, it rarely steers you wrong.
I wish you the best

Shoot usually I tell that voice to shut up... hasnt gotten me anywhere big or good so far lol

Ahh the power of indifference and composure is victorious yet again. You've actually become somewhat of a hero to me. We find it hard to maintain no contact, you actually stare temptation in the face and smile. Nice work my good man...

Im no hero, just a guy trying to clean up some wet work. Im not going to back down but I do have a question. What if my ex is one of those girls that doesn't want me to back down and ended up contradicting herself and really wants me to tell her how much I care about her and that I want her back. What do I do then? What if we are both playing the NC game waiting for one of us to crack first. Im still going to keep it up though I feel I owe it to myself and give her what she wanted in the first place. I was just thinking about that. But sports and weight lifting were a part o my life. I was raised to be and think a winner and even if deafeated to raise my head and stick up high (played a lot of hockey) and know that it was meant to end that way only to come back stronger and wiser to win the next game. Thanks

This separation time may be just the ticket. It will come together as it should in due time if it is meant to be.

Thanks that puts me at ease a bit, but I can't use that as a 100% positive thing and hope for cause it might not happen but I get where your coming from

You're in the right frame of mind, so you are going to fine either way.

Well I wasn't thinking about becoming a physco killer if u were thinking that... (sarcasm) lol, but easy comes and easy goes

I never thought that. You're looking at things in their proper perspective. You're not obsessing, you're moving forward. That is a big plus in your favor.

Lol boy oh boy did I ever learn about the obessessing 2 ex's ago WOW not a good thing. Just amagine hunting and if you chase your prey what's the chance you are going to get it lol. And thanks for talking with me, it helps a lot

Happy to know I was helpful.

Update: Well nothing big here just trying to drain some time before work. But it has been a week since she dumped me. I felt the affects of being a bit upset when I first woke up this mourning. So far I feel very irritable and have a feeling it might continue during the day. But who can comlain I guess right. I guess me knowing it has been a week it is like a hangover to me right now and will probably go away as the day goes along or even tomorrow. Keep the head up high and always smile I suppose. Least ill see my friends at work today:)

It's like a drug addiction. You go through withdrawal. Eventually it subsides and you move past it and you become stronger. That's why the no contact things is crucial. I think someone in this forum said that before but I am stealing it and giving no credit.

I think the thing that is killing me a bit is well I miss her but she is the first girl I have done anything sexual with (im turning 19 on the 30th) We didn't have sex but we did certain things for pleasure. But ohh well what can you do eh. Nothing to do tonight really even though it is a Saturday. Im tired from work and I'm not in to the whole bar and drinking thing, I am an athletic whore lol. So I think I'm just chilling tonight by myself watching some Hockey and Comedy channels to get a laugh or to and hit the sack early to study for mid-terms tomorrow. Peace

Update: Well today went as good as yesterday went lol Not much going really. You know sometimes I look at my phone waiting for her to text or call me... but then I basically slap myself in the face and say something like *suck it up damn it, you did nothing wrong she wanted space I'm giving her what she wants, I'm not the problem*. But oh boy like yesterday was I REALLY Irritable today. If my parents asked me something more than once like they usually do I would raise my voice to them. I felt just 100% pissed off today. I can't wait to go to the gym tomorrow and unleash finally.

K well now my head feels like it is going to blow. I found out from a source already either 1. She said she wanted space and in fact she liked another guy, or 2. She is already dating another guy after a week we broke up. I feel shattered right now. I feel just hopeless and stuff. I feel so emotional right now, sad, depressed, and anger. I don't know what to do. I think Will Smith put it best in the movie Hitch "One moment your gliding on air and the next your standing in the rain watching your life fall apart" I feel rotten :(

I know how you feel. I've been preparing myself for such news. It hasn't come and I'm not searching for it. But I do try to brace myself for such news. I tell myself that it doesn't matter. It doesn't change the situation much. You guys are still broken up, you still have to focus on yourself, you will be a stronger person after. If she is with someone else, it has no bearing on the type of man you are. It shows how weak she is. Some people always need someone to be around to make themselves feel better.

I felt all of those emotions you described when I saw a picture of her having a good time, soon after the break up. Take a walk, talk to your friends, do something to get your emotions out. Good luck to you brother. Stay strong.

HUH... wow now I feel fine LMAo who knew. Kind of weird I guess I went in to a state of shock when I found out but now I don't know I feel fine... I feel free, and a sigh of relief really... or am I in a state of shock still cause I don't know I actually feel pretty good now. Hey if she wants to do that fine by me. Now that I think about it she ain't much of a good person to dump me over a text message... I feel sorry actually for the next guy LOL... why do I feel so good I have to idea lol. Thanks Man

That's great, I wish you can share some of that feeling with me. For someone to break up via text, that person is not worth your time. You deserve better than that.

I'd take what she says at face value. Give her the space she needs, sit away from her in class and on the bus and don't have any contact with her. Also get out and meet new people and get involved in other activities. Build yourself a life without her. This is the best thing you can do for yourself right now.

No duh I'm going to give her the space lol. I started sitting away from her in class and on the bus. Seeing her face now is like me and country music, if I hear any of it it makes me want to take a gun and blow my brains on the sidewalk lol I can't stand that stuff. HMMM I wonder why I am taking this so well actually... Maybe I'm just in shock at it'll hit me tomorrow... I don't know I just feel good right now for some reason like I can lift the world above me shoulders, I have no idea lol it's like I feel I should be sad but I'm not... talk about your all time backfires lol

Well keep up the no contact... just because you see her doesn't mean you HAVE to talk to her, or even interact with her. It will get even easier.

Update: Well I woke up today feeling a bit... awkward... a bit down and a bit well funny feeling. I was pissed at first but then I merely shrugged me shoulders and just said to myself *hey her loss really, she wanted and I gave it to her. I did nothing wrong and if she wants to act this way like a child then so be it, I don't need a relationship to feel secure. She's missing out on a great person and I bet there are plenty of other girls at university that would be glad for them to call me their boyfriend.* I actually kind of feel sorry for the new guy actually cause rebounds usually suck anyway, least from what I heard.

Anyway I was listening to some song today and I actually listened to the lyrics lately and surprised about how much they could mean that one day she's realise she screwed up, might be tomorrow, next week hell even in a few months but she'll realise it

For instance Burn inside My Light

*I gave and you taked and I waited for you but I made a mistake.
It's clear that your fear is so near because I see the look on your face.
You tried holdin' me under, I held my breath.
Alone and now you wonder what I possess.*
I guess you can say for this song that either way one day the idea of me will pop in her head and realise what I really did bring to the table and miss it.

And Justin Timberlakes song

*You spend your nights alone
And he never comes home
And every time you call him
All you get's a busy tone
I heard you found out
That he's doing to you
What you did to me
Ain't that the way it goes
You cheated girl
My heart bleeds girl
So it goes without saying that you left me feeling hurt
Just a classic case
A scenario
Tale as old as time
Girl you got what you deserved
And now you want somebody
To cure the lonely nights
You wish you had somebody
That could come and make it right
But girl I ain't somebody with a lot of sympathy
You'll see*

That's pretty much self explanitory. I just got to keep my head up high and keep simling and know I am that damn good! Lmao Later

Yeah music is wonderful in its capacity to help with healing. I think I started turning for the better when I picked up Ok Computer by Radiohead, I had never heard of them but they blew me away and I got thus far addicted to their music.

Lol nice. Yea once you actually pay attention you realise how it can help you in everyday life. Oh well relationship went down the crapper meh oh well, it's not like I am dying here or something. A new day for the sun to shine and wake up to.

Yeah, you'll see it slowly subside. The crazy part is that the stronger you feel the more confident you become. At least for me. I get down every once in a while still but honestly speaking, I am way more confident now than I was when me and my ex were still together. In any case stay strong.

I think sometimes I get TOOO confident lol. I think that is a minus for me I think I need to tone it down just a bit, like offt I know I'm not the best thing in this world but sometimes I like to think it for some reason makes me feel good.

UPDATE: I hope you guys/girls don't mind me doing these... lol just keeping you posted. Well anyway I have been feeling pretty darn good lately. Haven't talked to my ex for 2 weeks and feel really good. I heard some news that she might be dropping out of university for one year cause she feels she is not *ready* so I guess that is a plus for me, for healing faster. As for other things, they've been going good, I've been hitting on other girls already, and I think one might like me so far. Just kind of a gut feeling really. Anyway I'm surprised how well I am taking this really. Thanks for the help and ill keep you posted if anything else happens. Peace

Good for you! Keep up the good work.

UPDATE: i hope you guys/girls dont mind me doing these...lol just keeping you posted. Well anyways I have been feeling pretty darn good lately. Haven't talked to my ex for 2 weeks and feel really good. I heard some news that she might be dropping out of university for one year cause she feels she is not *ready* so i guess that is a plus for me, for healing faster. As for other things, they've been going good, ive been hitting on other girls already, and i think one might like me so far. Just kind of a gut feeling really. Anyways im surprised how well i am taking this really. Thanks for the help and ill keep you posted if anything else happens. Peace

Her dropping out of the university is related to the reason why she broke up with you. Same thing happened with my last girlfriend. She broke up with me dropped out of school and tried to become a stewardess. I think it's like an identity crisis. That's why I think relationships while both or one are young are hard to keep. A lot of young people haven't really found themselves yet. I didn't get it either but overtime I realized she was just scared with the possible outlook of having to deal with all these stressors. I was a stressor and so was school so both were nixed. Doesn't mean the other person is a bad person more so that they weren't sure or happy with their current situation. You look like you're healing well. Keep up the good work, you're probably inspiring many people on this forum. Take Care.

Well I don't know cause I think either she was dating me and another guy or after a week we broke up she is dating another guy already. Maybe she's just one of those girls who contradicts themselves and to not feel alone they go find another face you know like a throw back or a rebound. In that case if that is what she did that is very low of her and I somewhat lost some respect for her. I just can't amagine how people can do that and have no regard or put themselves in the other persons shoes and know what it feels like so quickly and soon. This mourning I woke up and felt a bit down, but hey I guess you can't drive forever and not expect to hit a speed bump now and then. Oh well I just have to keep my mind busy.

UPDATE: Sorry it has been so long guys, I have been really busy lately. So yea everything has been going really good lately, and I'm feeling great. It was my birthday on the 30th of OCT so my friends and I were partying hard and stuff and had a lot of fun. Haven't seen or talked to me ex for about 4-5 weeks and I feel good. The only time I "heard" from her was when my friend saw pics of her and her new boyfriend on Facebook, my friend got so pissed and typed on her wall *Wow you're the definition of b!t$h* lmao I found out later and well I thought it was really amsuing so I laughed for about 5 minutes lol. I deleted her fromm all my conacts and everything now she is just a shadow to me. There is this other girl now. On my birthday we couldn't do anythnig so I asked her what she was doing on halloween and she said *ohh I'm just sitting on my a$$ at home doing nothing*. So I played it smooth and said *How about you come and sit on your a$$ at my house and help me hand out candy* So she agreed and we exchanged numbers and she came over. She was snugglnig up to me a bit but I didn't wanan rush things so I let her do w/e she wanted. It was a good night. Lately she's been texting me a lot saying she misses me and she can't wait till we hang again. So things are finally looking up again for me. School is great, I play Halo 3 online now :p and this other girl likes me basically. Thanks for all your help. If anything major happens ill keep you posted. Thanks

Well this is part 2 of my thread. My first one was about this girl and blah blah blah she dumped me blah blah blah lol. Ok well things are looknig up and going my way again. I feel great and everything is going well. Ive been flirting A lot and 4 girls in university like me right now, but this certain special one caught my attention. Me and the guys and this girl went upstairs at uni to a restaurant and buy our friend a beer cause it was his birthday. So she bought herself one. I was just talking with the guys then she started to flirt with me a bit and stuff. Then we went back inside the restaurant and they sat at a table and there was no room for me to sit so she said for me to sit on her lap *usually for me it's the other way around but I did*. So that and that happened. Then her food came and I got off her and crouched on the ground. Then she started to feed me fries and stuff I thought that was very nice of her. Then after that she made a joke about me and I made this like sad puppy dog face and she said *aww it is OK I love you* then she brought my head over to her and she kissed my cheek. So I was thinking *mother of god she likes me and she is freaking gorgous*. But then I was thinking maybe she could use the whole *ohhh I was buzzed a bit and did some things* but the thing is that she only had one beer. And after I left my friends said she was acting fine after that so id on't know. Im like pretty sure she likes me so I can't wait to see her again at school really. Just wanted to get your input and stuff and my next move would be to ask her out. Thanks

I think you should go for it. Ask her out, but don't go too crazy over her. Be yourself.

Yeah, she digs you. Just take a deep breath, you know you want to be smooth about it. Find something cool to do like a concert or some festival and come up to her and say something like "yeah so I got this extra ticket, wanna come?" Look into her eyes when you say it and say it like you have 100% confidence that she would be an idiot not to take it. Unwavering. Cheers!

Yea I had the feeling. And plus she invited me to her birthday party she is having and I'm going to tell her I booked off work especially for her so I could come to make her feel really good, and then maybe buy her a little something just to show her you know.

take it for face value... if she was strong enough to ask you to stop... she's strong enough to come and talk to you.. sit by you w/e. you don't have to be at her beck and call and do w/e she wants you to at the moment... do what YOU want. If you feel like sitting by her on the bus but not in class then do that. You don't need an explanation... maybe shell be a little worried about what she gave up... not that its supposed to be all about mind games... its not,. that's why my advice to you is do whatever it is you feel like at the moment and don't worry about impressions or opinions or anything like that.. life is too short. Just do what feels right and you can't make a mistake... because its as honest as you'll get.

I am so glad that things are turning to the positive side of life for you again. We told you it would take time, and am happy that it did not take tooo longgg.

Re-discovered confidence and attraction can be fun, can't it..

Wishing you lots and lots of fun and happiness!

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Yeah that's awesome.. see everything works out in its own way.. some way or another.. you know.

yeah thats awesome.. see everything works out in its own way.. some way or another.. ya know.

Know exactly what you mean. I am happier now than I was within the last two years. I don't have a relationship, but I have a lot of friends and family who support me and I'm doing things I want to do for a change and not compromise and it feels great!

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That's great! Sometimes it takes time alone to realize what you have... instead of always wanting more. (not that I'm saying you do) but its kind of a breath of fresh air to be free and know that there's something good out there and you just haven't found it yet... but will soon