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raggamuffin
Oct 9, 2007, 03:25 PM
I find it really hard to say how I feel when I'm with my man he finks I'm emotionless I get really nervous about making a move and I try to say I miss you I love you but I can't bring myself to say it it's there it just won't come out no matter how comfatable I feel when I'm with him or when were talking in bed I can't say things like that wats wrong with me I can say it in a text but I still get really nervous we rite the message then delete it and stuff like that my boyfriend finks I don't care and stuff I try to explain that it won't come out he finks its because I'm scared of getting hurt again like I did in a previous relationship but he's 10 times better than my ex someone help me!

Homegirl 50
Oct 9, 2007, 05:16 PM
How long have you been with him? Do you think that maybe you just don't love him? I mean he may be a good guy, but that does not mean you have to love him.
It is not good nor is it fun to be with someone you can't talk to.
If you think you have a problem get some counseling. If not, maybe this is just not the guy for you. Break it off. See how you feel.

friend4u178
Oct 9, 2007, 05:20 PM
I think Homegirl has a good point here , do you really Love this guy?

N0help4u
Oct 9, 2007, 05:51 PM
Yeah it could be you are not in love with him like you think you are.
You might be in love with the idea of being in love with him but there could be something about him that holds you back. Like if he isn't really your type that might hold you back some.
If you are in love with him you can do things that show you love him. Like pamper him, give him back rubs, cook his favorite meal and make it special, be there for him and show him you love him by the little things you do.

Journalist_2004
Oct 16, 2007, 03:27 PM
You know what, I feel the same way. I'm not really able 2 talk 2 my boyfriend about how I feel and other things because I'm afraid of getting hurt too but the truth with me is, there were too many problems that happened in the past between us and over time, the love that I had for him has kind of decreased over time, and I sometimes it's not easy. Also, I don't think he's going to take my fears in consideration as much as I need it to be taken into.

Homegirl 50
Oct 16, 2007, 04:46 PM
You know what, I feel the exact same way. I'm not really able 2 talk 2 my boyfriend about how I feel and other things because I'm afraid of getting hurt too but the truth with me is, there were too many problems that happened in the past between us and over time, the love that I had for him has kind of decreased over time, and i sometimes it's not easy. Also, I don't think he's gonna take my fears in consideration as much as I need it to be taken into.
Then for you, I'd ask why are you wasting your time with someone like that? Life is too short to waste your time with someone you're not happy with. If you're not married to this guy, have no kids with him, there is IMO no reason to deal with him. Move on.