When I do # 2, there is smething slimy white looking discharge like only a little bit that comes out that I've noticed. Is that a sign of pregnancy? I never had sexual intercourse I'm still a virgin but he just came on me and most of it was on my hands which I washed out. I had my under on as well.

How is it that you think you could be pregnant if you've not had sex? How old are you?

When you say "doing #2" I assume you mean a bowel movement?

You cannot get pregnant unless you have intercourse. Rarely does a woman get pregnant without having intercourse.

This white discharge usually signifies ovulation.

HOW CAN YOU POSSIBLY BE PREGNANT IF YOU HAVEN'T HAD SEX !!!!!

Go and talk to your mom about where babies come from RIGHT NOW!!

J_9 I really want to talk to you about my situation because I've noticed how educated you are with all these women health issues. Is there any way I can talk to you one on one? I really need some advice before I end up losing it. Id really appreciate it.

For all the others, I did not have sexual intercourse but just that my boyfriend came on me I guess it was dry humping and then when I came home there was something just lingering ard. If you read all my other questions in relationships, ull see what I'm talking about.

I am 20 yrs old. I know how to get pregnant but right now I am extremely paranoid. Also I missed my period it was suppose to come on sep 25 and its oct now but either way I never had it on time. It usually skips.

Sweetie, we like to keep these here in the public boards so that other people can learn from what we have experienced. I hope you understand.

Now, dry humping happens when clothes stay on.

It takes the force of the penis inside the vagina to propel the sperm up into the vaginal canal so that the sperm can mate with the ovum (egg) in the fallopian tube.

If he did not penetrate you, you are not pregnant.

That's fine I respect that. But when I came home and I washed myself down there, there was nothing ON my underwear but near my vagina like in my inner thigh, I found that same white stuff. That made me more paranoid. When he came on me, most of it was on my hand that I cleaned but some drops were on my pants and there was a tear in the pants already that I didn't even notice (not from him) which made me MORE paranoid that the sperm ended it all the way near my vagina.

Sweetie, there is nothing for you to worry about. If you continue to worry, it WILL make your period late, which will make you worry longer. Sperm CANNOT travel up your leg, into your vagina, through your uterus and up your fallopian tubes. The are not like little bugs with legs, LOL. They need the lubrication of the vagina to move.

You are safe.

How often do you have to ask the same question??
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens-health/pregnant-paranoid-120463.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/womens-health/brown-discharge-something-else-121693.html
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/hes-def-getting-married-138319.html

I thought this site was for your peace of mind and not others judging you about how many times you post up a question?

Thanks J_9 your the best.

Also, I've always had sensitive skin down there and now its really itchy and when I use water it stings. Is there a cure for that? I've been using vagisil the one in the tube and then the wipes for that and it helps but then it comes back and I kind of make it worse by itching and irritating it.

i thought this site was for ur peace of mind and not others judging u about how many times u post up a question?

thanks J_9 ur the best.

Dear lyte,
When you ask the same question everywhere it just confuses those answering you.
And with one question on whichever topic you choose makes it easier for you to find the answers and reply.

And Curlyben is not judging you, he is just stating facts.
He is just one of those special people here, who keeps this site sane.:)

Lyte, the problem is, is that you keep posting the same question over and over. If you were not pregnant in August you are not pregnant now if you did the same thing this time that you did last time. You will get the same answers every time.

Now, how pregnancy occurs, there is no other way, just doesn't happen...

You and your boyfriend have to take your clothes off... he has to insert his penis into your vagina... he has to ejaculate (withdrawal method does not work either).

If his penis does not enter your vagina you cannot be pregnant. If he has his clothes on... you cannot be pregnant. If you have your clothes on... you cannot be pregnant.

Oral sex does not get you pregnant

Anal sex does not get you pregnant

His penis MUST be in your vagina.


also, ive always had sensitive skin down there and now its really itchy and when i use water it stings. is there a cure for that? ive been using vagisil the one in the tube and then the wipes for that and it helps but then it comes back and i kinda of make it worse by itching and irritating it.

Sounds like a yeast infection. All of us women get them from time to time. You need a doctor to prescribe you an anti-fungal medication to get rid of it.

All right sorry for the misunderstanding in that case and thanks for all your answers and the time that u took out to read my long post.

You know to put a stop to the worry, why don't you have him wear a condom when he's doing whatever it is he does, then you know the semen is not going to touch you at all.

God has already did something to stop the worrying.. He's getting married which is a total different issue I'm dealing with. That was why I was paranoid so much to ask the question because I knew I was the one who had to deal with it first before telling him when he's already moving on his life.

Well, I'm sorry to hear that. Did you know this guy was engaged?

No he's not engaged or anything yet. His family has started to look for someone for him. Arranged marriage.

I'm sorry to hear that. Where are you from?

Middle east

I see. So will you family choose a husband for you?

Middle east

If I find someone whose from where I'm from and he's educated and knows what he wants in life then my parents will accept him. Another than that its usually arranged like your parents pick out someone and you can agree or disagree with it.

So did this young man not want to be with you, or were you not wanting to be with this young man?

It's a long story, id have to convert for him and what not and his parents wouldn't accept me. Again long story.

Wel I guess you will have to use your head with young men. Your heart is OK but sometime you have to stop and think if it is beneficial to engage the heart with a person you know you can't be with.
At any rate, I wish you peace.

The white stuff may have been your own lubrication. It was not semen.

I find this interesting. You keep posting similar questions, and when I tend to put my answer up for you, you quickly leave the post and START A NEW QUESTION.

Why? Isn't the answer I provide okay for people to see? Or was this not what you were looking for? I will paste it below, because I think it can help with your situation (you keep talking about being afraid you're pregnant, and about your situation with your man).

Here it goes:


I can relate to you in many ways. My dad's side of the family is Jewish and they disowned him after he got together with my mom. My Jewish grandma never even recognized me as her granddaughter for not being a full orthodox Jew. I actually never see her, unless at a funeral, a wedding, and she hardly looks at me.

I have said this before in your other post: I think if you two love each other enough, you will be together. If you don't end up together, be sure that it is not your religion that should be blamed, but it's either your cultural choice or you two prioritizing your parents beliefs over your own. For if you notice, in history, most religions did not even allow women to go to school...but today they do. Now was this really God or just culture forcing this? And today, many Muslims marry non-muslims, or many catholics take birth control, even though historically their religions prohibit both.

So, you and your boyfriend can be true to what you believe in, and choose the more modern traditions in your religion, which do not involve getting arranged marriages. Explain this to your boyfriend and show him the many examples of countries with your religion that do not follow this practice. You should also try and rationalize with the parents that keep you two apart. My friend from work is from Sudan and she's Muslim, and it's not culture in their country to have arranged marriages. My Lebanese friend said arranged marriages were something mostly unheard of in her country. Many Muslims in America do not have arranged marriages either. Maybe you can talk about this to the parents involved and educate them on other Muslim traditions. But be prepared that your parents might not see the light, as my father's Jewish mother never did, and does not even see me as a grandchild. Though, remember, "love is always something worth fighting for".

I think your boyfriend may be making excuses, or perhaps he's not mature enough for your love? You two need to see if this is worth fighting for.

Also, yes you could be pregnant. Go to a doctor and check this out. My aunt is fairly religious and believed it's wrong to have sex before marriage too. She had oral sex like you and indeed ended up pregnant and my grandmother forced her to get married at age 19 to a man who was (I think around) 25 years her sernior!

Calm down, and get to a hospital so you can know if you are pregnant as soon as possible. It's best you know if you are pregnant or not so you can better decide what to do from there! The only thing you need to focus on right now is to know if you are pregnant.

I hope you get through this, and I know how stressful your situation is. It runs through my family history.

She had oral sex like you and indeed ended up pregnant

Is this something new? I just finished OB/GYN rotation in school and we were taught that only vaginal sex results in pregnancy.

Sorry Sad Soul, but it is IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant with oral sex. Totally and completely 100% impossible.

Is this something new? I just finished OB/GYN rotation in school and we were taught that only vaginal sex results in pregnancy.

Sorry Sad Soul, but it is IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant with oral sex. Totally and completely 100% impossible.


No I swear to you she did, and some came "on" her vagina. (His penis never actually went in).

Or so she told her mother?

I'll try to see if I can find evidence that this can happen, because it has happened to her.

It is impossible to get pregnant with oral sex.

Now if he ejaculated on her vagina it is possible but extremely rare as the sperm die as they hit the oxygenated air.

The sperm, as I have stated before, are not like little bugs with legs that can crawl up the leg or down the vaginal area into the vaginal canal. All they have are little tails that are their only method of motility and rely on being propelled to the cervix via penetration and the fluids of the vaginal canal.

I bet she just told her mother that she was still a virgin when in fact she was not.

It is impossible to get pregnant with oral sex.

Now if he ejaculated on her vagina it is possible but extremely rare as the sperm die as they hit the oxygenated air.

The sperm, as I have stated before, are not like little bugs with legs that can crawl up the leg or down the vaginal area into the vaginal canal. All they have are little tails that are their only method of motility and rely on being propelled to the cervix via penetration and the fluids of the vaginal canal.

I bet she just told her mother that she was still a virgin when in fact she was not.

I am saying it is possible because it happened to my aunt. And yes it is extremely rare.

This web site is a part of the New York Times Company.

I will paste the link, which explains that what I was saying was not "impossible". It's just a very rare case.

Your Most Embarrassing Sex Questions Answered (http://teenadvice.about.com/od/sexuallyactive/a/sillysexqa.htm)

It actually says that even over the underwear it's possible to get pregnant.

As I said, it is possible, but extremely rare. Especially if the gal is a virgin, then they hymen gets in the way.

But oral... NO WAY JOSE!!

As I said, it is possible, but extremely rare. Especially if the gal is a virgin, then they hymen gets in the way.

But oral...........NO WAY JOSE!!!

I know. I'm just posting that because you said my story was impossible at first.

The poster also said that some ejaculation went around her vagina. So I was telling the poster as well, that it is possible. Also, you can still be a virgin if the hymen is broken. Some girls, for example, their hymen's break from horseback riding or a tampon, and they may go on unaware of this.

Can I get pregnant from giving oral sex?
- No you cannot get pregnant from giving or receiving oral sex but you can get an STD including HIV/AIDS.

Can I get pregnant from receiving oral sex?
- No you cannot get pregnant from giving or receiving oral sex but you can get an STD including HIV/AIDS.

Bear in mind the chances of pregnancy without penetration are so SMALL as to be virtually impossible, hence J's response.

I think this thread has gone far enough.
Do you agree J ?

Wow, you really confused it all. You said, and I quote


She had oral sex like you and indeed ended up pregnant

That is what is IMPOSSIBLE.

I know that the hymen can be broken and the girl can still be a virgin. Many people don't understand that, but, yes it is possible.

This girl is not pregnant, as she started her period today and didn't even know what it was. I had to explain it to her.

I think this thread has gone far enough.
Do you agree J ?

Yes, Ben I do. Do your magic love.

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