Me and my ex have been broken up for about 5 months now, and no contact for about 3 months. We dated for nearly a year.

For about two of the months of NC, didn't think about her at all, was enjoying single life.. too much one could say. Lately she has come back into my mind, I wrote her a short letter saying sorry for something's I did. (nothing horrible, in fact the way I acted was a result of her actions- nothing of cheating, just kind of being short and an to her.)

I have had about 7 flings one could since we have broken up. Wondering why after a week or two I just lose interest when I actually start to think more of them.

I basically miss my exgf, and I do know she misses me too; by some of our mutual friends comments. But on that her close friends despise me. The ones here are guy friends, that have always wanted to date her, and made up numerous stories about me, and her girlfriends that have always found me very attractive and did not like seeing my ex as happy as she was (they kind of got around, never had a real boyfriend). With all of them telling her I'm an , and a cheater, she believes the tall tell stories over actions that never, ever showed me doing that.

Everyone around me considers me a complete sweetheart, and the total package for a girl. (Not to be cocky at all, I am a very good looking guy, and will give anyone the shirt off my back no matter who you are. Have numerous girls that want to date me, but I just cannot get beyond the barrier for some reason when they want to get serious, I push away being reminded of my exgf). I say this because we work together, and everyone at work loves me (once again rather conceited but trying not to be); point of this is that the people that know me, around me all the time know how I am, and it totally contradicts her opinion about me that was formed within a month. Instead of the 11 months of absolutely treating her like a queen.

She will not talk to me, because of what her friends have done. I ran into her at work the other day. She saw me, stared at me and started to tear then shuddered off (when she gets nervous/sad/worrysome she has this walk that is very fast paced with her head down). I know feelings are still there, we went through a lot together, and both lost our virginity to each other, something I consider rather big.

With all of that, I am not saying I want to be in a relationship with her again, because honestly she was very needy (From wanting to spend everyday together to worrying if I was going out with my friends) but I do still love her. I want to talk to her, allow us to at least clear things out of the water, I do not like being labeled for something I did not do. She can hate me all she wants for being an to her when she made poor decisions. But for cheating on her, that is not fair at all. I really don't know what to do, is it too much to ask for a conversation? I mean I need it. I get so close to some wonderful girls I have met, then the love I had for my exgf comes into mind, and I push away, I do not want to do that anymore. And I do NOT want to continue on this track I have created for sleeping around, I don't know why I do it, but I do, and it needs to stop (Tbh I think to take my mind off a person).

Yea I don't know lol

If you have learned something from your time apart, and want to start communicating with her BUT only to come back "stronger" and nurture a healthy relationship, then be honest with her.

And just to make things clear; did you cheat on her? I didn't understand that part of your post.

If you have learned something from your time apart, and want to start communicating with her BUT only to come back "stronger" and nurture a healthy relationship, then be honest with her.

And just to make things clear; did you cheat on her? I didn't understand that part of your post.


No I did not cheat on her, I despise cheating and lying. She knows that, she also cheated on her exbf (while he was a complete jerk, still) and that brought some distance between us for a week or two because of my outlook of once a cheater always a cheater.

Communicate with her how? I do not want to seem stalkerish, my close girlfriends want me to try everything to talk to her, because recently she has been asking about me and coming closer to some of my friends at the workplace of which she never has talked to before.