Hello I am a 29 yr old woman with three kids by three men. None of them help me with anything unless it is time to go to court for child support. I am just entirely frustrated with it all. I have one baby daddy that I get along with he will do what he can when he can he just broke right now but we at least talk about things. I like our relationship the best. Then there is another baby daddy but he is a because he got married and his wife is really cynical so we just don't speak to each other or maybe its because I can't locate him because she changed all the numbers. The last baby daddy whew! Where do I start, he is the one that I loved and played the fool for now it's just completely out of control. He has been with a girl for some time but kept coming to me for the sex. He don't do anything for my son except for court day he makes a payment. But lately he has just ignored me completely and no matter what I do he just ignores me. The love that I had for him is quickly turning into a distained and utter disgust for him. I have come to the point that I want him to give up all parental rights and to remove the tattoo of my son's name off his arm. I really tried to be fair in this all. I waited for years for him to be real about it all but then he says he don't talk deeply. B*lush#t I'm just tired of him he just pops up when he wants to and takes my son. He hasn't seen him since January 2007 he came Tuesday, October 2,2007 to get my son for 1hr because his grandmother is here in the hospital. Every since he came and left my son has been crying and sad. I have tried so many ways of being fair but it seems my efforts have been in vain so long I can't seem to get him to think I'm serious about what I say. Now I just don't know what to do it has me puzzled.

You need to keep after Child support court. They are suppose to find the dad for you. Child support court always gave me a run around and I didn't have time to keep after them so I never got child support and now my kids are grown and I wish I had made him be financially responsible for them. I also made the mistake of insisting he spent time with them and they were 'lucky' if he bothered with them twice a year for a couple hours. I got to the point I told him stay out of their life because all you are doing is getting their hopes up telling you will see them next week and then you don't bother for 8 months.

You need to keep after the child support enforcement agency. Have the men been legally identified as the fathers? If so, then should be a court order for the child support and if that is in place, why isn't the child support taken out of their wages? The back child support can be garnished by the IRS and paid back to you.

Do not let all this get to you. You are the one responsible to see that your children get that support. So you do want you have to. I know it is frustrating and often a lengthy process. But persistence pays off.

Have you ever contacted the organization Support Kids? supportkids.org (http://www.supportkids.org) Their ads say they collect child support. Supposed to be successful. Good luck.

Please don't take this the wrong way but the other answer are perfectly correct but one thing was left out. Why are you letting these men take advantage of you? I don't know you at all but it comes across that you are letting this happen. You need to love yourself and you don't need a man to make you feel like the beautiful women that you are. Look at all the wonderful things in your life, like your children. And heck if those men don't want to do right that is fine, the children will know. Just remember never to talk down about them in front of the children, ou will be the better person and they will love you much more when they are older. Just remember, love yourself.

Being fair in a street fight won't cut it. So much time has been wasted trying things your way and now you should contact Children Protective Services (or like name) in your area and schedule a sit down interview then contact a attorney and do the same thing. I guess it's like this; where do you want to be in 15 or 20 years? Be smart and get help with this mess. Good luck