A few years ago I met this girl called Cathrine, it was good at first we kissed and held each other I knew she liked me I even stuck up for her when all my mate said she was ugly but to the point shortly after that she got a BF called Liam and I always said id wait for her she was in this relationship for over a year and still I loved her and waited for her during this point we had a number of disagreements and for a time I went off her and then the day came she broke up with him I felt a kind of happiness not at her being dumped but I knew my chance had finally come so I talked with her and she said she didn't really want a relationships so I waited another six months we finally met again just a few weeks ago all was good we kissed again and hugged and so forth anyway I was speaking to her on MSN and we were speaking like we always do flirting and all of that and then out of the blue came " you do know id never go out with you " I was like ouch!! That went deeper then when she told me she had got a boyfriend, that's where my life kind of fell apart I was like huh and she ( to be honest ) id have asked you out already and I just couldn't believe what she was saying id waited for 3 years for her and she came out with something like this my worlds kind of fallen apart could she be teasing or does she sound like she truthfully means it if she does what should I do? Is it a lost cause? I love her so much it's a joke, after my dad died when I was 12 I closed up from the world and she's been the only one who's actually managed to open me up and see what I'm going through...

You waited three years, that was your first mistake, I mean that is a long time to sit around and wait. If she really wanted you she would have came back... so any guy or girl is not worth waiting that long... you have to move on my friend... I know you love her sooooo much. I'm going through the same thing, except its been three months. Go to your local bookstore and pick up a book on how to heal a broken heart, it really helps. Stop wasting valuable time on worrying about her and worry about you and take care of yourself. You will be happier in the end. And it is a lost cause... think about it THREE YEARS!! Please help yourself and move on and don't wait around for yourself to get hurt again.

I feel so stupid 3 years of sitting patiently waiting for her I sat through her year and a half relationship just to find out it was a lost cause... God why does love hurt so much...

She perhaps is quite shallow and when you 1st met her this was not apparent. I'm with you as far as hanging around for 3 years. We all make decisions we feel are well founded and some are failures so we learn from these decisions. Non of us have a handle on the future nor can we ever fully recognize every facet of another person's character. If her MSN action has given you a better sense of her state of mind and heart then you are now wiser than before and it would seem that the memories you lived with for the past 3 years may have been more to your making than you thought. You sound like a bright and sound person who can weather this and much more and it will be credit to your character and not to ignorance or foolishness. In the future her memories of you will not be of her making alone, rather they will be from two people who shared time together. You have both grown from this experience, you have become brighter and she has become older.

Love can be the most beautiful thing in the world and it can be your worst enemy sometimes.