In a paragraph or more, or less.. explain why you think it's wrong for children to view online pornography. I'd like to hear what some of you think about this issue. Thanks :)

1. Viewing porn is like kissing. It's hard to stop and it's hard to resist going further. By going further, I mean going from viewing nudity to viewing the sex act itself to viewing sodomy to viewing bestiality, etc.

2. Viewing porn also desensitizes kids from growing in maturity to appreciate the true value and goodness of sex.

I do agree that it's addicting. It's also become more open now considering it was an underground problem for a long time.

I think the first place a child should learn about sex and/or porn is at home with the parents so that when they have questions they get the proper answers and guidance that they should have. I would watch a movie with my child and we would talk about the subject afterwards, but porn - no- I think it's more suited to adults if they really need it.

I definitely agree with Chery! The parents should introduce their children.. but not with porn. With educational movies that the teachers view in the classrooms.

Ditto, ditto, ditto.

In my home we (my wife and I) only allow internet access by our kids (6 of 'em) to sites we approve.

Further, we strongly filter all other activity (especially the popular AIM) with software (SpectorPro).

On top of that, conversation and explanation of what we want them to know about sex (physically, spiritually and emotionally) helps, too, to to convince us that at least they have the foundation we want them to have when they're exposed when out of our sight.

I hope and believe that most adults, even those who view pornography, would agree that their teen (especially pre-18) and younger children should not be doing so themselves.

... not unlike other things that require maturity beforehand, like drinking, smoking, driving, etc. huh?

That's great what you're doing Rick! Children of today need protection from all the different kinds of websites on the internet. Even pop-ups can shock the kids and they'll wonder what it is. Anything can happen and grown men or women who have suffered with this when they were younger can damage them for life. Nightmares can occur even after the years have passed and it's likely to happen because you can't just forget about the past when it was filled with so much abuse. No human can! I think it's great that you're protecting your kids and that's what every parent should do! :)

That's great what you're doing Rick! Children of today need protection from all the different kinds of websites on the internet. Even pop-ups can shock the kids and they'll wonder what it is. Anything can happen and grown men or women who have suffered with this when they were younger can damage them for life. Nightmares can occur even after the years have passed and it's likely to happen because you can't just forget about the past when it was filled with so much abuse. No human can! I think it's great that you're protecting your kids and that's what every parent should do! :)I agree. An how true it is about memory and dreams. I was 4 at the time, and still have nightmares about the incidents. Even though I had therapy and am pretty well 'healed' and am not a man-hater, so it does stick with kids no matter how long.

I can understand how difficult it would be to think about the memories and how it haunts you till this very day. I'm sorry to hear about that Chery. But that's great that you're doing well, eh?

Life has to go on somehow. I concentrate on turning my energy to do good, that helps me too.

Thank you for the encouragement.

A kid's mind is a sponge, isn't it?: We must be very careful about what we allow to soak into it.

Yup, Yup, Yup. One of my favorites from a kids' movie with those little dinos, but it makes the point. I read somewhere a long while back, that most people that were abused as children make the best actors and comedians... food for thought?

Hi,
A couple of days ago, NBC had a report on it's national news TV show about children and porn.
Although not conclusive in it's findings yet, research is showing, so far:
1. Children who look and listen to porn are more likely, in later years, to have violent activities.
2. When they eventually have sex, it will not be up to their expectations, do not enjoy it as it should be enjoyed.
It is the responsibility of parents to monitor what their children do and watch on a computer; in whatever way they can find that is effective.
Best wishes,
fredg

Hi,
A couple of days ago, NBC had a report on it's national news TV show about children and porn.
Although not conclusive in it's findings yet, research is showing, so far:
1. Children who look and listen to porn are more likely, in later years, to have violent activities.
2. When they eventually have sex, it will not be up to their expectations, do not enjoy it as it should be enjoyed.
It is the responsibility of parents to monitor what their children do and watch on a computer; in whatever way they can find that is effective.
Best wishes,
fredg
I sure hope those parents who need to guide their children more carefully paid attention to the TV at that time instead of flipping to another channel. Some parents are just 'too busy' and expect the schools to take the responsibility, too bad, because those are the parents who visit their children in jails or cemeteries later on, and wonder "why did this have to happen to me"... still not getting it.

Introducing a child's sexuality through teaching and gentle showing is the right way.


Ugh, that's a pretty sick statement, coming from someone who admits to being a paedophile! You shouldn't be helping kids with their sexuality, or helping them at all for that matter!

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Him- you should be allowed anywhere near kids or for that reason you shouldn't be allowed near anyone except for prison staff

Admins Can you please look into the things that "him" is saying on the forum. This is open web and there are a number of young children and teens that view these boards and I sure would not want any of my family or friends children getting im's or email from a very sick twisted person like him.

True but what everyone has to realise is that this person is just twisted and if he contacted me or any other kids/teenagers hopefully they would ignore him

true but what everyone has to realise is that this person is just twisted and if he contacted me or any other kids/teenagers hopefully they would ignore him

True I just hope that if people do get any message's or anything off this guy they go straight into the rubbish icon... ((Erase))...

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It seems to have something to do with the thing that appears at the top of each posting! Where you can leave feed back on peoples comments on the post that you have left.

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The way I brought my kids was firstly to make the distinction between porn and human sexuality. Naked people pre se is not porn, the sex act is. We didn't comment or squirm when the occasional nudity would come up in a movie. We did not hide our bodies coming out of the shower, nor did we parade around, as you would in a locker room. No comments, no explanation. My mother was so repressive that if a bra commercial came on the TV she would change the channel. I don't feel that had any negative affect on me either, I felt it was her problem.
The problem with children viewing the sex act is that because of their limited experience it may well appear that what is happening is an act of aggression. A man is pinning down a woman, she is making distressing noises, they are in a violent tussel. That's what they see, not an intimate act between lovers. They are simply not ready to wholly understand what is happening. We don't teach algebra before we set the foundation with a solid mathmatics course. Things should come in progression so children and young adults can use the information they have to climb to the next tier on the ladder. Porn is like trigonometry to a first grader. They will not understand it, they will get frustrated and some may even act out.
All things in their time. Porn is far more than simply sex. When a person is emotionally capable of making the distinction between fantasy and reality than they are ready to begin to understand that porn is an entertainment venue and not a 'how-to' course.

Ok I didn't make this post.. just a joke by friends... sorry.

LOl.. my rep has become so low = red. Oh well.

At the age of 7??

Ok all my life i have been a very 'natural' person.. so i was thinking of introducing sex to my child (assuming that i have one) in a natural way.

I think i will bring my child to my partner and i. I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so). Then i will show how natural the whole process is. Obviously I wont let the child anywhere near us, but just in a close enough distance to see what magic we are doing.

Whats your view on this??? I know it may sound sick.. but think of it in a friendly, natural and loving way.

i think this is what all parents should do.

I'm going to go with the "it sounds sick" option.

I think i will bring my child to my partner and i. I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so). Then i will show how natural the whole process is. Obviously I wont let the child anywhere near us, but just in a close enough distance to see what magic we are doing.

This is totally wrong and I'm very pleased you say you do not have kids, because if you start doing things like that in front of them, your *** and your girlfriend *** will hit the jail before you could blink.

What you are talking about is called:mad: CHILD ABUSE !!!! simple as that.

I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so).

Personally, I think a very bad idea.

Plus, I cannot say for sure, but I am 99% sure that this would be viewed as illegal in most states.

Anyone know for sure?

Yes I would assume it would be illegal, something along the lines of "exposing yourself to a minor" or "contributing to the deliquency of a minor" or something like that. And besides, it's sick and disgusting. :mad:

Ok all my life i have been a very 'natural' person.. so i was thinking of introducing sex to my child (assuming that i have one) in a natural way.

I think i will bring my child to my partner and i. I will then have sex with my partner in front of my child (id say... at the age of 7 or so). Then i will show how natural the whole process is. Obviously I wont let the child anywhere near us, but just in a close enough distance to see what magic we are doing.

Whats your view on this??? I know it may sound sick.. but think of it in a friendly, natural and loving way.

i think this is what all parents should do.I'd wait. The best thing to do is never lie to your kids, or force them to listen to you if they are not interested in a subject yet. Once their little minds are ready to formulate a question and express it, then it's time to tell them (or show them), but until then, you'd be giving them too much to work with in their little brains and they might take it wrong. I always waited until my child asked, then was ready for a truthful answer, because truth is the only thing that will give you respect later on - as once caught in a lie - they will never forget for the rest of their lives and then not trust those who they should trust and go to first - their parents.

Good Luck.



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Personally, I think a very bad idea.

Plus, I cannot say for sure, but I am 99% sure that this would be viewed as illegal in most states.

Anyone know for sure?

I think that this would be treated as illegal across the world, as you would be doing a sex act in front of minors, which in plain terms is "CHILD ABUSE" even if as was stated the kids would form no part of the act, law enforcement would have too act to remove the children for there own safety.

In the world today kids seem not to stay innocent long as they seem to grow before there years, so we should up hold to keep them aware of the world and dangers but at least let them keep there innocents, and having sex in front of them, I'm sorry that is just very wrong.

Yes it is illegal. Dss would take the child in a heart beat if they found out someone did that. That's very tramatizing for the child to see something like that also. They will learn about that on their own when they get older. They don't need to see their parents do it to understand it.

I am just worried that you might have kids, and you might really do this.. don't you realize that kids minds are like sponges.. and what you teach them and show them stays with them for life... and these kids {assuming you have any} would have to go through therapy after that ordeal.. do you really want to do that to your kids.. are you really that insane to abuse your children like that? Because that is what it is.. abuse...
Not to mention the poor woman you will drag into this.. what mother would allow this to happen? {assuming you find a woman that would let you do this to her child} she too will be in therapy! You are going to make some doctor real rich!

i am just worried that you might have kids, and you might really do this.. dont you realize that kids minds are like sponges.. and what you teach them and show them stays with them for life... and these kids {assuming you have any} would have to go through therapy after that ordeal.. do you really want to do that to your kids.. are you really that insane to abuse your children like that? because that is what it is.. abuse...
not to mention the poor woman you will drag into this.. what mother would allow this to happen? {assuming you find a woman that would let you do this to her child} she too will be in therapy! you are gonna make some doctor real rich!

It's best to wait until the child shows curiosity in a subject and then bring it up in an educational and caring way. That's what parents are for. They should provide proper guidance for their children as best as possible before they get the wrong information out in the streets. You can tell by reading several posts on 'motherhood' and 'relationships' that the young folks today don't trust their parents to ask the questions they should at home. Try to convince your child that you love him/her enough to broach any subject without blowing up, and gain their trust. At least that way you will have a certain amount of control over their future safety. Some things will always remain personal - remember your past and just try to prevent them from making the mistakes (if any) that you made, by thinking ahead and getting educated on the issues of this decade as much as possible.

By the way, this thread started with the subject of 'child porn' and somehow got off the subject a little - now it's into the education part - which should be handled by responsible adults in order to prevent those future perverts from exploiting our kids.

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I agree with these answers - let them learn themselves as they get older that's abuse what u said

Ok i didn't make this post.. just a joke by friends... sorry.

LOl.. my rep has become so low = red. Oh well.

Well I hope you told your friends that that's a pretty sick joke! People on this board really care about children! I'd be really angry with them if I were you... AND I'd change my password and not let anyone else know it. You're the only one who should be posting with your username. Otherwise it's like posing as someone else.

Anyway I'm glad it wasn't you who posted that.

I don't think a child should be introduced to anything pertaining to porn. I believe in my heart it will severely misguide them and they will not grow up the proper respect towards the subject. Ex... a young boy introduced to it early on may grow up to assume all women are loose and willing to submit to any and all sexual advances.. that more than one partner is okay... and most of all... does porn promote safe sex? Not to my knowledge you don't see people in porns wearing condoms do you? Wrong messege to kids.

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