My husband and I have been married for 3 months. We fight all the time. Last night we were fighting because I walked in my house and my husband was hitting my son (his step son) I told him that I can't live my life with my son being scared of him all the time. I try so hard to be nice but I can't take no more. He told me last night that he would not treat my son as he would treat his own son? Why is this. I have been having problems. I have been feeling like he is cheating he comes home late and this past Thursday it took him 2 hrs to get home from work. He is always treating me with disrespect. He tells me he loves me and that he would never cheat but I just have it in my gut that he is cheating. I love this man and everyone is telling me that I should leave him anyway because he hits my son (who is 2 years old). Then when I talk to my parents about coming home for a while to see if this works he tries telling me he is sorry.


I felt as though I needed to get the lovings from else where so I started talking to my ex fiancé and he was telling me how much he loved me and so forth. We never talked about sexual contact or anything. Although my ex told me that my husband is childish for hitting my son. I told my husband that I was talking to my ex again and he went bilistic and started all sorts of things. He told me that he can't trust me on the computer. Last night he snuck in the computer room just to make sure I was not talking to my ex which I was not doing. I told my husband that I wanted to TRY working things out but he keeps hitting my son and tells me that he is not going to stop punishing him like that. What do I do?

I think you need to get you and your two year old out of there! He shouldn't be violent to you or anyone. He needs help!

What ever his issues are, he can take that up with the therapist or he could end up behind bars. Have you considered counseling? I recommend you go to your parents for a while and if your husband can resolve his anger issues without striking a baby!

Are you still in that home? GET OUT! Take your son and whatever is on your backs and get out to safety. You can go from there. Your son cannot be, can never be, a punching bag for your husband. You cannot ever allow that to happen again. You are endangering your son's life not to mention your own life.

Your new husband has far too many issues that were never taken of before you got married. His lack of trust in you, his real feelings about your son, his insecurity and disrespect to you. You know this in your heart and you still fall for the "I'm sorry" routine.

Wake up, please wake up. Take you and your son to your parents and then deal with your husband. Do not ever go back into that home unless you have witnesses with you, preferably law enforcement. If you do protect yourself and your son, who will?

I don't care how much you love this guy, you need to love your defenseless son more and leave that sorry excuse for a man. If you don't want to leave your husband that's fine, but be a good mother and give your son to his father who I assume doesn't mistreat him. If you stay with a man who is abusing your child you are no better than he is and when he goes to jail for abusing your son and you know it's happening... you will be right there with him. This is not something you should even have to think or ask advice on.