I have a very serious question to ask. My girlfriend received surgery many years ago in her private area due to severe bleeding caused by her previous and abusive boyfriend. She has made a full recovery but has revealed to me she is extremely sensitive to pain. I am trying to be extremely careful and I communicate with her to tell me when she is uncomfortable. However, it is extremely difficult to have sex with her since she it's very easy to cause her pain from almost any type of deep penetration. My question is should I have her seek medical advice for this? What is the best approach? I'm trying very hard to be gentle and not sure what's the best approach. Even with great care and when there's no complaints of discomfort, the next day she might feel pain in her stomach and private area still. We're both over 21 in case you're wondering.

! She could have hyper sensitivity due to the abuse and it is a symptom that many woman have. The doctor will know the name of the occurrence. It can be a thining of the membran walls that cause the sensitivity. There is no real cure for it but talking to the doctor will help when it arises.

Many women after sex need to pee or they will get a non transferring infection. You might say it is an allergic reaction to the semen. Also very normal. Taking a Urinary tract infection pill can help with that also. (also talk to her doctor about it) You can try using condoms or pulling out so the semen does not enter her body.

If the problem does continue you may find other ways to help her and her you. It takes lots of love and communication in areas such as these. Read books to see other ways to help the both of you for sexual relief. Good luck to the both of you, and give her love.