Ok I Feel I Should Clarify A Few Things. I Have Been With My Husband For Almost 8 Years. Married For Only One. He Has Never Been Abusive To Me. Where The Abuse Comes In Is From His Family And Friends. His Family Wanted Him To Be With Someone Else And He Chose To Be With Me. I Was Always An Outcast. I Wasn't Invited To Holidays Or Events And Out Of Respect For Me And My Feelings He Didn't Attend Either. He Knew It Was Wrong The Way Iwas Treated Becuasee Of The Way They Also Treated Him. When His Family Started To Come Around I Welcomed Them With Open Arms.I Guess I Thought Finally They Had Accepted Me. My Husband Although, Warned Me, But At The Same Time If I Was Alienated Or Talked About He Didn't Defend Me. There Had Been A Few Occasions Of Shady Behavior On His Family's Part, But In Fear Of Being Outed Once Again I Let Him Handle It. Eventually I Grew Very Tired Of Being The'fixer' And Let The Chips Fall Where They May.when He Had His Stroke Things Changed Drastically. His Brother Started To Take Advantage Of My Kindness And Like A Sucker I Gave In. ( Money, Food, Household Goods, Anything.) It Was Hard Because We Were Next Door Nieghbors Also. I Finally Had Enough And Put My Foot Down. My Husband Was Near Death In The Hospital And I Have A Special Needs Child Also. His Brother Wanted Nothing To Do With Us As A Whole And Told Us That In So Many Words. Then To Top It Off His Friends Girl Thought I Wasn't Doing Enough And Began Gossiping About Me. I Was Only 25 At The Time And Was Taking Care Of A Sick Fiancé And Child Cooking Cleaning And Taking Care Of Everything Elese. I Felt So Alone And The Only People I Had Was ( My) People. None Of His Friends Nor Family Offered Any Help With His Recovery. It Was Only My Friends And Family. After He Was Well Enough We Were Married And Doing Ok. Life Has Been Hard, But Ive Tried To Adjust. While At A Birthday Party I Had A Few To Drink And Keep In Mind Im Very Social Especially When Im Drinking, I Saw A Mutual Friend Of His Brother And I And Said Hello And Gave A Kiss. Yes, I Did Kiss Him On The Lips But It Wasn't A Sexual Thing. My Husband Was Fine With That Because He Knows How I Am And Trusts Me. Weeks Later His Brother Started Telling Everyone Im A Whore Im Cheating On His Brother And Im A All Stemming From The Birthday Party. Now My Husband Knows And Is Telling Me Its Wrong And He's An , But Never Once Tell His Brother Anything. After I Confronted His Brother, His Brother Slams Me To The Ground And Still He Does Or Says Nothing. Now He Has Been Talking To His Brother And Kind of Hanging Out Somewhat. What The Hell Is That? Am I Crazy Or What? I Feel Really Betrayed. When Things Got Tough I Was The Only One There For Him And That's The Thanks I Get? Help Me Out Please. I Need To Hear Some Objective Opinions.

I would wonder why you even married a man who never provided emotional support. Now I can see where, after a stroke, his personality would change. But from what you said, he was offensive to begin with.

Now what about you? Why did his brother say you were sleeping around? Did he have proof? Has your behavior been beyond reproach? I guess even if you did sleep with someone, that is not my business and you did not deserve to be called names but where is all the verbal assaults stemming from?

What do you want to do about this? Are you prepared to endure this kind of abuse for the rest of your life? If you stay and nothing changes, then that is what it will be for you. When you stand up for yourself and get physically attacked, why aren't you calling the police? Assault is a crime. Slander is also a crime - the people who accuse you things you do not do. You can decide to take some action to protect yourself or you can do nothing and nothing will get better.

Have you considered contacting a women's abuse resource center? They have counselors, know where to find legal aid, they have shelters, all kinds of resources available to women going through abuse. Please find one of the places and go and talk to someone.

One of the major things wrong is your husband has absolutely no respect for you - as a woman and as his wife. He never did and I cannot see him having any respect for you now or later. You possibly do not respect yourself either. Or else you would not have married him and you would not have stayed. You have a great deal of work ahead of you. You do not deserve to be treated less than him. I really hope you reach out to the right source of help and information. Your life can change for the better. Your husband could too, but you cannot make him. You can do for yourself.

Good luck.

Time you walked from this relationship. Your husband seems to have no respect for you or your feelings

I have merged the two posts, since people reading post 2 would have no idea what was said in post one. Please do not start new threads to add more info

You knew what he was like (a wuss) before you married him. I'm wondering why you married him. He is being what he has always been. You need to decide if you want to continue to be abused or leave.
My advice is to leave. This man is not likely to change. He is too brow beaten by his family.
I wish you well.