My girlfriend and I had a great relationship. We would argue once in a while about small things, but who doesn't? Then it all came to a head one stupid drunken night by me...

I was at my friends house drinking and watching a movie.. she called me to say something odd... she called me to tell me that she was going to go out with someone for coffee but then backed out because she felt it might be a date... but only on her side. I was confused and told her we would talk about it later.

I drank and had a good night, then I called her after I left my friends house on my way home. I was very drunk... We proceeded to get in an argument, and I got really jelous and questioned her motives and I explained to her that she was trying to make me feel jelous... she got very offended by that. We hung up. THe next day, we went for a drive where we got all of our feelings out in the open, and in the end we made up and all seemed well.

SEEMED>>>>

Two days later she called to tell me that she thought we should break you p.. ( I was shocked and in disbelief) Obviously the first reaction is to fight it... I fought it and told her she was making a mistake. She told me over and over she "didnt know what to do" Then two days later, she came back to me and we got back together.. ALL SEEMED AMAZING AGAIN!

We hung out a couple times, went out for dinner, everything was pretty good. Then two days later.. she called me again to say the same thing" I dont think we should see each other" Her reason was that she needed space and was confused.

Ever since it has sucked.. horribly. 6 days ago.. and 4 days after she broke up with me for the second time.. she invited me over to her house and made me pizza.. we sat and talked for an hour on per porch... I left and she hugged me for a good five minutes. I left feeling optimistic.

I then started having the huge urge to have her back... I asked her to take her out driving on Thursday (this thursday) she said, yeah that could work... but I also asked her to hang out Monday night (last night) to tell her my feelings. I got dressed up, put her fav cologn on and spilled my heart to her for an hour. She understood and listened, but in the end she said "i dont think we should see each other or talk to each other right now" I sat stunned...

And what proceede today was the worst day of emotion I've ever had. I couldn't sleep and I made a big mistake by sending her a huge amount of text messages in the middle of the night... she woke up angry at them. And scoffed at a couple statements I made about her making a mistake.

I then had some things I forgot to say to her I felt needed to be said.. I called her and she agreed to it prior.. I said them, and I appologized to her, and exclaimed I don't want things to be bad between us. I think she agreed, but was still upset over my "mistake "comment again.

So now I sit here tonight in a lot of pain... we dated for 6 months and it was the best thing going. Even the night before she dumped me she said "i can see us together forever andrew"

So my question is tonight.. what do I DO? I do want her back, and tried last night... what is the best course of action right now? Should I go no contact? I mean even as recently as Saturday she texted me saying " i miss our daily contact" etc and she "cares about me deeply" and "i miss you terribly"

What should I do??

Leave her alone unless you want to play emotional yo-yo. You dated for six months, it may have been good while it lasted but it sounds to me like for her, the thrill is gone. Which is probably why she called you and told you about this other guy.
If you want her back, that's your choice, but tell her to leave you alone until she makes up her mind what she wants to do.

Leave her alone unless you want to play emotional yo-yo. You dated for six months, it may have been good while it lasted but it sounds to me like for her, the thrill is gone. Which is probably why she called you and told you about this other guy.
If you want her back, that's your choice, but tell her to leave you alone until she makes up her mind what she wants to do.

She's a very honest person.. and her reason she told me about the guy was that she felt it was right to tell me and that I should know. I called her on it and wow.. I wish I could reverse that night.

The reason she even considered it should tell you something. She is probably ready to move on.

The reason she even concidered it should tell you something. She is probably ready to move on.

But that's the thing... that was just after I got back from my trip.. after I came back from being away four days, she leaped into my arms, wrote me cards while I was gone, and our relationship was the best it had ever been... then the fight happened.

She even admitted that!

Well something is wrong.
Either stay there and do the up and down thing, or tell her to leave you alone until she figures out what she wants.

Well something is wrong.
Either stay there and do the up and down thing, or tell her to leave you alone until she figures out what she wants.

Well, today I was sitting at starbucks and apprently she walked by across the street.

I didn't see her. But she sent a text message asking if it was me. THen asked if I was OK. etc.

And?
I think you should move on. You're not going to get over it in a week but you'll get over it.

And?
I think you should move on. You're not going to get over it in a week but you'll get over it.

Unfortunately I'm still in love with her.

If you want her back then don't contact her and she may come back. Many girls are like this and I've heard what your saying many times. She has lost that spark not as exciting. When your gone she misses youuand wants you back now that your available she doesn't.

Just get over it dude you were only together for six months it sounds obvious to me that she probably cheated on you and she wants to keep you at arms length in case somebody new doesn't work out. And by the way girls say "i can see us together forever" with just about evry boyfriend they have so get over her.

Unfortunately i'm still in love with her.
The fact that you're in love with her is not going to change the circumstance. See it for what it is and move on.

The fact that you're in love with her is not going to change the circumstance. See it for what it is and move on.

Whatever... every relationship is differnet. You people aren't giving me adivce.. just clichés... this .

"only six months"

Well off, I spent basically every day for that six months with her.. I know what she's like.

Whatever... every relationship is differnet. you people arent giving me adivce.. just cliches.... this .

"only six months"

well off, i spent basically every day for that six months with her.. i know what shes like.
We are giving you advice. You just want some magic thing to fix your hurt. There is no such thing. You cannot get over a person in a week or two.
You cannot really know a person in six months either. You may love her, but that does not mean you really know her. At any rate, find other things to do with your time. Don't allow her to play yo yo with your feelings.
If she calls you don't answer, if she sees you and speaks, say hello and let that be that. Otherwise she will suck you back in and you will go through all of this again.
Bottom line advice: Don't call her text her speak to her. Leave her alone. If she tries to get with you, tell her you have moved on. Believe me, you will better off in the end.

We are giving you advice. You just want some magic thing to fix your hurt. There is no such thing. You cannot get over a person in a week or two.
You cannot really know a person in six months either. You may love her, but that does not mean you really know her. At any rate, find other things to do with your time. Don't allow her to play yo yo with your feelings.
If she calls you don't answer, if she sees you and speaks, say hello and let that be that. Otherwise she will suck you back in and you will go through all of this again.
Bottom line advice: Don't call her text her speak to her. Leave her alone. If she tries to get with you, tell her you have moved on. Believe me, you will better off in the end.

I agree. I was in a relationship for a year before and when it ended I thought it was the end of the world but eventually you get over it.

P.S. Don't let yourself be used.