View Full Version : First loves! What did you learn? And what did you do wrong?
Jiser
Sep 24, 2007, 05:41 PM
I found this, which perfectly sums up my opinion: It Made Me Older and Wiser. Sometimes first love teaches us a thing or two -- and not necessarily lessons I wanted to learn.
First Loves: Why We Never Forget Them (http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems/lnsbreakingup/0,,7dm,00.html)
So what did you learn? Were you glad? And where did it all go wrong. Do you talk today?
I don't and you feel so much stroger!
GlindaofOz
Sep 24, 2007, 05:47 PM
Hmmm. I learned that when someone shows you who they are believe it! With that being said I wouldn't take back one minute of it. Falling in love for the first time is pretty incredible even with all the bumps and scraps and growing pains that come along with it.
No, we don't talk today. I don't even know where he lives!
RaineAndrews
Sep 24, 2007, 06:02 PM
I learned so much from my first love. I realized I was controlling... stemming from my lack of security and constant rejection. It was hard learned though, as I lost her over it. I though it was everyone else's fault but my own and over the course of a year, I realized it was both of our blunderings, and that I had been horrible to her. I spent that time away from other relationships so that I could learn myself better and control that aspect of myself. Today, I'm not perfect, but she taught me the right way to love, even if she doesn't know it. And now, my first child is going to be born in but a few days with a wife who I love very much (obviously a different, but by no means a worse person). I wouldn't take back that relationship, because I learned so much from it. I talk to my first love from time to time, but its just awkward for the most part. Knowing how manipulative I was to her.
nkychic
Sep 24, 2007, 06:09 PM
I think that the most important thing I learned from my "first love" is that not every relationship was built to last, but instead made to pave a path towards your future.
ConfusedandLost
Sep 25, 2007, 05:26 AM
I learned that nothing is forever and that wonderful feeling deep inside of you when you are truly "in love". I also realized that all of the mistakes I made along the way were small steps in moving me towards that soulmate that is still out there. Yes, we do still talk... she has a wonderful life right now. I am a much stronger person now due to her and the few others that have entered my life for that fleeting moment...
armywife74
Sep 25, 2007, 06:41 AM
I learned I can't trust men. I am glad that it didn't work out cause I won't be were I am today if I stood with that individual. It all went wrong when I was 3 years older and we were in high school and he moved to a different town.. same state though. And yea we talk today through email.. Miss him like heck but Im very in love with the man I married
LearningAsIGo
Sep 25, 2007, 06:49 AM
I learned that a "First Love" is not necessarily your "Last Love"
If I would have married my first love, I'd be living in a basement surrounded by his band mates and liquor bottles. Luckily, my husband is the last love I'll ever need. ;)
smoothy
Sep 25, 2007, 07:26 AM
I've learned over the years that I really didn't have a clue back then when it came to love and relationships. Thank god I had enough common sense to not get married back then. I know I would have been divorced in a few short years at most.
But most of all I learned that no matter how attached I got to someone that they don't change and I learned progressively that what I first thought was love was only infatuation. I learned to spot character traits I didn't like in people and learned to wait until I really knew when I found "the one". And trust me, the first couple times I thought I did, I learned more about myself and life than I thought I knew before. And I found out how hard it is to know what true love is from infatuation when you are younger.