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hollyxxx
Sep 24, 2007, 12:57 AM
I don't no what to do with myself I'm a total mess I've not long got over depreshon and then I met this guy we both fell for each othere really quick we clicked it was amazing I when he tld me I felt houting it from the roof tops and I felt the same way he's the niceist guy I have ever met then out of no where his ex turns up at his work I don't no this I new there was something up that day I didn't hear from him till 11 at night and that was a message saying that he can't bear to hear me cry or see me and that his ex was pregnant and that he can't ask me to stand bye him and that I deserve better and evan though he needs me in his life he can't do this to me now because he went strait offf line he didn't give me the chance to talk to him and that upset me so much I had a panic attact on the phone and my friend had to calm me down before I had a asma attac I sent him a messsag but he int been online so I text him saying would wouldent have to ask I would stand by him throu anthing and that ilove him and I no he loves me and the we need to talk when you are ready please text me
But it's the 4th day now and I'm a total messss if he did get back in contact ye that's great but if he don't I don't no how I'm going to go about getting over him I love him so much and I feal like there is a big gap missing in me

Can anyone help
Ps I'm dislexic so sorry about the spellling mistakes

Clough
Sep 24, 2007, 02:33 AM
I do feel sorry for you and don't want you to hurt. But, texting and/or emailing someone really isn't the way to go in situations like this. Please TALK to him. Call him on the phone or show up where he works or is or whatever and do so with dignity and respect for yourself and him. But, it sounds like you need to wait a few days in order to even talk to him personally.

When you do get to speak with him, in person or on the phone, listen to what he has to say and then THINK about how you are going to respond. Take your time in doing so. There isn't any rush. Walk away if you need to and tell him that you will have to think about what he has just said, if you need to. This isn't a life and death situation.

He obviously is more than a little upset because of the news that his ex is pregnant. He needs to deal with that himself without the burden of having to deal with your wants also right now because of the way that he has reacted to communication with you. Please give him time. Give him some time and space, please.

I am hopeful that others will also come along to offer there advice as well as support.

LEILA007
Sep 24, 2007, 05:29 AM
You try to be the pregnant one for a moment in this situation and see how you may feel. Maybe he wants to try things with her for the baby unfair but this is life. Let it be for now , remember chances are that she will keep the baby and do you want to be involved with that situation? Do you think that once she founds out he has a girlfriend she will back off? Think again, you are setting yourself up for the drama of a lifetime. Also if she just turned up pregnant means they had sex not too long ago. Let him deal with this . U really don't want to be in the middle of this..

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